I know it's almost 5 months away, but DH and I were talking about it today and can't figure out what to do. He wants to only invite family and a few close friends with kids, and because of his large family that puts us at over 30 people! I want to include my close friends that don't have kids, and he thinks we shouldn't invite them. If I invite these friends, I need to invite their fiances/spouses, right? I realize that the husbands/fiances won't want to come, but I'm sure it would be rude not to invite them. If I do invite my close friends and their significant others, then it puts us at around 50 people, in our small house, in the winter (so no outside porch/deck/etc). UGH.
We are really trying to be minimalist about this and just have a small get together, but it seems impossible. So, what did you do if you've already had the first bday party, or what are you planning to do if you've thought about it? Also, do you think my childless friends will be offended if I don't invite them at all, but I do invite a few friends with kids? I feel like that would be weird.