i don't want to be a helicopter

Califlorida

i had bad form on the playground today.

i pretty much hovered over dd the whole time. helped her do every little thing.  worried when she wouldn't hold on to the swing.  freaked when she tried to crawl under the jungle gym in a tiny space, face first in the sand. and then yelled at some kids who threw sand nearby.  dh tried to bench me.  he told me to sit on the wall in the "nervous people" section.

*KatieH*

This will be me too... it's hard letting them be independent and accepting that they will get hurt and it's ok. 

brandonsfuturewife07

uhhh i will join you.

i let DS sit at the little tables & chairs at the pedi's office last week, and i was so afraid he was going to fall sideways off the chair since he feet couldn't touch the ground and he isn't 100% on walking yet. 

i couldn't decide if i should sit next to him in an itty bitty chair?  so i did that for a while, and then i was on the edge of my big people chair jumping at every little movement...  he wa sjust banging on his book, happy as a clam, forgot i was even there.    i didn't think i would be so nervous about a chair. 

mrs_harper

I am totally a helicopter. When we take Eris to the park I follow right behind her making sure she is ok. Then again, she like to climb on the big kid castle and slide down the big kid slide, so it's completely warranted.

And it's also warranted when she's just running around in the big field on the playground completely oblivious and no one else is even there, but I still follow two steps behind her.

LoriFalce

I have hovered, but I don't feel to bad about it. The one time I gave him some room to roam in the completely empty park, where he was chasing some fairly tolerant ducks, he found the one teeny gate that I had missed and which was standing wide open, leading directly to a busy road, and veered toward it running at full tilt.

 

Princess_Ariel

Wow, I always thought people judged me as a bad mom if I didn't do these things, not as a helicopter parent - not that I do them b/c I'm afraid of what ppl will think, but rather for my child's safety.  There were some kids pretending to kick and push DD one day, and at first I didn't say or do anything, so finally I went over to them and whispered, "I just thought I should warn you to be careful, because she'll push you back if you hurt her," then I went back to my seat and just watched carefully.

hazelhickory

i am a total helicopter. i realize it's bad to hover but i can't help myself.  i need to let go a bit and let him be more independent but i just think everything is a potential hazard for him hurting himself.

kelbrian

This is me. But it's out of necessity. One, she is still very young to be wandering around by herself, and two, she has no fear. She will climb onto equipment that is higher up off the ground and then just walk straight off of it and fall right on her face. No thanks. I'd rather hover than her break a body part or get another bloody nose. She also steals snacks and toys from other kids, so I don't feel like dealing with crying upset children. 

Don't feel too bad She's still really little.