Emotional after f/u appt

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I had my follow-up appointment yesterday 12 days after myD&C.  My biggest fear was seeingpregnant women in the waiting room. Thankfully it was empty when I arrived and I was in the room before Iknew it.  The nurse left and while I waswaiting for the doctor, I stared at the familiar pregnancy nutritionposter.  I had to fight back tears for noreal reason.  The doctor came and wentwith predictable but overall positive news ? don?t ttc until you have 3periods,  no sex, tampons or running for4-6 weeks, etc.  When I was walking outof the office, I started crying.  By thetime I got to my car, I was sobbing.  Iknew I wasn?t pregnant.  It?s not like Iexpected them to say, ?Wait, we missed something.  You are still pregnant.  And wow, the baby looks so healthy!?  but it still felt more final.  I had to sit in the car for a long time untilI was ready to drive and was very emotional for the rest of the day.  Did anyone else experience this?

LLRT

So sorry you had to experience this. I have my f/u tomorrow, it was supposed to be a f/u to my 5w1d ultrasound due to low HCG levels but now it is to confirm everything passed on its own. Like you, I was thinking how odd and random would it be if everything in there was fine and that I was pregnant? I realize that isn't what is going to happen but everything just seemed to fly by and now be so final and empty.

 Hopefully my husband can contain me tomorrow, I know there will be an abundance of happy pregnant women walking around, and one of 'em won't be me.

babygirlpriest

Ugh! I'm sorry you had such a rough day.

Tomorrow was supposed to be my 12 wk check-up. Instead it's my 10 day post-op check-up. It's not just that I know I'll see pg. women there but I imagine it'll be impossible to sit there and not think about all the emotions and memories from the last time I was there and happy.

Thank god DH is coming with me and I won't have to drive.

AMG06

I miscarried on Saturday but never went to the ER or doctor because it just seemed like a normal "period" for me. When I went into the doctor on Monday I was feeling much better emotionally, but by the time I left I was sobbing on the walk to my car, just like you. I, too, knew and expected everything the doctor said, but it was still a lot to take in and emotional none-the-less. Now I feel as if I have some closure and can move on. I hope you will feel that way soon too.

KelleyBean

My follow up is tomorrow morning and I am dreading it.

Tapsalteerie

I did surprisingly well at my F/U appointment.  However, other things have set me off and it did take me awhile to realize that what I was experiencing was not a dream, that I really had lost my baby.

But, it does get better with time and my pain has lessened.  I hope that it lessens for you as well... and soon.

I'm so sorry you had such a hard day yesterday.  I hope things are going a bit better for you today.

Kel&Jay

I had a really hard time at my first f/u appt.  Luckily there weren't very many people in the waiting room at the time.  But my Dr. totally understood and actually expected it.  She says it totally normal.

Good luck to all of you with f/u appts tomorrow. 

Scout17

I am so sorry for your loss.  I had the same emotional reaction to my f/u appt (last Monday).  I had been feeling like I was handling everything better and it just seemed to put me right back to where I started. Now that it's been a few days, I feel like I'm doing better again.  I'm thinking that from now on there are just going to be alot of ups and downs, but at least I realize now that there will be an up.  I know when I'm right in the middle of it, it just feels like it's going to be that way forever.  I hope today is better for you... 

babes12

i'm sorry you felt that way but i can definitely relate.  going to my doc after 1wk giving birth felt so weird since it was my original pregnancy appt. but the reason for the appt. had changed, i was no longer pg. and my baby had passed away.  it's supposed to be an exciting time but turns into a very sad time. 

feel better soon. 

vkbaby09

What you're feeling is totally normal.  It's hard every time that it hits me - that what I experienced wasn't a horrible nightmare.  ((((((((((big hugs))))))))))))

hopingwaiting

Yes.  Had the same reaction to my post- D&C appt, and totally wasn't expecting it.  There were a ton of pg ladies in the waiting room, going back to the ultrasound room again brought back memories, and when I left I realized I wouldn't be going back to Ob again until I got pg again, so it hit me that it was really over.  Many emotions.  I felt terrible that day, then got a good night's sleep and felt mostly better the next day.