Does anyone else think it's really weird

Sawyerplus1

When people want, or are willing to have, their MILs in the room when they deliver?! I'm not judging anyones choice, because there's nothing wrong with having your MIL there, it just is SO not my style. I have a lovely MIL (though we don't have an amazing relationship) but I would never want her near me when I'm in labor! And I think it's weird when MILs want to be there! Heck, my own mother doesn't want to be there and we have an amazing relationship. Like I said, I'm not judging but I see it on here surprisingly often, and am just wondering who else feels this way about it.

sspyles

I don't think it's that weird to have your MIL in the room (though I certainly wouldn't want to).

I get majorly freaked out when people have their fathers, FIL, brother, etc. Creepy.

Celiarh1

I dont think its horrible but wouldn't do it myself!

MLMDDL02

I'm so with you on that one.  I dont have a great relationship with my MIL, but even if I did it is something I want to share with my DH ONLY.  I have a great relationship with my mom and I dont want her in the room either.

cinderellabella

I LOVE my MIL but I don't plan on having her in there while I'm in labor. She's really easy going and won't care, and she lives out of state.

It will be DH and my mom in the room. That's all. 

Krista123105

My MIL is NOT invited to be in the room with me when I'm in labor.  She drives me nuts normally, so I can only imagine how irritating she'll be when I'm in pain...lol.  I don't think my view on that would change regardless of our relationship though.  My mom and I have a great relationship, but DH and I have decided that although family members are welcome to visit me in the hospital, when I'm actually pushing it's just going to be DH and me.  It's our first baby, so we want this to be a private moment with just "our" family.  That is the option that's right for us, but I understand others wanting their MILs and family to be in the room.

babygirl7892002

sspyles:

I don't think it's that weird to have your MIL in the room (though I certainly wouldn't want to).

I get majorly freaked out when people have their fathers, FIL, brother, etc. Creepy.

Agreed! I dont think its weird to have your MIL in the room but most certainly weird to have FIL, father, brother, etc!

wordtoyourmother

After hearing some birth stories,  I started to re-think whether I want my MIL there. 

I was doing it more as a favor for my husband, since he is an only child and only has his mother (father died).  I breathed a sigh of relief last night when he told me he didn't want her in  there.  

However, I was very much in the line of thinking that even though its all about my comfort,  I should extend the courtesy to my husband and ask if wanted his mom there.  

swimrbride

No. Some people have great relationships with thier MIL's and if that is what they are comfortable with then that is fine. Now mine won't be in there but my mom will be, and some people think that is weird.

Desmond&MollyJones

I would never ever ever have my MIL in the room.  But I'm sure there are some really great MIL's out there that would be fine being in the room.  Just not mine. 

brandifawn

NMS either.  Not even my mom is allowed in the room and I get along great with my mom and his.  I just feel like it is a time for DH and I to share (along with the 20 ir so medical professionals that seem to need to be there with us)

kimberleigh30

Yeah it's one thing to want your mom in there with you, but your MIL, hell no!

lilbit923

For me, it would be strange to have my MIL hanging out in the room longer than is appropriate. This is going to be a c-section so I am happy that my parents, DH and my in-laws can come and visit me before I go in to the OR but if this were a vaginal delivery....MIL aint coming in. Not happening.

chaptini4now

totally weird! won't have anyone in the room except my hubby.  If for some CRAZY reason he couldn't be there... I'd call one of my close girlfriends. Not even my mom. I watched this birth video and the couple had a water birth at their house. I swear they had not just the MIL's but the WHOLE family, grandpa, kids... heck, I think the neighbor's were there! NO WAY.  I'm like rachel from friends, "stay up here ross!"

jrlandrigan

I would have to say I find it strange. My MIL doesn't need to see any of that. I don't mind if she wanted to wait in the waiting room or outside the room- but not watching the whole L&D. I'm not even sure if I would allow my own mother to be in the room.. Right now it's going to only be DH in there with me.

Nennifre

I told my mom I didn't want her in the room because I don't want my MIL to be in the room. And I know MIL would get upset and start throwing a fit. But that may change when I am in labor. I may make my mom stay and make sure my MIL stays OUT. A split second decision.

Layla116

MLMDDL02:

I'm so with you on that one.  I dont have a great relationship with my MIL, but even if I did it is something I want to share with my DH ONLY.  I have a great relationship with my mom and I dont want her in the room either.

This, though I have a great relationship with my MIL.  Still though...no one in there except me, DH, a doc, Mr. Anesthesiologist (sp?) and a nurse.  That's it, folks.

