HeartBroken

ilovemyprince

What do you do when your husband tells you that he's not happy with you anymore? This whole time I thought we were doing great, I try so very hard to make him happy, and while I have been VERY sick these 19 weeks, I still do what I can to make him happy and still be his wife, make dinner..ect. Then last night as we were laying in bed, he just said it...."You don't make me happy anymore"...The words cut deep   I feel like a awful wife, and now we're having a baby, Which makes all this to much to handle. I'm praying that God will lead us through this. Thanks for letting me vent.

lecooke

I wish there was something I could say.  I'm sorry.

Vuja_de

i just don't know what to say.. i am so sorry. would either of you consider marriage counseling?

nealbl

Oh wow that would break my heart too. I am so sorry. Have you guys tried counseling?

hazelgemini26

It sounds like you are trying too hard to be the perfect wife.  I think you need to start concentrating a little more on yourself and play a little hard to get.. dont be mean or spiteful.. just more you.  Some people tend to "lose themselves" when they are in a marriage.  Im sure there are things about him that dont "make you happy" either.  Talk about what it is he is trying to tell you.  It could mean something small that he just needs more guy time or he is petrified of more responsibility and not wanting things to change.  Some guys are like that.  But once the baby is here, he will have a whole new look on life and at you.

fellesferie

That sounds like a pretty unfair thing to say, and I don't think you should blame yourself. It's never one person's job to make the other happy. You complement them and support them and add to their happiness, but you cannot "make" someone happy.

I'd talk with him and try to get down to exactly what he means and how long he's felt that way. Maybe he's just responding to things that he's missed over the last few months. I was sick for the last 8 weeks or so, and my DH was actually really kind of sad I wasn't sleeping on his chest for awhile. Maybe it's something like that.

I hope that you get some answers that make you feel better.

OhioBobcat

Fair enough if he was being honest, but still...a bit harsh and bad timing to just blurt that out while you're in bed together.

I would want to sit down and try having a mature conversation about the feelings he may be having. You can't just say that to someone and have nothing to back it up. Maybe, like someone else said, suggest counseling first since you're bringing a child into the world together. Someone who isn't in your relationship may be able to help you work on any issues and help communication.

Still, my heart goes out to you.

TwoBecomeOne2007

so sorry for the harsh words. Call a counselor immediately. You can work through this! PG changes a relationship but keep workign at it!

VannGod

I'm so sorry you are going through this, especially pregnant.  Try to talk to him and see how he feels about trying to make it work, maybe counseling like other ladies have suggested.  Also, (and really there's no excuse for him saying that to you... ) maybe the hormoes got to him as well.  I've heard that some men get emotionally unstable when their wives become pregnant and its just the hormones....IDK,

Good Luck!

XXLAURAF

what an a**hole..