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NBR: Wedding Invite says "Black Tie"

We have a wedding to attend soon which says "Black Tie" on the reception card.  The reception venue is a restaurant on the waterfront - nothing crazy fancy.  Would you have your man rent a tux for the wedding?  We're at a loss on what to do.  I think he should just wear a dark suit and dark tie, but I'm curious about your opinions.  (I'll be wearing a strapless summer dress, so my hubby and I would look so silly standing next to eachother.)

Re: NBR: Wedding Invite says "Black Tie"

  • I've never been to a black tie wedding before, but I think a dark suit and tie would be perfect acceptable. That's what a lot of tuxes look like now, anyway!
  • I think a black/dark suit with a dark tie would be perfectly fine. No need for tuxedos. I went to a black tie wedding and my hubby wore a suit but a dark one and blended right in. ?The strapless summer dress on the other hand may be a little under dressed for black tie though if it were anyone else wearing it, but you are pregnant so wear whatever fits and is not as expensive!?
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  • Dark suit and tie would be perfectly fine. That's what I would do.

  • For black tie I would definitely wear a fancy cocktail dress and DH would have to wear either a very formal black suit or a tux. I think its incredibly rude for guests to ignore the dress code requests on a wedding invite. I remember being a little offended when a friend of mine wore a casual pant suit to our wedding when the invite said "semi-formal attire" on it.
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  • Black suit and black tie will be fine but I wouldn't wear a summer dress to a black tie reception.
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  • i would let him wear a black suit and a tie. i am sure not every will rent a tuxedo. just as long as you both look good! and as a preggo woman im sure you will!! good luck
  • I think a dark suit sounds perfect.  I do wonder whether women will be wearing evening/cocktail dresses, though?
  • I think a dark suit would be fine.  I would probably try to find a more formal dress - not an easy task, especially when pregnant, but if it's black-tie, a summer dress may not be "fancy" enough.
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  • here black tie means tux for men and cocktail attire for women. A black suit with a fancy tie might be acceptable, depending on the venue but a sun dress definitely is not.
  • imagetklmechris98:
      The strapless summer dress on the other hand may be a little under dressed for black tie though if it were anyone else wearing it, but you are pregnant so wear whatever fits and is not as expensive!

    Yeah, I thought about that, too, but none of my other nicer dresses fit, and this summer dress is long - goes to my feet - and it clearly shows a baby bump, so I'm hoping that will be ok.

  • What time of day is it? And what day of the week? Saturday night, I say go for the tux. Any other day or time I think a dark suit and tie is fine. Also, it depends on where in the country. Black tie in NYC is much different than black tie in L.A.
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  • imageVuja_de:
    Black suit and black tie will be fine but I wouldn't wear a summer dress to a black tie reception.

    This.

  • Are you in DC?  I am from there, originally.  Is the wedding reception on the Georgetown waterfront?
  • I agree that what you have planned for him sounds acceptable.  Hell, get him a black tie to wear with his suit. :)  My brother put black tie on his invitations to ensure that people would not show up in jeans to his wedding.  I never figured of any of our guests that anyone would show up in jeans, but yep, some one did. Oh well!  Just wear the suit!  Have a great time!
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  • I would say have him wear a nice suit with tie.

    On my wedding invitations we put black tie. To keep some family members from wearing certian things (DH's side of the family will wear what they went to bed in if you let them). Our wedding was at a Catholic Church & Reception at a Country Club.

  • imageAutumn_bride2b:
    What time of day is it? And what day of the week? Saturday night, I say go for the tux. Any other day or time I think a dark suit and tie is fine. Also, it depends on where in the country. Black tie in NYC is much different than black tie in L.A.

    It's at 3 PM in the afternoon on a Saturday.

  • imagegalwaybabe:
    Are you in DC?  I am from there, originally.  Is the wedding reception on the Georgetown waterfront?

    Yep - it's at Sequoia!

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    imagetklmechris98:
      The strapless summer dress on the other hand may be a little under dressed for black tie though if it were anyone else wearing it, but you are pregnant so wear whatever fits and is not as expensive!