XOXOJami

I have a great realtionship with my future MIL. She's a good person, but I wouldn't be comfortable with her there. I love her to death but really just want him and my mom there. Although she was very caring and sweet at the ultrasound I just don't want her seeing all my stuff. lol

duchessII81

I don't think it's weird, but definitely not an option for me... even my mom isn't an option for me.

My MIL had all boys, though, so another SIL could ask her...

Gracey_Manor Maid

Dh, Me. MW, and MW assi.

The kids are staying with MIL and my mom lives out of country. My SM is a retired RN and knows about staying out of peoples way. My older sis on the other hand is gung ho on being in the room. Luckily our MW is very good at kicking people out! lol

luckyangel

I'm with ya.  I think its weird to have anyone other than your DH or SO with you in the room.  Did you have them there with you when you conceived?  Cuz if not I don't see how it makes sense for them to be there when the baby comes out.  Just a little too much for me.

MamaMandaW

I actually had my MIL in the room with me, along with my mom, DH and my aunt..

she was great and super supportive!  She knew her place, especially with my other family there.. and she did a lot of comforting to DH- telling him that he should rub my back, or hold my hand lol 

But this time we decided that during the actual delivery everyone will leave.. but they can be in there during labor.. we just want to try it out the other way and see how it feels to be just US when our baby is born, even though I had no issues and nobody tried to hold the baby before us or anything- just wanted to try something different this time!

BUT- I have a great, close relationship with my MIL, almost closer than with my own Mom..

PurpleK26

I wouldn't want my MIL in there. I love her, but she really doesn't need to see that much of me!

Brit1017

I certainly don't think it's "weird". Giving birth is a personal experience, and who you wish to share it with isn't weird, it's just your choice. With DS, DH and my mom were in the room. Would I have wanted MIL in there? No. Do I think it's weird someone else might? No. I have had family members who have practically had a party in there when they were pushing. Would I want that? No. It is their experience, and whatever they are comfortable with is their perogative.

Prinycesa07

I would never want my MIL in there but no, i don't think its weird.  Some people are very close to their MIL.

neonstarfish

I don't think it's too weird, what ever makes people comfortable right? My hubby will have to make the decisions on who will be there and who won't(and also who can afford a plane ticket to Hawaii in January! Ha!)  I'd be the kind of person who would be like, "Sure, the student doctors wanna watch? Hey, gotta learn some how" I think the more important parts are the pregnancy, the first time you get to hold your baby, and then when you get to take him/her home. Then you get all the special and happy alone time. As soon as my baby boy is put in my arms, I could care less who is in the room, I just want to look in his eyes and smile.

lckytabby3

I think it is weird for MIL to be in there but I do want my mom in there.  One because I know she really wants to be and two because I think I will need her.  Both are staying above my head. 

wray13

With my 1st I was only 20.  I had my mom and the father of my daughter in the room with me when i gave birth.  My mom was not in the room for my son.  This time, it will only be my husband and I.  This is my 3rd and his 1st, very exciting!

OkieDokie88

well I think all of you are weird for insisting on only have you and DH during the labor part. I mean, delivery i can understand, that will only be me, DH, and my mom, but during the many hours of labor i am expecting i want to be surrounded by my family. I plan on having an epidural, so i don't plan on being in too incredibbly much pain, and i want my WHOLE family to be visiting with me during the long, boring process. When i get checked they will all have to step out, and once it is time to actually deliver they will all go out to the waiting room. Then my mom is going to be my doula, so it will be me, DH, and my mom for the delivery. Then we will send my mom out to the waiting room to let everyone know how it went so DH and i can have some time with the baby before everyone else comes back in to meet the baby.

I just can't imagine NOT seeing my family during the labor, and i honestly think it is a little selfish to tell your dad that he can't come in at all until the baby is born. yeah, maybe he shouldn't be there when you push, but to tell him to stay in the waiting room the whole time you are laboring... that's weird to me

getnmarried910

I do, but that could be based on my relationship with my MIL.  She stresses me out, causes problems, and is totally controlling and overbearing.  Think Everybody Loves Raymond (his mom) times ten.  I personally don't understand why someone would want their MIL in there when you've got your legs spread open, but to each her own.  Not for me at all.  We don't even make phone calls till the baby is born because my MIL will be there and will be pushy and trying to get into the room.

jmrussell03

The most important thing for me would be, where is she standing? By the head (no mirrors), okay if you really want to. But, then I think you have to have your mom in there too. Personally, I don't care about moms. Dads, NO. Brothers, OH NO! (not that most would want to). I would have a silence clause though. Don't need any advice from anyone when my feet are in stirrups.