Let's talk alcohol

pivey

NYtimes article: re: mother who wrote Sippy Cups Are Not For Chardonnay, etc.

https://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/16/fashion/16drunk.html

My thoughts: 

1) There are significantly more mothers than people would expect who drink, and who, privately, probably question and review their daily consumption. You don't have to admit if you are one of these people, but I will admit I have.

2) I wonder, feminist in me, what men of equal age are doing. Why is their consumption not being questioned?

leslienpete

I caught myself beating myself up 2 months ago while at my BFF daughter's 1st bday party for drinking a beer while holding DD. Everyone else around me had a drink. Why did I all of a sudden feel bad for drinking A beer now that I am a Mom? I never would have thought twice about it pre-baby. Meanwhile, my husband had several beers w/ the guys. I'm sure the thought never crossed his mind to beat himself up now that he is a Dad.

EDIT - DD is a difficult baby and there are many days I look forward to having a couple of beers or glasses of wine. Gotta cope somehow! :-)

GASuzuki

Pivey, thanks for the article link. I love her Sippy Cups book and was surprised that she considered alcohol an issue. Wow. As for me, thanks to being dry during pregnancy and immediately afterward, I can only tolerate beer. And even that's no party.

I totally agree with you about men, too. It's totally a double standard, no? Did the Mad Men reality ever really stop being reality?

exhausted_bride

Wow, that is very interesting. I think its good she is sober now and can hopefully be an inspiration to others who drink too much. I think they are questioning mothers who drink because from what I got from the article, it's on the rise. I don't think it's sexist. I think you can aknowledge a rise in the rate of acoholic mothers without it being a sexist comment.

As for me, I happen to be drinking a glass of wine. But I limit myself to drinking only on the weekends and no more than two glasses a day.

LawLove08

Interesting article. ?I haven't read her books.

1. I'm not currently worried about my drinking - due to BFing I've had to be pretty light on the drinking. ?But with alcoholism in my family, and with the amount of stress I have in my job, I worried about my drinking pre-pg. ?In law school DH and I would polish off a bottle of wine a night. ?And I have plenty of friends who I think turn to alcohol to escape their stress w/ family and balancing everything in life.

2. It is totally a double standard between men and women. ??

Mrs.Hizzo

I for one look forward to a beer at the end of the day. And it's never even crossed my mind that that's a problem. It's not really any different than before I had kids and was working 55 hours a week. I got home at night and cracked open a beer and relaxed. Now I get the kids bathed and Clay nursed and everyone in bed and I do the same thing. I didn't feel guilty about it then and I don't feel guilty about it now.