DH's classless aunt is lucky she lives 1600 miles away from me...

ablou

DH's biiiiiitch aunt sent DH an email today criticizing our name choice!

"Where is this Stewart coming from?  Your mother raised you on her own your entire life?  How dare you not name your son after your mother?  What's wrong with Charlie Vida (his mom's first name)."

 Our son is named after the, really, only good man in either of our families, my grandfather, and after our friends that introduced us.  

Who the hell does that?  Who criticizes parents for naming their child?  I've never  heard anything other than "that's sweet" or "how wonderful" or (if the name's horrible) "ooh, where did that name come from?" But never, "how dare you!!"" 

This woman had the GALL to criticize ANYTHING that we do regarding our child, who, unlike ALL of her grandchildren, is being born inside a marriage and not to teenagers (I don't judge the kids... she just has always had a very superior attitude, and treats her extended family like crap).  This woman who, from her behavior towards us, could give two sh!ts about us.  This woman, to whom I would NEVER say ANY of this, because I have manners!

I swear, most of DH's family is so classless, I'm glad that they live in Indiana and Florida, and nowhere near me or this little gentleman that I'm growing! 

Oooh... I'm still steaming!  But at least I have released my pearls from my clutches... for now.  

 

ETA:  Just found out that the message wasn't an email, but a message posted on FACEBOOK!!!  It's a comment on the album of sonograms...

Here's the direct quote:

"Charlie V. G*** or Charlie Vida G***????? Whats this stuart?

Your mom pretty much raised you all by herself and you're not honoring her? Whats up J. "

It's taking all that I have to not post something...  If she says anything to me at Thanksgiving, I'm sailing my huge a$$ over that dinner table and stabbing her in the neck with a meat fork.

... and the biiiiitch misspelled my boy's middle name...  

colacrock

Oh my! I think that you should throw your manners out the window and call her out on everything about her life. People (especially family) need to know that they can't treat you like that! Or ... have your DH talk to her! I'm sorry you have to deal with that - you're a much more kind person than I am - that's for sure!

KateLouise

Some people think their opinion matters when they are no way involved inthe situation.

I understand how irritating her email would be but I would just ignore it.

Did your Dh reply? 

ablou

We are both choosing to ignore it and not say anything to her... which is why I'm steaming here... sorry about my sweet bumpies that get the brunt of my mommy wrath!

Temp785382312506150

Who does she think she is? I'd write her back and ask how dare she criticize a name that obviously has such meaning for yourself and your DH.

angie212

Good for you for not engaging her in an argument about it, since she has obviously made up her mind and doesn't seem like the kind of person to listen to your reasons with an open mind. 

Well, if your next child (should you choose to have one) is a girl, I guess you can cross her name off your list of name possibilities already

beckypooh03@yahoo.com

What a biotch!!!

ecoppins

angie212:

Good for you for not engaging her in an argument about it, since she has obviously made up her mind and doesn't seem like the kind of person to listen to your reasons with an open mind. 

Well, if your next child (should you choose to have one) is a girl, I guess you can cross her name off your list of name possibilities already

Exactly my thoughts. Way to take the high road. However, if you want me to go over and biotch slap her I'd be happy to. Sounds like not only a good name, but a beautiful meaning as well.

epphd

I'm not great about letting things go, and I tend to stir pots so perhaps your choice to ignore her is better.  But, I would be tempted to write back something to the extent of "We didn't share the name with you to start a discussion of it; we did so as a courtesy - and the last one you will be getting from us."

Who in their right mind thinks the appropriate response is "Why not THIS name"?  It's rude enough to be critical of a name, but quite another thing to think it is appropriate to subsitute your own judgement for someone else's!  I'm steamed for you!!

 

lindylogana

Wow rude!!  People need to learn how to keep their mouth's shut! If she doesn't like the name don't comment on it and move on!

Hello_Nicole

I totally understand where you are coming from!  My husband and I are naming our son Noah because A) I've always liked that name and my husband's mother's father is named Noah and my husband was really close to him and has a lot of respect for him.  Noah's middle name will be Charles after my husband's first name and both of our father's names.  Once I told my FIL that we were thinking of naming him Noah (before we even knew he was a boy), he said "the name Noah just leaves a bad taste in my mouth"  My husband's mother and father have been divorced for many years and have a really bad past together.  You wouldn't believe how mad I was that he even had one tiny nerve in him to say that, but I just held in my thoughts.  I don't get why relatives like to start name "drama."  I personally think it is petty and people should love the baby no matter what his or her name may be!  More power to you for taking the high road

NeverKnew

I don't really know where people get the ridiculous idea that they have any say in your child whatsoever.  Fvck em.

But it is for this reason, we're keeping the name under wraps until the kid is here.  Not worth the frustration.  And with the names we're considering - we will  be judged.

jellybean210

That's horrible. You're a better person than I am for being able to hold your tounge like that! What if the baby was already here and named before she got a chance to air her opinion on the matter?! Would she still say such horrible things? People this arrogant really bother me.

adam+katie

She needs to be deleted from your FB's!  What a witch.

userdeleted

She's obviously a few crayons short of a box. I agree with you about not responding to it - I doubt it would help anything. What I would do is delete the comment - and I'd probably block her from my facebook account too. If she brings it up in person I would tell her that the name has been decided and her input is unnecessary and unappreciated.

DelilahGirl2010

The best thing to do is exactly what you're doing...ignoring the comment! People like her crave drama and it pisses them off even more when they don't get a reaction! Ignore her at Thanksgiving too, or say something like "We love the name we picked out!" and then get give her a charming smile along with that. That will definitely get to the B***h! 

mjwink1

Ooooo, I'd write that biotch back and rip her a new one, and then blame it on the hormones

Luv-a-Bug

Ugh, I'd be fighting with myself over replying too.

How does DH's mom feel about your name choice if she is still around?  Cool with it?  Maybe she should be the one to tell the aunt to shove off and mind her own business?