How often do you and DH do date night?

2-Step

Just curious how often you and DH are planning schedule a date night and also how often you think is ok for each of you to go out with your friends. We are talking about it and thinking once per month for each of us to go out while the other babysits (DH has a poker night and I have girls night) and maybe once per month for date night until he gets a little older. Do you have a set schedule for how often you go out with or without DH?

babyjoy09

We don't have anything set but we're both home bodies so most of our date nights are at home. If a movie comes out that we want to see then i guess we'll do dinner and movie then. My bf is in a Madden league so i guess that will be like his night out and i usually invite my friends over to hang out her lol  

katiekate1974

Most of my friends have babies AJ's age anyway, so we tend to do stuff with the babies. We don't have a set timeframe for when we each go out alone, but we understand that it's important, so I don't see either of us giving the other a hard time--we just play it by ear. Our goal is to do a date night once a week--even if it's just coffee. But we don't have a regular sitter, so we try to get together for lunch when possible. Anything just to have some time w/ each other.  We actually got a really long date this weekend--dinner, dessert, AND a movie. Almost 6 whole hours! It was awesome! Thanks mom & dad!!!

2-Step

katiekate1974:

Most of my friends have babies AJ's age anyway, so we tend to do stuff with the babies. We don't have a set timeframe for when we each go out alone, but we understand that it's important, so I don't see either of us giving the other a hard time--we just play it by ear. Our goal is to do a date night once a week--even if it's just coffee. But we don't have a regular sitter, so we try to get together for lunch when possible. Anything just to have some time w/ each other.  We actually got a really long date this weekend--dinner, dessert, AND a movie. Almost 6 whole hours! It was awesome! Thanks mom & dad!!!

That's nice that most of your friends have kids. Very few of mine do and none of DH's do. I totally agree that we both need our time away. His friends constantly plan bachelor nights, from poker to video games to fishing. He understands the need to be home, but I think having a set schedule helps him. He can blame it on me and say we agreed on one night per month. Plus, if we say one night, it will inevitably turn into at least 2-3!

ceg2483

Our parents live about 2 hours away, so we get date night when we have time to make the commute (every other mother or so, we go for a weekend).  I'm the first of my friends to have babies so I'd feel kind of odd asking one of them to babysit.

That being said, we're both in grad/professional school and my LO is in daycare on MWF afternoons, so we have a couple of babyfree hours those days that we can spend with each other if we can get all of our school stuff done in time.

We try to each do a babyfree activity once a weekend, even if it's only for an hour or two.  I go shopping or to the farmer's market and he watches her.  My DH is great about that, if I haven't been able to get out of the house he actively encourages me to find something to do!