NTTCR: Pregnant Friend Husband Cheating on Her!!

HJLT

Long story short, DH's coworker and his wife are really good friends of ours.  They are our TTTC friends, as they lost their baby last year at 24 weeks, got pregnant again and is due to give birth in 3 weeks. She called me yesterday to tell me that he told her on Friday that he doesn't want to be with her, he is unhappy and that he has been seeing someone else.  (The someone else is a girl that works in the same building as my DH and her husband.  She is a friend of them as a couple and she is also the girl who brought her to her baby shower.)  He told his wife that he is afraid to break it off with her because she might go around the job and say crazy stuff.  Apparently this has been going on for at least 5-6 months.  She confronted him before about them talking, texting all the time, but he said stop being so insecure, she is helping me with your baby shower. 

I feel so bad for her.  I don't know what to do.  I told her day or night, call me, I will come get her.  Anything.  I'm afraid for her to go into labor over the stress and him not be around.  She told me this morning that they are trying to work things out, but there is hurt on both sides. 

I just don't know what to do for her....

 

ladychicago

omg....   that is a big freakin' mess.      i can't even imagine!!!    

ginger67

My locks would have been changed by now and his s*it in the driveway. My next step would be to let her friends and family know. But thats just me.

HJLT

That is exactly what I said.

kjcullen

Oh! This is horrible. Having been in a bad spot myself once- I have to recommend a program called divorice busting. You can find the website by googling it. They have  councilors that are wonderful! And can do phone consults! I used them and can't say enough good things about them.

Their philosophy is that marriages CAN be saved, even when really bad/stupid stuff happens. Please have your friend call and schedule a councelling session ASAP! Although it helps to listen, be careful not to get involved too much as if things work out it will be easy for your friend to resent YOU since you are unhappy with her husband the pig (uhmm... calling it like it is).

Also- there is also a Divorce Busting book you can get for her- at any BN or Borders...

HJLT

optimist1:

Oh! This is horrible. Having been in a bad spot myself once- I have to recommend a program called divorice busting. You can find the website by googling it. They have  councilors that are wonderful! And can do phone consults! I used them and can't say enough good things about them.

Their philosophy is that marriages CAN be saved, even when really bad/stupid stuff happens. Please have your friend call and schedule a councelling session ASAP! Although it helps to listen, be careful not to get involved too much as if things work out it will be easy for your friend to resent YOU since you are unhappy with her husband the pig (uhmm... calling it like it is).

Also- there is also a Divorce Busting book you can get for her- at any BN or Borders...

 

Thanks for the recommendation.  I will pass it along to her if she wishes.  All I have been doing is listening to her.  I don't want to get involved at all besides just being there for her.  Even if they get back together, I can be nice to his face, but I will always hate this guy. 

2becomes3

It doesn't get much lower than this...and great job guy, telling her 3 weeks before she gives birth to your child.  you waited 5-6 months, and feel that NOW is the right time?  although I'm not sure that there's ever a right time.

If he were my husband, he would have every right to be afraid.  I would commit to personally ruining his and the other girls life in some way...and he could be damn sure I would bleed every dime out of him in child support that I could. 

There's no excuse for cheating, none.  Those two people will get what's coming to them.  That poor girl, and that poor baby. 

Grrrr....  sorry, this always hits a nerve with me.

Mrs.AmandaMqn

Your poor friend, what a scumbag that guy is! I hope everything works out for her.

If my H cheated on me, you would hear about it on the news because I'd go crazy on his arse and on the slut that he cheated with. Crazy like you couldn't imagine....

 

yodasmistress

*ouch*

momma mimi

I am so sorry to hear your friend is having to go through this. It is hard enough going through marital problems, let alone being so pregnant. I'm sure she is scared senseless about the future. I hope they are able to work things out if that is what they decide is best for them. But cheating causes a lot of hurt and takes a long time to mend from. Have they considered some counseling? She will be in my thoughts and prayers.

TiffanyA83

ginger67:

My locks would have been changed by now and his s*it in the driveway. My next step would be to let her friends and family know. But thats just me.

 THIS, definitely....likely because I have zero tolerance for stupidity.