So DH doesn't want me to take the MAP

Judah'sMommy

I think he's psychotic.  I mean, I meant what I said last night and I do *wish* I could get pregnant now.  But it just isn't smart at all.  He said "well I wish you'd told me all this before I quit my job!" lol

We're going to talk about it again tonight.  He's torn too.  But we're 95% sure that he knocked me up last night.  It's weird.

Toosdai

Yikes! When do you have to take it for it to be effective?

102503Natalie

Eeek!  What a hard decision to make!

GL with whatever you decide!

1MusicMaker

I am such a nerd--I read your title as "Measures of Academic Progress" MAP.  Anywho...

How long do you have to take the morning after pill?  I'm assuming more than the morning after--48 hours?  Are the job prospects good for DH?  It almost sounds like you want to be pregnant, except for the job situation.

Judah'sMommy

Toosdai:

Yikes! When do you have to take it for it to be effective?

Within 72 hours but the sooner the better.  The clinic isn't open until tomorrow so I have to wait until then anyway.  I'm pretty sure I'm going to go.  It would be totally irresponsible to get pregnant now.  Being a grown-up means you can't always get what you want I guess.

Nicole731

If it makes you feel any better...there is only a 20% chance of pregnancy on any given cycle if you have sex during your fertile period. So of course there is always a chance, but probably not as big as you think. Good luck with whatever you decide, that's a tough one!

Judah'sMommy

1MusicMaker:

I am such a nerd--I read your title as "Measures of Academic Progress" MAP.  Anywho...

How long do you have to take the morning after pill?  I'm assuming more than the morning after--48 hours?  Are the job prospects good for DH?  It almost sounds like you want to be pregnant, except for the job situation.

It's not just the job situation.  I just started working full time, I'm a part time law student, etc.  I'm already totally overwhelmed.  The problem is that we planned to wait 5 years for any more, but as I've told DH if I have to wait 5 years I don't think I will want any more kids.  DH definitely does though.  So basically if J isn't going to be an only child the time is now.  He keeps telling me that a May baby is perfect and I won't be in school over the summer... uh, yeah OK DH.

EDD36JJM

That stinks.....I feel for you.  Sounds like if DH had a job you'd be happy.

NewlywednOhio

Oh, boy...

It's always hard when one person feels strongly about something while the other feels strongly about something in the other direction.

I think it's smart that you are thinking about the "now" and not chancing anything with a new pregnancy with your DH's job situation.

I have friends that have taken the MAP, and they were very grateful they did.

Either way, GL with what you two decide.

kgrl21

You sound 95% sure you don't want another now. That's tough but like you said you have a lot on your plate right now. Why does it have to be 5 years in between and not say 3 or 4 years? Or at least until DH is stable in a new job?

MsTammy

Good Luck with your decision! I know it must be a hard one to make.

Judah'sMommy

kgrl21:

You sound 95% sure you don't want another now. That's tough but like you said you have a lot on your plate right now. Why does it have to be 5 years in between and not say 3 or 4 years? Or at least until DH is stable in a new job?

Because I just started law school part time and the plan was to wait until a year after I start working as a lawyer (5 years).

Temp174496125006552

Good luck with your decision.

lisaroo

Good luck, that's tough. We timed this pregnancy around DH's law school schedule too.