Baby books- My first mistake regarding having two kids

thatgirlang

Well, I didn't know at the time that this would be a mistake. With DS1, I was given a baby book. I started to fill it out but life got in the way and I never really kept up with it. I told myself that I recorded his infancy and first year in pictures and that was enough. But I've regretted it deep down because I've already forgotten so much in terms of his milestones and how he changed from month to month.

My mom knows this story so for DS2 she bought me a first year calendar instead. With the exception of a few pages to fill out in the front about the parents and family, all I really have to do is put stickers on the days that he does something new and make a few notes each month. It seems more doable and less time consuming than the book I have for DS1. I was so excited when it arrived in the mail yesterday.

Then it hit me that this means I'll have all this stuff recorded for DS2 and not DS1 and I started feeling horrible. Really horrible! Maybe the book and calendar will just end up in a box in an attic somewhere in thirty years and the boys will never care or think about them.

But maybe they will, or their wives will, like when I asked my MIL when DH was potty trained and she pulled out his baby book to tell me. If that happens, I'll have to explain why I kept track of everything for one kid but not the other.

Post pregnancy hormones may be partly to blame but I seriously want to cry.

Bellisimo

Those calendars are the BEST!  My Mom gave me one when DS was born and I thought, "What am I gonna do with this thing!?  I already have a baby book for him." and yeah, it's gotten used/filled in way more than the baby book!  So, I bought one just like it in pink for DD.  She has a baby book too, but like you, I've only filled in the infant stuff and some of the "firsts".  Life gets hectic, time flies by and that stuff doesn't always get recorded in a baby book!

WeAreSmalls

I haven't written down a single thing for DD. I know, I feel terrible. I wish I had known about the calendars.

Could you buy one for your son and make estimated guesses about when things happened? Nobody's gonna know the difference....

thatgirlang

WeAreSmalls:

Could you buy one for your son and make estimated guesses about when things happened? Nobody's gonna know the difference....

I am seriously considering this. So that wouldn't be lame? lol

shouldbeworkin

Ya know, I think it's ok to do more for #2 than you did for #1.  Chances are you'll have less pictures of #2 or not be able to do something else as much as you did for #1 just b/c you have 2 kids now.  It all evens out in the end.  ;-)

wildflower865

I went back and estimated (by looking in the what to expect book on when things should happen.)  I pretty much remember if she was earlier or later than most on things.

thatgirlang

shouldbeworkin:

Ya know, I think it's ok to do more for #2 than you did for #1.  Chances are you'll have less pictures of #2 or not be able to do something else as much as you did for #1 just b/c you have 2 kids now.  It all evens out in the end.  ;-)

That's a good point. Thank you. I have to get used to this!

meghans30

I started a baby book for DS #1, but never finished. I have NOTHING for DS#2. Maybe I'll do a calender also.

serrill2

I didn't do one for either, so they can feel equally neglected. 

CantWait2Be

where do you find these calanders?