Dh and drinking: poll

sunflowergrl

How do you feel about your DH drinking?  I am encouraging it (not that he needs encouragement lol)  but, I mean I come home from the store with beer for him just 'cause I know he'll enjoy it.  Hell, he's got a DD for 9 mos. why shouldn't he drink lol.  However I have asked him not to drink my two fav alcholic drinks in front of me, which he's fine with. 

But I just ask, because a friend of ours just told DH that his wife just told him that when she gets pregnant, he's not allowed to drink.  I think that's slightly rediculous.  So...

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sunflowergrl

oops.  Didn't mean to copy my entire post into the poll, it was my first clicky poll.  )

whit022109

i had to say i think its really biitchy for any wife to say he cant drink just because she cant. i know someone who did this....and then she drank a lot during her pregnancy.

Tootermi

DH is still drinking his usual amount, which isn't a lot though. I don't drink and prefer that he doesn't drink too much...but he still has wine a few nights a week and drinks when he's out with friends. I'm not a big fan of alcohol though and I know I'm not in the majority. FYI I've never been drunk.

Desmond&MollyJones

My H is out at a bar right now having a few drinks with a buddy.

However, I will ask him to stop drinking when I hit week 37.  I don't need to go into labor while he is wasted. 

kob227

I don't think it's fair to expect your dh to completely give up drinking.  My dh really appreciates his beer (I call him a beer snob) so why should I take that away from him?

The only thing I ask of him is that he doesn't get ridiculous anymore.  The first 4 months of my pregnancy, every weekend was a party and I just felt left out after too much of it.  I mean, I still kicked ass at beer pong (he drank all the beer haha)...  

I also negotiated one date night a week and I'm happy.

redheadedgirl

Where's the "drinks more now that he has a designated driver" option?

SRose27

It has gotten to the point where I don't even want to be around him when we go out with friends.  I obviously can't drink, but he proceeds to get retarded and I think its inconsiderate.  I ask him to tone it down a notch, and I get okay no problem, but it never happens.  Then I have to deal with him when we get home! So not fun!

Becky262

DH volunteered to stop drinking with me.  It sucks effing balls to be the only sober one and he completely understands that 

nikkirenee81

I can't drink because it is bad for baby, DH has no baby inside his body. I think that it is pretty immature and selfish for someone to expect thier DH to stop drinking because they can't. Should he also stop eating deli meat, sushi, and rare steak? I don't think so...

Good question!

minda31807

I also think it is ridiculous to ask a guy not to drink while their SO is pregnant.  What's next, they can't eat any of the myriad things pregnant women can't, can't sit in a hot tub, etc.? 

Are there occasions when me and DH are out and he orders a beer with his meal that I get jealous? Yes, but he has to put up with my lack of sex drive, irrational mood swings and lack of energy for nine months. 

nikkirenee81

redheadedgirl:

Where's the "drinks more now that he has a designated driver" option?

ahahaha!!

sunflowergrl

redheadedgirl:

Where's the "drinks more now that he has a designated driver" option?

I can't believe I didn't put that one!   Your Dh and my DH could be real good friends lol

kellmo

SRose27:

It has gotten to the point where I don't even want to be around him when we go out with friends.  I obviously can't drink, but he proceeds to get retarded and I think its inconsiderate.  I ask him to tone it down a notch, and I get okay no problem, but it never happens.  Then I have to deal with him when we get home! So not fun!

 

THIS!! 

JulieandBen

I think your husband's friend's wife is ridiculous too. Although my husband knows it would be cruel of him to order a martini in front of me. He sticks to beer or Crown on the rocks.

I have a glass of wine once or twice a week.  

Colie712

redheadedgirl:

Where's the "drinks more now that he has a designated driver" option?

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THIS!  lol

antosh2008

I have to laugh at PP for requesting "Drinks more now" option.

IDK, my DH has never really been a big drinker. It's bothering me more than him tha I can't drink. I had a virgin margarita while on vacation in Corpus and was angry because it did not taste good without the tequilla. 

