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HELP!!! boy name fighting with husband bad
ok so my husband's real name is Clifton Aaron...but he goes by Randy since a child..long story....we are having a boy..had great girl names planned but no boy names really bc he kept annoying me saying we would name him Clifton Aaron JR....hell mofo no....I can not and will not name my child that horrible name and my parents r pissed saying def not as well as everyone else....
the name sucks...is gay....doesnt even fit our nationalities (italian and puerto rican)...and he does not even go by it..I have explained it all to him but he says thats what we r naming him..and he swears thats the end of it...i seriously hate him so much bc of it lately..i know we have time but I would rather any other name besides that combo OR ANY VARIAITION of it..
What do u suggest?????? i want Justin or Anthony or anythingggg normal and child friendly...something that he will not get mad fun of..i am a teacher and I kno how hard names hit kids
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Re: HELP!!! boy name fighting with husband bad
You could be like my grandma and steal the birth certificate before your Dh has a chance to get to it. I'm just kidding, but she really did do that. They had a horrible marriage and I wouldn't suggest you doing that.
I like both the boy names you like. Talk to your DH and tell him why you don't want to name your kid that. That's pretty awful if he expects you to name your son a name you hate. It's your kid too.
did you really say its "gay?!" anyway...i will disregard the offensive nature of that comment and say this...
you need to explain to him that it isn't just up to him. you are the one pushing the baby out and you "certainly" have some input here.
maybe make a list of names that you like and let him choose from that list. that way he's technically picking the name. if that doesn't work, i would tell him that theres no way in hell you're naming your son that...either he can help you choose something that you both like or you'll pick it yourself.
sounds like you have more problems between you than choosing a name! good luck to you!
I don't know if this requires a response. Maybe just by you re-reading your words you will realize the 2 of you probably have other issues besides naming the baby. Good luck and I hope you both grow up a little in the mean time and open a better line of communication within your relationship.
Also, it's much more your husband's decision than your parent's. You have to find a way to work together.
No one said it was my parents decision...but they as well as his friends and mine when asked about his choice said def no..don't do that to your son...and we have a fine relationship other than this name issue thanks for caring..lol...you know sometimes asking for helpful responses on here only makes things worse... sorry I even asked for anyone's help...
I realize you are upset and hormonal, but please try writing more in complete sentences and less in im slang and ellipses. It gives your post a tone of childishness and flying off the handle and I find myself sympathizing with your poor gay husband.
You don't have to like the name or use it, but I'm not sure why Clifford is gay. A big red dog, maybe. But not a big red d***.
Now if you're husband's name was D**k...that'd be different.
I personally like your husband's name. I don't like juniors, though... my little brother is a Jr. and he's had all sorts of credit report and other logistical nightmares due to being named after my dad.
Anyway, good luck working it out. If we don't agree on a name it gets vetoed. Simple as that.
What about using Aaron? Plenty of children have that name. Aaron Justin, you could call him AJ.
This. And ease up on those question marks, ok?
I must have missed the "gay names" section of the bump. Can someone point me towards it?
"This ribbon has been reported." - lovesnina
This.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
You would be surprised to know how many people still call things "gay". I hear it often. It doesn't particularly offend me, but it just surprises me.
Babydoll, chill. Your husband doesn't have a bad name. What about offering a list of names you like and using his first or middle name as a middle name?
Your parents really don't even need to be involved in this dicussion.
Maybe you should take the "I hate your name" out of it and focus more on the, "I want our son to have his own name, own identity, etc." THat way it is not against your DH so much as for something for your DS.
I don't get the whole jr. thing. Is your husband some sort of royalty or something? A Kennedy? Probaby not. lol. No need to name the kid after him. Give the kid his own name.
Just set him down and let him know how you feel about having the baby named after him.. just let him know you want your baby to have his own name..
And as for everyone that is throwing a fit about you saying gay, where I am from people call stuff gay all the time. Is it so it doesn't offend gay people? I have three gay best friends who call things GAY more than any straight person so i'm kindof confused as to why everyone made such a big deal out of things.. will someone please make that clear to me?
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It was the tone. ??
When used in such a way, it is meant to be offensive and cruel. You never know who is listening to you or who you could hurt. When I hear anyone use that word in that way, I kindly ask them not to. This girl isn't getting it.
Do not argue with DH... not going to do you any good if you are hurting his pride and insulting him.
Have great sex and in your lazy afterglow...calmly explain that you want the baby to have his own identity, that DH does not particuarly care for his own name and compromise.
Tell you you would LOVE to honor him by giving baby boy his daddys initials. Then come up with a "C" first name and an "A" middle name.
Caleb Anthony, Cameron Allen, Curtis Andrew... etc, etc