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Infertility
TTC Since Dec 2006
*IVF #1 cancelled at ET*
*IVF #2 OHSS, transfer cancelled*
*FET #1 2 frosties, c/p*
*Lap April 2010, removed endometrioma/endo implants*
*Surprise BFP June 2010*
*Beautiful daughter born 2/14/11!!*
Thoughts from an Overwrought Mind
SAIFW
Why does it have to be so hard??
Warning, this is a vent. So last night I was invited to a Bunco game (good news, I had the most wins and won back my $5 buy-in, plus $15 more, 
) and obviously it was a room full of women. One of which was 20 weeks pregnant, just having found out they were having a boy. So of course discussions turned to babies and names, etc, etc.
Her being pregnant didn't bother me that much honestly. What bothered me was a couple of the other girls at the party. And I know, they don't know my issues, and even if they did it shouldn't make it where they can't discuss pregnancy. But it was just so hard to sit there and listen to it.
One of the girls is planning on getting pregnant in Oct (it only took her one try last time so why would she expect otherswise?), the other girl is trying now (she also has one already). They were giggling and laughing about racing to see who is first, about names, about it being difficult to go from one to two, and I just sat there completely silent.
I know this is getting longwinded, I am sorry. I guess my point is this: It's not fair. I want to sit and be excited and believe that I can get pregnant the first month I try, I want to believe that I can plan my life the I want it, I want to "race" my friends to see who can get pregnant first. I want to be naive and happy and hopeful and it's not fair.
Stupid I know, but, it is what it is.
TTC Since Dec 2006
*IVF #1 cancelled at ET*
*IVF #2 OHSS, transfer cancelled*
*FET #1 2 frosties, c/p*
*Lap April 2010, removed endometrioma/endo implants*
*Surprise BFP June 2010*
*Beautiful daughter born 2/14/11!!*
Thoughts from an Overwrought Mind
SAIFW
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Re: Why does it have to be so hard??
My blog: Making Me Mom
Because we're fancy like that.
PCOS, RPL, & Anti Cardiolipin Antibody
TTC Since 10/08 4 IUIs=BFNx4
IVF#1=BFP!! Twins!!
Bradley and Billy born and lost on 2/2/11 at 19w2d due to pPROM/PTL. I miss you, little angels.
IVF#2=BFN
IVF#3=c/p IVF#4=Empty Follicle Syndrome; 1 mature, fertilized, & made it to blast. 5dt of "the lone ranger" on 9/6. Please stick, little one!
(((HUGS)))
But kudos to you for holding it in until you could vent to people that understand
I've seen women who go absolutely postal over this kind of stuff. Upsetting, yes, but unfortunately something we have to deal with (especially now that it's "popular" to be pg)
SAIF Always Welcome
Diagnosed with PCOS: 10/03, On BCP to "treat" until: 7/09
Provera to end Cycles 1-9 (anovulatory)
Cycle #4 & 5: Clomid 50 mg FAIL
RE Visit: 2000 mg Metformin
Cycle 6:Forced Break, looking for androgen secreting tumor
Cycle 7:Clomid CD 3-10, 12-17 FAIL
Cycle 8: Clomid CD 3-10, Bravelle CD 12-24 Hyperstimmed
New RE: Put on Byetta, lost 23 lbs
Cycle 9: Financial Break
Cycle 10: Femara CD 3-7, IUI CD 17 BFP on 2/14/11, m/c 3/7/11
I love that you girls are here. I tried to explain to my husband last night and he just looked at me and felt bad. I know he tries and he feels badly that I am upset, but I don't think he "gets" it exactly.
I hate IF and I wish none of us had to go through this and feel this pain. (((HUGS))) to you all!
TTC Since Dec 2006
*IVF #1 cancelled at ET*
*IVF #2 OHSS, transfer cancelled*
*FET #1 2 frosties, c/p*
*Lap April 2010, removed endometrioma/endo implants*
*Surprise BFP June 2010*
*Beautiful daughter born 2/14/11!!*
Thoughts from an Overwrought Mind
SAIFW
I've sooooo been there. I sat at an impromtu baby shower (during an OOT wedding drip) listening to all of my friends talk about how long it took them to get pregnant. Every ONE got pregnant first time. At this point we'd been trying for months and had already started testing, and I just wanted to curl up and die. There was no way for them to know; and there was no way I wanted to share with them. But it was so. painful.
Like everyone said, IF is unfair. It just... is. And it sucks. I'm sorry!!!
I am a runner, knitter, scientist, DE-IVF veteran, and stage III colon cancer survivor.
Oh sweetie. I know how you're feeling and it's not stupid at all. IF fcking blows big donkey balls and it's so unfair that any of us have to deal with it.
We all understand how your feeling and sitting in silence while everyone else laughs and jokes about it is the worst feeling in the world. I'm so sorry honey. Vent to us all you want too. We totally understand how you're feeling.
((HUGS))
I was OOT, visiting my SIL and she took me to her Bunco group since they needed a sub. Of course, her entire group is made up of her MOPS group and friends from church. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM had kids, and one of the ladies was about to pop out her 2nd or 3rd child any day.
I was miserable! I leaned over to mty SIL (who knows all about my IF probs and is very supportive) and asked if any of the moms worked. Nope, all SAH moms...they sat around talking about evertything you had to listen to at your group, too.
I hated it. Couldn't wait to get out. And couldn't figure out how to answer people when they asked if DH and I wanted kids. Awkward...but I did walk away w/ a 15.00 GC to Target.
I totally feel you. Never want to go to a moms Bunco night, again. NEVER