Worried about a wedding this weekend :-/

MrsPatterson

A couple that DH and I are close to are getting married this weekend, and DH is in the wedding party.  I knew it was going to be a long day, but we just got the itinerary for Saturday and it's going to absolutely murder me.  The wedding is at 1:30, then the spouses will join the bridal party in the limo to go around and take pictures, etc.  The cocktail hour begins at 6, dinner isn't served until 7:45, and the reception ends at midnight. 

THEN DH tells me that one of the groom's friends rented out the basement of a local restaurant/bar for an after-party and of course, DH wants to go.  We are driving another groomsman and his wife that day, and I'm sure the groomsman will want to go as well.  I don't want to be the downer of the party, but I know that by the time to reception is over, I will want nothing more than to go home and get into pajamas and collapse into bed.  I honestly am not sure that I can physically make it through that day, esp. since by the end of the night I'll pretty much be the DD/babysitter because everyone will be wasted.

HisKathy

That is a long day!  Hopefully you can sleep in that morning.  That's one heck of a long reception and to have an after party after that....wow.  If someone else is willing to be the DD or a cab can be called maybe you can just go home when you want to during/after the reception.  There's no reason to make a pregnant woman wear herself ragged to be people's babysitter.  I'm sure your DH can do without you and if not he should respect what  you need to do to best take care of yourself and your baby.  Good luck, it should be fun anyway!

Lucky428

That is NOT okay.  Put your foot down!!  They can find another DD.  Just reading that exhausts me.  The wedding/reception will be so tiring by itself.  Maybe they can drop you off.

GL!

gallerygirl

I'm having a hard time doing this myself sometimes, but you need to say No. Taking care of your body and baby need to come first. Try to grab a nap between the wedding and reception. Let your H know that the after party is out for you. If it were my husband, I would tell him to go, but I would head home. GL!

BeckyS1211

I'm sorry girl, that sucks!  Make sure you pack some snacks and water in your purse because it sounds like there will be a lot of time between feedings!  I went to a beach wedding last weekend and almost passed out because it was sooo hot and I needed to eat because things took longer than I had expected.

mrstyson03

Lucky428:

That is NOT okay.  Put your foot down!!  They can find another DD.  Just reading that exhausts me.  The wedding/reception will be so tiring by itself.  Maybe they can drop you off.

GL!

This! That is all simply too much. Good grief, who planned that wedding? They just need to find another DD and drop you off like Lucky said.

mikkimikey

Wow, that really is a lot!  Is there any way to get out of doing all of that?  Maybe go home and take a nap between the wedding and the cocktail hours? (BTW, that many hours between the wedding and the cocktail hour sounds like a LOT!)

MrsGhappilyeverafter

gallerygirl:

I'm having a hard time doing this myself sometimes, but you need to say No. Taking care of your body and baby need to come first. Try to grab a nap between the wedding and reception. Let your H know that the after party is out for you. If it were my husband, I would tell him to go, but I would head home. GL!

Ditto this.  That sounds like a rough day for a pregnant woman.  Make sure to take care of yourself so you don't feel awful the next day.