my gma's reaction to my pregnancy

LestaMarie

So I called my 69 year old grandma up the other day to tell her she was going to become a great-grandma for the 4th time, because I'm pg with my third child (my sister also has one baby).  Her response?  "Oh, honey.  I feel sorry for you."

Uhm...WTF?  This from a woman who had five children.  I love the woman, but honestly...she says some of the most ridiculous stuff sometimes.  She did offer a lame congratulations toward the end of the conversation, but it still rubbed me the wrong way.

LizLovesJason

Congratulations from me!! I'm also pregnant with #3, and I've gotten a lot of negative feedback from moms of 3 about how hard it's going to be. The other day, one mom of 3 actually said, "Oh, you'll be fine....The third one is the easiest!" I felt like hugging her!

I'm sure it won't be easy, but I believe it will be worthwhile....I just wish people could keep their negative comments to themselves!

lsufan

Congrats to you! ?

And sorry your grandma had a lame reaction. ?That's so rude to tell someone you feel sorry for them when it comes to their children. ?I've had complete strangers tell me they're so sorry for me when they find out all three of mine are boys. ?WTF? ?I'm happy about it. ?Why do they think I deserve their pity? ?

My mom was happy about our 3rd pregnancy when we told her, but then she just kept focussing on hard it was going to be for me because they were so close together. ?It's frustrating that she can be so negative.

tammy79

I'm sorry she reacted that way, we have not told DH's mom, because we know she wont have anything nice to say, she's 73. I think it's an age thing for them. 

emiliemadison

Honestly, I'm still trying to get over the fact that your grandmother is only 69!!! I'm sorry she was so rude. But it sounds like her comment might be par for the course for her, so try to remember that she's a loon and be happy

hopefulmom

Personally I think 3 close in age would be hard.  I have 4 but it's like I had 2 families with 2 kids...KWIM...because of such a large age difference.  We were just discussing this with a friend this morning.  She had 3 all close together (they are adult kids now).  She said the 3rd one was easiest when they were little because she just let everything go.  She partially blames her "let it go" attitude on how he turned out (not good...in a prison sort of way).  Not saying that happens often...but it did to her.

I think older people do know much more than someone who has not had teenagers.  Maybe your grandma was remember how hard it was for her if she had 5...once they got older.  Your grandma is YOUNG at 69.

LestaMarie

Thanks everyone.    We are happy...and I'm definitely not expecting three kids to be a total picnic all the time.  But DD will be almost 5, and DS will have just turned 3, so they won't be THAT close together.  I just thought it was kind a bummer thing to hear from my grandmother, even though she does have the experience, etc. 

LOL, yeah, she is pretty young.  She had my mother (her first) at 19; my mom had me at 22; I had Ava when I was 24.  So she was 41 when I was born.  I bet she'd look a lot younger if she didn't smoke 2+ packs a day...

breezee_bean

sorry that hurt your feelings.  Many congrats on your pregnancy=)

sarahjared

Not exactly the reaction I would have wanted either.  Try to forget about it and enjoy the pg.  Congrats!