Laughing While Fighting.

myrall

So, last night, Rob and I got into it over something completely stupid. We yelled a little, cursed a little, and threw in some friendly gestures for effect.

And then we cracked ourselves up. And it got me thinking.

Whenever we blow off a little steam at each other, we almost always end up laughing. And it's the kind of laughing where we can't look at each other because we start laughing harder. It's a little hard to explain. (Don't get me wrong, there have also been some big, nasty fights that haven't ended so pleasantly .)

I know that some fighting can be constructive in a relationship. It gets things out in the open and keeps them from festering. But laughing? I figure we both just get so uncomfortable with the situation that we start giggling out of sheer nervousness. When things end this way, we usually consider it our resolution and kiss and make up. I realize this sounds completely idiotic. 

How do you kiss and make up?

tracigator

Actually, it doesn't sound idiotic to me at all.  It's how we kiss and make up too.  We usually yell at each other and then I stop speaking to him and give him some dirty looks.  After a few minutes of us both cooling off, he'll usually do whatever it takes to make me laugh (and I mean whatever it takes) and after that, we'll talk everything out and kiss and make up.  From the very beginning, we agreed that we would communicate with each other and I credit him with having the patience to teach me how to communicate without fear of judgment.  I've had some bad relationships in the past where things were thrown back in my face if I tried to talk about stuff.  Anyway, we have a lot of laughter in our marriage and I wouldn't have it any other way!

jodylynn

We do this a lot too.  Mostly because we are like huh? really?  that was a dumb spat

mrsd0907

This is pretty much exactly how we have arguments. One of us will end up laughing at something completely stupid the other said and we'll end up talking it out more after we've stopped laughing (usually with tears in our eyes from laughing so hard). Last night we had a spat because I told him I didn't want onions on my burger and wendys put them on anyway but it was his fault. Seriously, the dumbest arguments!

apriljensmith

Well that makes me fell better... sometimes we do that too. It starts with some heavy sarcasm and just lightens it up a bit. I love the expression "picking and choosing your battles". And after reading others replies it seems to be indication of a good relationship!?

K&P414

Sadly, my husb. and I aren't very good fighters.  He fights like a seven year old and says a bunch of meaningless garbage that thankfully goes in one ear and out the other.  I, on the other hand, say what's on my mind and it usually comes out hurtful.  He HATES to be criticized.  And then if I realize that it's a silly argument and laugh it off, he's totally offended.  This is one area of our marriage when I am totally the asskisser.  Except for about twice a month I have a full on crybaby meltdown and he gets me right when I have one of those moments.

rara855

I am glad we are not the only ones. I love to argue and B just thinks it's cute when I get all worked up. He starts laughing and it's a chain reaction. I love it's this way between us. 

Yayy for Laughing fighting.