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P&D1223

Hi Everyone. This is my first September not going back to work. I had my baby in April, so being off at the end of the year was wonderful. And this summer was great because everyone was around and I kept really busy. But as I talk to all of my teacher friends, I feel like this Fall is going to be very lonely, with them going back to work. I don't envy them going back, but I think I am going to miss being with everyone. My son is only 4 1/2 months old, so I feel like I am essentially going to be by myself. Anyone feel this way or have any suggestions?

MosersGirl

All of my teacher friends are back at work today, and I am a little sad that I'm missing the fun "first week of school" stuff.  But, I would miss my daughter WAY more if I had to leave her at daycare all day everyday.  So, I realize I can't have it all (work and be at home), and I feel like I'm lucky to be at home.  Hopefully this feeling of missing it will go away soon.  And if I really continue to miss it, I'll remember the annoying parents and the tons of paperwork.  I don't miss that. 

taylormillgirl

The fall is always the hardest time of year for me. I miss that "clean slate" feeling at the beginning of the school year. But then I force myself to imagine what my schedule would look like if I worked:

5am- wake, rush around getting ready, get kids dressed and fed, run out the door at 6:15 (the junior high schools start very early here).

Teach moody adolescents from 7am - 3pm. Attend meetings and/or conferences after school. Pick up kids from day care, rush home, help DD with homework, fix supper, pack diaper bags for the next day, throw in a load of laundry, try to clean up a little around the house, then after the kids are in bed- grade a stack of papers!

You get the idea. It would be stressful. I have the rest of my life to teach after my little ones start school. I don't think I'll regret the time I took off to be home with them.

As for loneliness, I suggest you find a MOMS group. It may take some time to find the right one, but it makes all the difference when you do.

charlatti

Try to find a mom's group or other SAHMs to get together with. My hospital offers a new moms' group that has been fabulous. I miss my teacher friends, but finding new friends helps a lot!

gatogrrl

I don't teach, but I did miss all my friends at work, especially because my husband still worked there.  He came home with all these stories of fun things that happened, and it really made me feel like I was missing out.

It gets better when your DC gets older and you start hanging out with other SAH moms at classes, the park, moms' groups and such.  As long as you don't miss the work itself, in time you will have just as much fun with your new set of friends.

summer1234

I feel the same way and posted something similar last week.  I'm hoping it gets better and know I'd be dying if I was going back and leaving my LO.

stargirlsheart

I could have written your post becasue I feel the exact same way.  My DH does not understand.  I am really happy to be a SAHM and feel sick if I think about leaving my daughter but it is so strange that what used to be my classroom is being run by someone else and my teacher friends (including my best friend) are going on with their school year without me.

urbanwifey

check local libraries to see if there are story times.  search online for meetups playgroups or mom's clubs you can join. schedule regular trips to the park or walks in the neighborhood- you may run into other sahm's who want to schedule play dates.

lttlestar

i feel exactly the same way! right after i gave notice, i changed my mind and asked for an *extremely* part time position - 2days/week, 3hrs/day ... still, it is hard to leave those friends behind, and its not quite the same to visit =( all i can suggest is to have your "sad, poor me" time and then start enjoying your baby! when he does something soooo adorable at a time when you would be in class, i bet you will feel so proud of yourself!