We have a wedding to attend soon which says "Black Tie" on the reception card. The reception venue is a restaurant on the waterfront - nothing crazy fancy. Would you have your man rent a tux for the wedding? We're at a loss on what to do. I think he should just wear a dark suit and dark tie, but I'm curious about your opinions. (I'll be wearing a strapless summer dress, so my hubby and I would look so silly standing next to eachother.)
Re: NBR: Wedding Invite says "Black Tie"
Dark suit and tie would be perfectly fine. That's what I would do.
Yeah, I thought about that, too, but none of my other nicer dresses fit, and this summer dress is long - goes to my feet - and it clearly shows a baby bump, so I'm hoping that will be ok.
This.
I would say have him wear a nice suit with tie.
On my wedding invitations we put black tie. To keep some family members from wearing certian things (DH's side of the family will wear what they went to bed in if you let them). Our wedding was at a Catholic Church & Reception at a Country Club.
It's at 3 PM in the afternoon on a Saturday.
Yep - it's at Sequoia!
you aren't going to wear a maxi dress are you? I have a suggestion, check out ebay (seriously) they have a ton of nice maternity cocktail dresses on there slightly worn that you could get at a great price.
Yes, I was planning on it, why? Mine is all black, and is floor-length. I would wear a CZ necklace with it. It that too casual??
Black tie means TUXEDO - absolutely, no exceptions. Women have a little more wiggle room, but the most acceptable attire is an evening gown.
He should not wear a suit - even a high end one - he needs to rent a tux. And, you need to get yourself an evening gown.
Sorry, probably not what you wanted to hear, but that's the DEFINITION of black tie.
A maxi dress sounds too casual for this, depending on the fabric, of course. If it's a cotton, linen, or a blend of either (or both) of those, it's definitely too casual. I think you need to bite the bullet and get a dress.
These days, a dark suit is quite appropriate for black tie; just make sure he has a lovely tie and a pocket square. If he has a shirt with French cuffs, he should wear that, and make sure he has some wonderful cufflinks.
I don't blame you for not wanting to rent a tux... I wouldn't hear of it at our wedding... And sorry for being gross, but who knows what kind of bodily fluids are on those things, between randy groomsmen and high school prom-goers? Rented clothing grosses me out! Also, it ALWAYS looks rented & it never fits right. If your DH has an impecabally fitted suit, he should for sure wear that!
Agree with this 100%. Black tie means Black tie. Although a pain....if you're accepting the invitation and will be attending then you need to honor the couples request and rent a tux. Unless it is black tie OPTIONAL you should rent a tux.
I agree with pp - a strapless summer dress is not appropriate for black tie.
I think it would be best to call the bride/groom or other guests to discuss. You don't want DH to be the only one not in a tux.
For the most part, when people say black tie, they really mean black tie.