Please tell me this will get easier...

b3bell

I never in a million years expected being a Mom to be this challenging.  I feel like my hormones are a rollercoaster and that I'm on the brink of crying all the time. One minute I feel like I'm doing a good job and the next I feel like I just can't do anything right especially when it comes to nursing.

Today is my first day alone since my Mom left yesterday (I've been a wreck since she left) and DH is at work so I'm sure that this is part of why I feel so down today.  This does get easier right??

howleyshell

YESSSSSS!!!!

I promise it does get easier.

Keep in mind that right now you've coupled a massive hormone drop with a substantial lack of sleep.  It's a double whammy.  For me it comes around 2 weeks after birth.  Uncontrollable crying often times over silly little things.

Before you know it you'll be replying to this same post offering support and words of encouragement to another brand new mom.

You CAN do this.  You ARE doing a great job.  

Hang in there until the tidal wave of hormones settles a bit and I think you'll find that you feel more like your self.

(((((HUGS)))))

Shell 

schmoodle

Hang in there sweetie!! Big (((HUGS))) and yes, it gets easier. BFing is very difficult and it is SO emotional if it doesn't go perfectly (which it hardly ever does). Add that to the fact that taking care of a newborn is VERY hard and it makes for a stressed out mommy. I actually think our little guy was (is?) an abnormally easy newborn but when we had our nursing/supply issues I was still a wreck! Like sobbing and getting tears all over his head every time I'd feed him because I was so guilty. It's part hormones, partly just that it really is hard but it gets way better both as far as getting in the swing of things and the emotional aspects, and quickly too. Hang in there and we're all here anytime you have questions or need to vent.

JGirl2005

Hugs, yes it does get easier.  I tell my friends the first 3 months are the worse (5 mo in my case, but I digress...)

It does get better.....especially with BFing, it was the hardest thing I ever have done.

laura&dan05

You can do this and you are a great mommy!  I remember I was on cloud nine for the first week or so and then it hit me and I'd cry everyday!  It will get better and it does get better.  Nursing is so challenging and there were so many times in the beginning that dd and I would both be crying because something wasn't working in the process. 

Take a deep breath and hang in there!

Alli321

YES!  It ill get easier.  Nursing is so hard.  I had major latch problems and had someone close to me tell me I was a bad mother since I couldn't feed my baby.  So on top of hormones being told that made me a mess.  Breathe, know it gets easier.  It is so easy to doubt yourself in the beginning but I bet you are doing everything right and are being a great mother.

LIAngel

Alli321:

YES!  It ill get easier.  Nursing is so hard.  I had major latch problems and had someone close to me tell me I was a bad mother since I couldn't feed my baby.  So on top of hormones being told that made me a mess.  Breathe, know it gets easier.  It is so easy to doubt yourself in the beginning but I bet you are doing everything right and are being a great mother.

OMG!  What awful person told you you were a bad mother?  I am so sorry you had to hear that.  

kianew

Ditto all the others!  It does get much easier and you are a great mother!!  Like Shelley said, with the crazy hormones going on and lack of sleep - it's insane.  I remember all of that very well and it actually freaked me out a bit.  I promise things will calm down and get better  

(((HUGS)))

kianew

LIAngel:

Alli321:

YES!  It ill get easier.  Nursing is so hard.  I had major latch problems and had someone close to me tell me I was a bad mother since I couldn't feed my baby.  So on top of hormones being told that made me a mess.  Breathe, know it gets easier.  It is so easy to doubt yourself in the beginning but I bet you are doing everything right and are being a great mother.

OMG!  What awful person told you you were a bad mother?  I am so sorry you had to hear that.  

Yikes!  I'm wondering the same thing.  That's horrible and I am so sorry someone told you that. 

ejgballerina

Yes, yes.yes it does.  I know EXACTLY how you feel.  Alot of my stress and anxiety had to do with BFing mixed with raging hormones.  Try to grit your teeth and stick with it, we had a breakthrough at 4 weeks and now BFing is actually what calms me down!  I had baby blues pretty bad for a few weeks and felt like I wasn't doing ANYTHING right.  But, do know that you are an amazing mother and this too shall pass!

LucyPevensie

Oh God, I'm sorry.  It's awful at first - except for a few BRIEF shiny moments - it's so hard and you're a hormonal NUT (not your fault - it's physical - but makes you mentally koo koo!)

It gets SO much better.  And for now - ask for help from those who are able to provide it - and just do your best honey.  There's no magic formula for doing it "right" (except to hold and love your baby as much as you can - you can't do that too much and you can't spoil a newborn.)

Hang in there honey - you are in the newborn red zone right now - it DOES get better!!!

b3bell

Thank you for the encouragement girls - I really needed this today!

Aaron'sAlli

It's good to know someone else feels like I do. Today is my first day home alone with the baby also and I haven't been able to stop crying all day and I doubt my abilities/decisions every step of the way. We worked so hard to have her and I love her so much, but I never expected that it would be so hard once she was here. The hard part was supposed to be the IVF.