NBR: I'm I being insensitive?

armourall

DH and I mentioned that we might be out my parents way this last weekend because we might stop and see his grandparents before they left. We didn't set anything in stone though or talk to them about it anymore then just mentioning it once, because we didn't know what else we would have to do this weekend.

I got a call from my mom on Saturday but I don't check my phone too often when I'm not expecting to hear from anyone, so I didn't get that call or the next call or the next until Sunday afternoon. I finally call her back just to hear, "Where have you been? For all we knew you could have been in the hospital. You could have been in a car accident. You could have called us to let us know that you weren't coming over. You know you'll probably have the baby and just forget to call us until a week later, oh yeah the baby was born!"

I know my mom loves me, but seriously when will they let go? I actually don't WANT to call them every week because I feel like they just always need to know what I'm doing, if I'm going to church (that's a whole seperate can of worms), where I've been.

My parents were very overbearing when I was a teenager, but I kind of understood they were afraid. Even when I moved out at 18 they still didn't seem like they could let go.

So am I being insensitive to parents to just love and care, or is it right of me to feel like they are being overbearing? 

Wake_Life

My Mom and I are very close but when I first moved out I thought I was going to strangle her. She expected me to anwer my phone every time it rang. When I didn't she would say I was purposfully ignoring her calls, never mind the fact that I'd call her back an hour later or whenever I got the message or saw a missed call. I think she just missed me and missed telling me what to do.lol She still gets that way sometimes. I was in bed one day not feeling well early on in my pregnancy and didn't answer her calls. My brother lived with me at the time and she called him and refused to hang up until he came to my room to tell me to call her. They got into it because he didn't want to wake me up and told her he wasn't going to but she just kept on and on until he did. When I called her, she'd had a bad dream about me getting hurt or something and just had to hear my voice. She said if he wasn't going to wake me up then she was going to get into her truck and make the 45 minute drive to check on me herself. I told her she was being irrational but after we talked for like 2 minutes she was good and I went to bed. Crazy lady!lol. I love her to death though.  I guess it's sweet in an overbearing kind of way.    

BubFlink

I don't think parents ever want to let us go.  You only have to call them once a week!  I'm expected to call every other day and so is my sister.  My Mom recently told us it would be nice if she could hear from us daily.  ShEESH!

I don't think your Mom over-reacted to be quite honest.  Even if you just casually mentioned that you "may" drop by, your parents clearly planned on seeing you and your DH that day.  I know my Mom would have been really upset/worried too.  They are probably just really excited to share in your pregnancy and I suspect the overbearing sensation may get worse when you have your baby!

Good luck!

axr8111

If someone mentioned that they might be in my area, or possibly/maybe able to stop by, I would have expected a follow up call, especially if is was someone close like a sibling, child, parent, etc.?