3rd Trimester

Anyone else get sad about the LO at times?

I have this probably one or two times a week where I just get upset about losing our life as "the two of us".  I feel like we will never have any private time again or we won't be able to just be "us" again. I worry we will grow apart.

I know it's stupid, but I just do.

Re: Anyone else get sad about the LO at times?

  • No...b/c I know that most days it will just be us. :)  My hubby works 12 hours a day and my family is all at least an hour away so for the first few months, I'm FREAKED about how much LO time I will get alone!! :)
  • it is good to know that I am not alone.  i think it is a normal part of coping with the fact that there is a baby entering your life though.
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  • Take it from me - the LO will bring you closer together and you WILL have time together that will be even more special now.  Even when DH and I let my Mom take DS for the weekend, we feel lonely without him! 
  • Yes...as it is, we are already spending less time with one another.  We are going to have to get away, one weekend before the baby gets here. 

    BTW  DH has teenage kids, but its different...they tend to do their own thing and once in a while they will come out with us.  The baby will need our sole attention for a long time.

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  • I know what you mean....most of the time, I couldn't be more excited about the changes in store.  But every once in a while, the gravity of it all sinks in, and I get a little pang of sadness for the life we're saying goodbye to.

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  • I have been feeling this way at times too, but I always cry at endings
  • I think this is a pretty normal fear. Having a baby is a HUGE change and its normal to have some anxiety over that.

    I will say, though, that as long as you WANT to have that alone time, you will be able to. Maybe it won't be as much time as before, but you'll cherish it that much more. Your relationship will definitely change, but not necessarily in a bad way. 

    For me, the first few months after DD came were so hard on our relationship (it didn't help that we were building a house and DH was gone A LOT). Now? Our marriage is stronger than ever. 

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  • Every so often when he's kicking (or when the parents or in-laws are annoying me, haha) I get a little sad that when he gets here, then I have to share him with the world... but going overdue has definitely helped solve that problem.
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    Take it from me - the LO will bring you closer together and you WILL have time together that will be even more special now.  Even when DH and I let my Mom take DS for the weekend, we feel lonely without him! 

    I think this is what will happen with me..

  • We try to soak in our alone time now. We know our lives are going to change forever but we are looking forward to it. Enjoy your time now and don't worry about the future. You will find your alone time.
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  • YES!!  I think about it a lot.  Especially after days that we both have off work together.  Those days will never be the same.  It is sad!
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    Has anyone noticed that some people in this post are referring to time alone with the baby and others are referring to time alone with DH?

    I read it as time away from LO, since he/she won't be in the womb anymore, and we'll have to share our baby with everyone. I think only a couple other posters read it as that .... 

    But yes, I do think about that sometimes. I love having him inside my belly. But I'm so excited to have him here, too!

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