I had a friend who made her DH have a Corona waiting in the delivery room as a reward for pushing out their child. That was a bit much for me.

sippolas

redheadedgirl:

Where's the "drinks more now that he has a designated driver" option?

First, that was what I was thinking too 

Second, your siggy is hilarious!!

mickey1330

you need an option for "my DH has apparently reverted back to the way he was in college b/c he's scared of fatherhood and is drinking more than usual."

 

ElloPoppet

I always say my Hubby is "drinking for two now"

He has cut back a little bit, simply because he has figured out that it's not as much fun to be drunk when I'm not sloshed, too. 

texmeg

Um, there's no option for DH drinking MORE now.  Mine's really enjoying the 9-month DD thing. 

I made him be my DD for the year we were trying, so now I am paying him back.  I always thought I would be one to be bitchy about it, but I just really don't care.  I'm sure I'll continue to be the DD for a little while afterward too (if we go anywhere).

dogmommy4now

DH is not a big drinker, but I am encouraging him to drink more now.  For one reason bc I wish I could.  Everytime we go out to dinner I practically push the drink menu to him.  Drink up now buddy....when I am done breast feeding I want him to be my DD for a YEAR

getnmarried910

I said he's keeping up his habits, but his habits are a single drink every once in a blue moon.  I don't mind at all.  I don't think he should have to give up have a drink because I"m pregnant.  Even if he had a drink every night, it wouldn't be a big deal.  One of us may as well enjoy it!

getnmarried910

Tootermi:

DH is still drinking his usual amount, which isn't a lot though. I don't drink and prefer that he doesn't drink too much...but he still has wine a few nights a week and drinks when he's out with friends. I'm not a big fan of alcohol though and I know I'm not in the majority. FYI I've never been drunk.

Neither DH nor I have ever been drunk either.  We drink occasionally, but aren't even every night drinkers.  When we do have a drink, we do enjoy it though!

redness4

My DH is not a big drinker.  Frankly, I am the drinker in this relationship!  However, last time I was pregnant, we did have a couple of fun events (friend turned 40, vacation with friends) and I bugged him to indulge, which he did a couple of times.  I said, "Look, you have a designated driver for 9 months!  Take advantage!"  I am telling him the same thing this time.  Last time, though, I must admit that I drew the line at him eating homemade chocolate chip cookie dough in front of me, particularly since I make the dough.  I LOVE it and really miss it when I'm pregnant!

mrs_sherod

DH stopped drinking to save money.  I hate that he drinks because he's had issues with his license in the past, HOWEVER, I never told him he couldn't drink.  He said he's gonna try to stop drinking for 6 months.  I'll be here to support him.

Pamiejane

redheadedgirl:

Where's the "drinks more now that he has a designated driver" option?

 

This!

kimberleigh30

whit022109:

i had to say i think its really biitchy for any wife to say he cant drink just because she cant.

 I would never do that.  I hate when the girls on here get mad because thier DH still drinks.  So what.

Mstalls16

I don't think it's fair to make DHnot drink...he's an adult, if he wants a beer or glass of wine, he's of legal age, go for it. With that said, since I've been pregnant, he has been drinking less, but I think it's a byproduct of me not drinking. We used to split a bottle of wine a couple times a week, but I guess it's not as fun for him to drink alone, so he doesn't. I haven't told him he can't, he just doesn't. When we go out, he drinks with friends, and I DD. I don't have a problem with this.

chrystalnigg

My DH said he wasn't going to drink at all since I couldn't. I told him that was bull and convinced him drinking was still okay. I has cut back. He really only has a beer every once in a while now.

goldenleaves

DH has always been an occasional drinker. He goes out and drinks with his friends maybe once a month. It takes him about that long, if not longer, to finish a 24 pack of beer at home. I see no reason for this to stop, it's important to maintain friendships.

awebre5

I am fine with my husband drinking during pregnancy, but I have been thinking about something. This will be our first child, so I don't have much experience, but we go to a lot of family functions and get togethers with friends where there are children and drinking. I have noticed a lot that the men assume they can drink and the women have to be the responsible ones and care for the children. I am not a heavy drinker, but I don't think this is fair, because the women should be able to have a few drinks sometimes also...