What will you have your kids' friends call you?

KimboRambo

I was with a friend last night who wants her kids' friends to call her Mrs. H___. I'm fine with Kim. I think it's regional, no? I grew up in SoCal where we're all so casual and informal so I don't find it rude to address an adult by their first name, unless they request otherwise.

hippotree

By my first name is fine.  Around here, kids seem to call adults Mr./Miss FirstName but I sort of hate that.  And Mr./Mrs. LastName is too formal IMO.

KittyCatBio

i think that's up to their parents.  i personally don't care.  i'm sure that the daycare habit of "miss/mr. first name" will stick with my own child.

southernbelle82

Mrs. Last Name here.  Here it's about respect for your elders.  If they want to do Mrs. First initial of last name, I'm fine with that.

Faith1318

For close friends' kids (or kids' friends) who see me often and know me well, first name will be fine. For kids who don't know me so well, I think Mrs. Last Name is appropriate.

As long as they're respectful, though, I'll just go with whatever their own parents tell them to call me. ?

MandC17

I wouldn't mind if they call my by my first name.

MattsWifey<3

by my name some kids here already call me Miss Jen... I am not into formalities.

618mom22boys

Nope just by my 1st name.  It makes me feel like my mom or something when they say Mrs.

102503Natalie

I couldn't care less, but I always called my friends' mothers Mrs. So and So.  Or more like Miss So and So b/c I didn't know the difference back then. 

Maybe in the south this is the way its done?  I don't know - it always seemed appropriate to put a Mrs. in front of the first name - at least that's how we all did it.

LoriFalce

Mrs. Falce.

But I also get really bugged when adults assume it's okay to call me Lori. Um, sorry Mr. Electric Company Customer Service Guy, but we aren't buddies. You really don't get to do that.

Also...what about nieces/nephews? I call all my aunts/uncles Aunt____ and Uncle _____, and I expect (and get) the same. I think it's disrespectful when kids call their aunts/uncles just by their first name.

beckys96

I'm cool with my first name.  However I would like DD to call her DCP Ms. Liz.  A few of our good friends kids will end up calling us aunt and uncle...

May524

102503Natalie:

Maybe in the south this is the way its done?  I don't know - it always seemed appropriate to put a Mrs. in front of the first name - at least that's how we all did it.

Same here. I still call my friends parents "Mrs.First name". I would just assume my kids' friends would do the same.

brandonsfuturewife07

princess consuela bananahammock

Shell24

I would expect that the first time they meet me/address me they refer to me as Mrs. M____. but I would tell them immediately to call me Michelle.  My parent were always like that and I'm just not a formal person. 

I will always teach my kids that they refer to any adult as Mr./Mrs./Ms. last name until told otherwise. 

My inlaws were Mr. and Mrs. until we were engaged and while I respected it, it's so foreign to me 

Shell24

LoriFalce:

Mrs. Falce.

But I also get really bugged when adults assume it's okay to call me Lori. Um, sorry Mr. Electric Company Customer Service Guy, but we aren't buddies. You really don't get to do that.

Also...what about nieces/nephews? I call all my aunts/uncles Aunt____ and Uncle _____, and I expect (and get) the same. I think it's disrespectful when kids call their aunts/uncles just by their first name.

I agree with this too, especially the aunt/uncle part.  My DH's oldest brother has his kids just call us by first name and it irritates the piss out of me. 

LoriFalce

brandonsfuturewife07:

princess consuela bananahammock

Well, yeah, but doesn't everybody call you that?

jenifairies

i agree with you. if they want to make their kids call me something, fine. but i'm cool with jennifer.

my friends and i all seem to have fallen into the pattern of 'aunt jennifer' and i refer to them as aunt and uncle too. they're close friends. she doesn't call anyone anything yet. when she does, as far as strangers go, i think i'll teach her to call them mr/miss first name and then leave it in their court. except in the case of older people. i'd probably refer to them as mr/mrs last name. it reallly depends on the person, you know? if they're cool with first name only, then she can call them that. i don't really care.

secuccaro

southernbelle82:

Mrs. Last Name here.  Here it's about respect for your elders.  If they want to do Mrs. First initial of last name, I'm fine with that.