    Yeah, I thought about that, too, but none of my other nicer dresses fit, and this summer dress is long - goes to my feet - and it clearly shows a baby bump, so I'm hoping that will be ok.

    you aren't going to wear a maxi dress are you? I have a suggestion, check out ebay (seriously) they have a ton of nice maternity cocktail dresses on there slightly worn that you could get at a great price.

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  • imageVuja_de:
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    imagetklmechris98:
      The strapless summer dress on the other hand may be a little under dressed for black tie though if it were anyone else wearing it, but you are pregnant so wear whatever fits and is not as expensive!

    Yeah, I thought about that, too, but none of my other nicer dresses fit, and this summer dress is long - goes to my feet - and it clearly shows a baby bump, so I'm hoping that will be ok.

    you aren't going to wear a maxi dress are you? I have a suggestion, check out ebay (seriously) they have a ton of nice maternity cocktail dresses on there slightly worn that you could get at a great price.

    Yes, I was planning on it, why?  Mine is all black, and is floor-length.  I would wear a CZ necklace with it.  It that too casual??

  • Personally, I prefer to go overdressed, rather than under dressed.  An afternoon black tie event usually indicates dark, nice suit for men and cocktail or evening dress for the ladies.  Unfortunately, a summer dress probably isn't dressy enough.  Good luck either way.
  • He should rent a tux.
  • Black tie means TUXEDO - absolutely, no exceptions.  Women have a little more wiggle room, but the most acceptable attire is an evening gown.  

    He should not wear a suit - even a high end one - he needs to rent a tux.  And, you need to get yourself an evening gown.

    Sorry, probably not what you wanted to hear, but that's the DEFINITION of black tie. 

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    imagetklmechris98:
      The strapless summer dress on the other hand may be a little under dressed for black tie though if it were anyone else wearing it, but you are pregnant so wear whatever fits and is not as expensive!

    Yeah, I thought about that, too, but none of my other nicer dresses fit, and this summer dress is long - goes to my feet - and it clearly shows a baby bump, so I'm hoping that will be ok.

    you aren't going to wear a maxi dress are you? I have a suggestion, check out ebay (seriously) they have a ton of nice maternity cocktail dresses on there slightly worn that you could get at a great price.

    Yes, I was planning on it, why?  Mine is all black, and is floor-length.  I would wear a CZ necklace with it.  It that too casual??

    A maxi dress sounds too casual for this, depending on the fabric, of course.  If it's a cotton, linen, or a blend of either (or both) of those, it's definitely too casual.  I think you need to bite the bullet and get a dress.  

    These days, a dark suit is quite appropriate for black tie; just make sure he has a lovely tie and a pocket square.  If he has a shirt with French cuffs, he should wear that, and make sure he has some wonderful cufflinks.  

    I don't blame you for not wanting to rent a tux... I wouldn't hear of it at our wedding... And sorry for being gross, but who knows what kind of bodily fluids are on those things, between randy groomsmen and high school prom-goers?  Rented clothing grosses me out!  Also, it ALWAYS looks rented & it never fits right.  If your DH has an impecabally fitted suit, he should for sure wear that!

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  • imageJaysonandKristin:

    Black tie means TUXEDO - absolutely, no exceptions.  Women have a little more wiggle room, but the most acceptable attire is an evening gown.  

    He should not wear a suit - even a high end one - he needs to rent a tux.  And, you need to get yourself an evening gown.

    Sorry, probably not what you wanted to hear, but that's the DEFINITION of black tie. 

     Agree with this 100%. Black tie means Black tie. Although a pain....if you're accepting the invitation and will be attending then you need to honor the couples request and rent a tux. Unless it is black tie OPTIONAL you should rent a tux.

  • I agree with pp - a strapless summer dress is not appropriate for black tie.

    I think it would be best to call the bride/groom or other guests to discuss.  You don't want DH to be the only one not in a tux. 

    For the most part, when people say black tie, they really mean black tie.

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