D&C tomorrow: nervous and anxious.

redstars93

My sister told me that it's hard mental wise but not pain wise. I'm really dreading it.

While I know the baby is gone, I am not ready for it to be *gone*. Does that make sense?

This sucks.

Nikki78

I'm sorry. With my most recent loss I tried to do it naturally and it sucked. I ended up having a d&c after all. I wish I would have just done that in the first place.

It does suck. I'm sorry.

amalloy1

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I had my 2nd d&c yesterday and I have to say, although it is very emotional, I am so relieved that it's over.

I'll say a prayer for you...

vkbaby09

I'm so sorry for you loss and htat you have to have a d&c on top of it.  I understand your feelings - you're probably still a little bit in denial (which is a totally acceptable and normal way to respond to this).  It's hard when you know for sure they're gone when they're out of your body.  I hope it goes well for you and I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

BAM_2780

Good luck tomorrow.  I'm sorry you have to go through with it.  You are in my thoughts.  *hug

travers081906

I am so sorry for your loss... ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))) I know what you are going through. I just had my first d&c a couple of weeks ago...I was never ready for my baby to be gone... never... some days I'm still not ready. It really sucks =(   At first you feel like it is the end of the world... but day by day it does get better with time.. You do have those days where all your emotions hit you in the face... I've had many of those already. Also... don't let anyone push you with your grieving... do it yourself, do it your way! My DH didn't understand why I was still grieving after a week n a half, so I had to explain it to him... So that may happen to you too.

As far as physically, everyone's body heals differently. Mine took some time and also my Doctor gave me pain meds for the cramps afterwards. You may want to consider asking your doctor about it, just to have them just in case.

If you have any questions make sure to ask your doctor before you go in for surgery, even if you think it sounds stupid or your doubting yourself. I hope you have a quick and well recovery, will be thinking and praying for you.

If you ever need to vent...post or PM me... we will always listen and lend advice or a cyber shoulder to cry on. Or if you need to laugh!  ((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

ezbakejess

I'm so sorry for your loss  

I know it's almost impossible,but try not to think about it all night. For me, the anticipation was almost the worst part. My d&c was physically very easy. I don't know if they're putting you completely out for it, but the most surprising thing for me was how sore my throat was from being intibated. I had very minor cramping for 2 days, and spotting for 5 and that was it. I almost felt like I should have had more physical pain to justify what had happened.

You said it perfectly - it sucks. There's really no better way to describe it.

Take care of yourself. I hope everything goes smoothly for you tomorrow. 

julie_mc

You are so right. It does suck. I was in your shoes exactly 2 weeks ago .... and still wish the baby wasn't "gone".  I hope you can relax somehow this evening.  I am so sorry for your loss.

hopingwaiting

GL tomorrow.  The physical part is not bad, but the emotional part is very tough.  Also know that for me and others the first follow up visit after D&C was also very emotional, since you'll be "done" seeing the OB and it is hard to see all the still pg women in the waiting room.  All of this things make the loss more real.