This.  It's what my mom made us do when we were kids.  My friends NOW still call my parents Mr. and Mrs. C.  If my last name is hard for kids to say, they can use Mrs. P. 

kgb1411

secuccaro:

southernbelle82:

Mrs. Last Name here.  Here it's about respect for your elders.  If they want to do Mrs. First initial of last name, I'm fine with that.

This.  It's what my mom made us do when we were kids.  My friends NOW still call my parents Mr. and Mrs. C.  If my last name is hard for kids to say, they can use Mrs. P. 

lol...I still call my friends parents Mr./Mrs. too.  I call my IL's Mr. and Mrs. as well. 

Temp174496125006552

A few of my closest friends have kids and they call me 'Aunt Cheryll' - and my daughter calls them 'Aunt (insert name)'.  Ben will do the same.

I don't want to be called Mrs. (last name).  It's too stuffy for me.

MsTammy

They can call me Tammy.

LoriFalce

kgb1411:

secuccaro:

southernbelle82:

Mrs. Last Name here.  Here it's about respect for your elders.  If they want to do Mrs. First initial of last name, I'm fine with that.

This.  It's what my mom made us do when we were kids.  My friends NOW still call my parents Mr. and Mrs. C.  If my last name is hard for kids to say, they can use Mrs. P. 

lol...I still call my friends parents Mr./Mrs. too.  I call my IL's Mr. and Mrs. as well. 

My ex's mother always wanted me to call her by her first name. I just couldn't. And it was doubly hard to do it because she was my sister's 6th grade teacher, so I was used to her being Mrs. XXXXX. I avoided calling her anything altogether.

Now I do the same with FIL. Calling him "Lifesucking Leech" just seems so rude. At least, to his face, anyway.

Amrice78

LoriFalce:

Mrs. Falce.

But I also get really bugged when adults assume it's okay to call me Lori. Um, sorry Mr. Electric Company Customer Service Guy, but we aren't buddies. You really don't get to do that.

Also...what about nieces/nephews? I call all my aunts/uncles Aunt____ and Uncle _____, and I expect (and get) the same. I think it's disrespectful when kids call their aunts/uncles just by their first name.

This and it annoys the crap out of me when my 12 year old niece addresses me as "Amy" I correct her every time.

sme14

southernbelle82:

Mrs. Last Name here.  Here it's about respect for your elders.  If they want to do Mrs. First initial of last name, I'm fine with that.

 

I completely agree.  I grew up w/ using Mr./Mrs./Ms last name or first letter of the last name, and so will DD.  It is a respect thing and I do not like it when kids call adults by their first name.

nicoleRI

Combo of all of the above posts- closest friends kids will call me Auntie Nicole, not close friend's kids already called me Mrs. ____ and I almost fell off my chair laughing.  But, that is what the parents wanted and clearly thought was respectful- so I left it alone.  With my DS- I have no idea what to do about this outside of my closest friends that are Auntie _____.  I am not even a big fan of the Auntie thing if not really related, but I don't know what else to do.  The formal thing kills me.

Amrice78

I also agree with the close friends' kids calling me "Auntie Amy"  I already refer to all of my close friends as Auntie to ds.

ckolak:-)

I actually like the idea of Miss Tena, since my last name is crazy hard for a little kid to pronounce. Alternately Mrs. K, but I think Miss Tena would be what I'd prefer, because it still denotes some amount of respect but it's not super formal.

ckolak:-)

brandonsfuturewife07:

princess consuela bananahammock

 

LOL

jlw2505

my 1st name, that is what all of my 3 year old DD's friends call me and what all of our friends are doing.  Growing up, I did call my friends by MR/Mrs XYZ but I think times have changed and things are just more casual now.  I know at daycare, the teachers go by Teacher Maddie or just Maddie depending on the age of the kids.