Please tell me i'm not overreacting...agree with me

jay_dlm*

My FIL just placed these hideous handles all over my kitchen cabinets and DH doesn't want to remove them because he doesn't want his dad to get upset. I wouldn't mind keeping them if they went with our color scheme, who am i kidding i hate them they are not my style and i would of never in a millions years picked them out if i was out shopping. This is my house not his dads house why should we keep them on, ugh DH better do something about them. Do you ladies agree on them not being nice at all?

Alyssajoy87

I personally think that they're hideous. And why was your FIL the one deciding which handles to put up in your kitchen? I'm confused...

fiftysixty

Take them down. Blame it on nesting. I would. they're hideous.

Randa&Jerm

I was in the mood to just type I agree with you without even reading your post just because you said so. 

But after reading and seeing those hideous things I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU.  Get those things off immediately!!!

michak86

They might be cute if you had a vintage/shabby chic theme going on in your house... but remind him: you're going to be a MOM not a GRANDMA.

The Vaughns

I'd have to see the rest of your kitchen but......from that show Im saying NO WAY, not cute. Although if you HAVE to keep them try and look at them as a vintagey, Antropologie-ish, cool, funky style.....

 maybe...??

skgunter

I don't really like them

beckypooh03@yahoo.com

I completely agree! Why on earth would you FIL just put them up and think its ok? Did he even ask?

duchessII81

Definitely not my style.

And me too - what was he doing installing unapproved hardware in your kitchen?

green bean

why did he put them up before he asked if you liked them? they totally remind me of a grandma house, yuck

Cgelske

oooooh... i can tell it was your father in law who put them in. hahahaha.

kciriello

These are hideous.

I can see them for an antique white dresser in a shabby chic bedroom, but NOT in a kitchen with dark wood cabinets. They need to be removed pronto, this is unacceptable.

jay_dlm*

Alyssajoy87:

I personally think that they're hideous. And why was your FIL the one deciding which handles to put up in your kitchen? I'm confused...

I totally didn't put the back round story in my post, he called DH when he was out and let him know that he had found some really nice,oh and he said "beautiful handles" for our kitchen cabinets, since we just moved into our home we're still fixing minor things here and there. Point is we painted our cabinets and removed the handles that were on there and my FIL just thought that he was doing a nice thing by getting them for us to help us out. I see that as being kind but DH is totally at fault also, i clearly told him that i didn't want his dad to put them on unless i saw them first. Sadly when i got home his dad had already put them on with DH's approval, so i really had nothing to say till my FIL left. DH said he did question them but saw that his dad had gotten upset at him not liking them so he told him to just go ahead and put them on, so now I'm stuck with them. BTW he got them on sale, i wonder why.

sleepingbeauty825

I hate to admit this but I love those! They are totally my granny-style. Either way, if you hate em, get rid of them!

duchessII81

jay_dlm*:

Alyssajoy87:

I personally think that they're hideous. And why was your FIL the one deciding which handles to put up in your kitchen? I'm confused...

I totally didn't put the back round story in my post, he called DH when he was out and let him know that he had found some really nice,oh and he said "beautiful handles" for our kitchen cabinets, since we just moved into our home we're still fixing minor things here and there. Point is we painted our cabinets and removed the handles that were on there and my FIL just thought that he was doing a nice thing by getting them for us to help us out. I see that as being kind but DH is totally at fault also, i clearly told him that i didn't want his dad to put them on unless i saw them first. Sadly when i got home his dad had already put them on with DH's approval, so i really had nothing to say till my FIL left. DH said he did question them but saw that his dad had gotten upset at him not liking them so he told him to just go ahead and put them on, so now I'm stuck with them. BTW he got them on sale, i wonder why.

Take them down and then do something nice for your FIL for the gesture. 

jay_dlm*

michak86:

They might be cute if you had a vintage/shabby chic theme going on in your house... but remind him: you're going to be a MOM not a GRANDMA.

THIS, my sons birthday party is coming up and i don't want my friends and family to see those hideous things.

goldenjes

Those wouldn't fly in my kitchen.  I'd "accidentally" get paint on them while doing the walls or something.

jay_dlm*

duchessII81:

jay_dlm*:

Alyssajoy87:

I personally think that they're hideous. And why was your FIL the one deciding which handles to put up in your kitchen? I'm confused...

I totally didn't put the back round story in my post, he called DH when he was out and let him know that he had found some really nice,oh and he said "beautiful handles" for our kitchen cabinets, since we just moved into our home we're still fixing minor things here and there. Point is we painted our cabinets and removed the handles that were on there and my FIL just thought that he was doing a nice thing by getting them for us to help us out. I see that as being kind but DH is totally at fault also, i clearly told him that i didn't want his dad to put them on unless i saw them first. Sadly when i got home his dad had already put them on with DH's approval, so i really had nothing to say till my FIL left. DH said he did question them but saw that his dad had gotten upset at him not liking them so he told him to just go ahead and put them on, so now I'm stuck with them. BTW he got them on sale, i wonder why.

Take them down and then do something nice for your FIL for the gesture. 

If only it was that easy, he's the type of old person that takes minor things like that to an extreme.

GreekyPie

ewwww.

woolgathered

Oh boy, those are atrocious!! I feel so bad for you!

FutureMrs.Steen

I don't like them either. I was in a similar situation last summer. My MIL was being nice (didn't ask us though) and put liners in our kitchen cabinets. They are hideous, but I knew she spent the time and the thought so I kept them. It wasn't worth getting into an argument. I don't even notice them anymore and I see them everyday. You have to pick and choose your battles. If you think it's worth getting into a fight, then take them down.

AllisonErq

whoo-whee...  sticky situation....  those handles are super ugly.... poor you!

Anna&Matt

yeah, they're awful. I'd remove them for sure.

Prinycesa07

Okay well after reading this thread, im embarassed to admit that i like them!

 But that doesn't matter.  You don't.  Take em down!

hockeypirate

Totally agree. They're hideous. What makes FIL think he can pick out your cabinet hardware anyways? Sure, it's nice for him to install them, but you and DH should decide what you want in your own kitchen.

ETA: Just read your response. That's a tough one, but I'd still have your DH replace them. He can use your pregnancy hormones as an excuse to his dad if he has to. DH definitely should have waited for you to see them

lovebug630

I am definitely not a fan. Yikes.

MrsHyphenated

I concur!  E.. W.... W...

englishviola

First of all, I agree. Those are horrible. When I read your post, I was thinking, how bad could they be? then I scrolled down and saw them. Yuck.

 We have some FIL issues too. I've had to work on boundary setting. Being non-confrontational and ignoring doesn't work. Neither does letting it build up till you explode (been there, done both).  What works for me is politely setting boundaries and HOLDING MY GROUND. Nicely, of course.

 Good luck.  

beckyanddon

change them and blame it on something else....use the pregnancy as an excuse... sometimes it is okay (like now)