Chakra's ?? bad sun night

may22

I thought I was doing fine, went to a friends cookout Sat where kids almost outnumbered parents, had fun, played with friends babies. Then Sunday, sinding out new friends prego, and other friends moving forward in their relationships, and I feel stuck here. want to move forward, but keep getting setbacks.

Chatting with MIL - she did not know about the pregnancy or m/c - and she tells me my creative chakra is off and can affect my reproductive abilities...on the way home sun night I am crying in the car. Logic says it is not my fault, science says 1 out of every 5, but my heatr and emotions aren't lining up. I thought I was OK, but I guess I still need a bit longer..on a side note, DH was awesome. He is driving down the high way with a blubbering woman and telling me how creative I am and its OK, and not my fault. Sometimes I feel so bad for him that I am all over the place.

vkbaby09

I'm so sorry you're feeling bad.  Grief is such a rollercoaster.  Don't give yourself a time frame for when you need to feel better.  You may never be back to yourself.  It's learning how to live with your loss now. 

And, please don't think this was your fault at all!  Don't let your MILs comment make you think otherwise.  I'm sorry she made you feel bad, but am glad that your DH was there for you.  At first, my DH was my rock and I leaned on him a lot.  (((((((((big hugs)))))))))))))

gigi_rafael

hi i just had to respond to your post. i've not been to this board in a while and yours caught my attention. i take it you have endured a loss and i am so sorry you are going through this, it takes time to heal. being around other people who don't know, esp, in a place where you are around children is so difficult. (i speak from experience, my daughter was born still at 39 wks- it took me a while, i needed some alone time.)

as for the chakra comment...i study chakras and work a lot with healing them. we all have some imbalances in our chakras- it should never be taken or given as a judgement. the lower chakras are definatly affected when we endure a loss. this is not the cause of your loss and it does not necessarily mean your "creative abilities" are off- sorry i have to disagree with MIL. 

Allow yourself to heal at your own pace.Crying as you need to, eating healthy and freely expressing your emotions (as opposed to bottling them for others) will help you move through this. Creating a balance in your mind, body and spirit will help you get ready for any future pregnancies and "aligning those chakra centers that were affected by the loss.

Hope this helps ((hugs)) if you are interested in chakras- here is a good site

https://www.chakraenergy.com/intro.html