Grandparents and great-grandparents are fine. They will be at the hospital, but other people, close friends that live near by are also welcome. But I would like to limit it to a select few people to come and see our LO. Especially with it being flu season.
I don't want a ton of extended family showing up at the hospital.
Should we send out invites to the birth? And make it an invite only thing?
or would that just be weird to send out invites with the date of birth TBA?
Re: WWYD? Keeping visitors away for 6 weeks?
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Post: "Is This Tacky?"
Really?
Please don't turn your birth into an exclusive, invite-only affair.
If you don't want visitors, say so. There is nothing wrong with that, its your child, your decision. But to send invites and tell people it is invitation-only sounds beyond tacky to me and I can't imagine it going over well.
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No problem! Hope you can figure something out that makes you comfortable! My DH and I have been talking for the last few weeks about how we should handle this and hopefully we'll come to a decision soon!
I don't think this is possible, and it would be very strange to send out invites to a birth...all it will do is draw more attention to the birth, almost as a "save the date," and it's not as though the people that don't get one will have any clue about it being "invite only"
If you just ask people not to visit if they are feeling ill, and to wash their hands before they hold baby, and not put their fingers in LO's mouth, then that will be sufficient "germ control" By far and away the best way to prevent the spread of germs is proper handwashing.
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Sending invites is ridiculous. If you don't want people to come over, say so.
Does everyone who knows you have a crazy intuition as to when you will go in labor and how long you will be in the hospital?
If you don't want a ton of people at the hospital, tell them you had the baby, you're a mom now you can be "mean" tell them you don't want a lot of visitors right away.
As for the 6 week thing, you can tell people you aren't up for visitors or that you need to rest and you can make all kinds of excuses
or
you can make sure everyone washes their hands, you can get a flu shot and if your baby breastfeeds, they will be protected.
I think your biggest misconception is that by letting some people in and keeping others out you'll be safe from all germs and no one will get sick. I'm sure your immediate family gets sick as well, and hospitals are the worst place to be if you want to avoid picking something up.
I'm sorry but invites seem ridiculous to me.