My brother is an azzzzhole - vent

Thusadeedoo

My brother is getting married in November and his FI's shower is Sept. She comes from a large family that goes to weddings pretty much twice a year for the past 5 years. Her mother suggested we ask people to not wrap gifts. Before the invites went out I said I didn't think this was a good idea, tacky and that my family probably would still wrap gifts. They overrode me because they think its too long of a process to have her open gifts. (there will be 90 people at the shower).

Well now that the invites are out people are starting to talk. Now its turned into a fiasco and my brother is being a drama queen about it.Seriously get over it.

iowandfw

not wrap gifts? the women I know LOVE to wrap shitup.

90 people? holy cow. 

Thusadeedoo

iowandfw:

not wrap gifts? the women I know LOVE to wrap shitup.

90 people? holy cow. 

THIS. Our family is not as large as hers and the whole point of these ladies going to the shower is to watch her unwrap gifts and see what she got. Its what these little old ladies live for in our family. The last shower our family went to was mine 2 years ago. She just went to one last week,

Seriously, 90 people at some fancy pants place too. Coooome on. I am so over wedding crap.

Dee1028

1- I don't believe in wedding showers (why have a shower for an event you get gifts for anyway? Wedding showers were created a long time ago when the couple did not live together until after the wedding...I appreciate why some people have them but I personally think they are useless and I didn't want one)

2- Not wrap gifts?? How about these people are going out of their way and spending money to get you a gift and if they want the joy of wrapping it and then watching the girl's reaction then let them have that!

Sorry you are having to deal with all of this unnecessary  drama! Good luck getting through the next few months!

preppynewlywed

not wrap gifts?

Odd.

Lambie.

It is hilarious to me that wedding drama always seems like such a HUGE deal to the people involved and just sounds petty to the random observer.

iowandfw

Thusadeedoo:

iowandfw:

not wrap gifts? the women I know LOVE to wrap shitup.

90 people? holy cow. 

THIS. Our family is not as large as hers and the whole point of these ladies going to the shower is to watch her unwrap gifts and see what she got. Its what these little old ladies live for in our family. The last shower our family went to was mine 2 years ago. She just went to one last week,

Seriously, 90 people at some fancy pants place too. Coooome on. I am so over wedding crap.

I don't know if 90 people even came to our wedding. 

I hope that the old ladies in your family get their kicks- Mine would be VERY disappointed in not wrapping or stuffing. To them, thats half the gift.

what a blender without the bow?

good luck with this. I feel bad for you.

what exactly is your brother doing?

Thusadeedoo

Lambie.:

It is hilarious to me that wedding drama always seems like such a HUGE deal to the people involved and just sounds petty to the random observer.

No, Lambie its pretty F'ing stupid any way you look at it, but my brother loves to cause unecessary drama. Seriously, thats nice that you requested the gifts be unwrapped but some people just like in everyday life, aren't going to follow the rules. At that point everyone should just get over it.

Lambie.

I wasn't suggesting it's a big deal to you but clearly to your brother, which is the funny part.  They are gifts, wrapped or not.  If you want to wrap it fine, if you don't wrap it fine.  He probably thinks it's huge though.

Mommy2Gav

I had about 90 ppl at my bridal shower- and they all wrapped their gifts. It was not a big deal at all. It doesn't take that long to rip some paper...

iowandfw

i still shocked at the 90 people part.

I must come from an incredibly small family...

Thusadeedoo

Lambie.:

I wasn't suggesting it's a big deal to you but clearly to your brother, which is the funny part.  They are gifts, wrapped or not.  If you want to wrap it fine, if you don't wrap it fine.  He probably thinks it's huge though.

Your right! He is just randomly calling my mom saying how difficult it is for the Bride and Groom to get what they want and yadya, and that if he knew it was going to be this much drama he would have eloped. Then he gets so dramatic and says that he is going to take these poor little ladies gifts and unwrap them as they come in the door.

Please dude, get over yourself...your clearly in this for the WRONG reasons.

Thusadeedoo

iowandfw:

i still shocked at the 90 people part.

I must come from an incredibly small family...

I had about 30 at my shower. It was at home, quaint and I loved it.

Other from it being the hottest day of the year.

iowandfw

Thusadeedoo:

Lambie.:

I wasn't suggesting it's a big deal to you but clearly to your brother, which is the funny part.  They are gifts, wrapped or not.  If you want to wrap it fine, if you don't wrap it fine.  He probably thinks it's huge though.

Your right! He is just randomly calling my mom saying how difficult it is for the Bride and Groom to get what they want and yadya, and that if he knew it was going to be this much drama he would have eloped. Then he gets so dramatic and says that he is going to take these poor little ladies gifts and unwrap them as they come in the door.

Please dude, get over yourself...your clearly in this for the WRONG reasons.

how old is he? 2?  Good Lord, grow up. 

Thusadeedoo

iowandfw:

Thusadeedoo:

Lambie.:

I wasn't suggesting it's a big deal to you but clearly to your brother, which is the funny part.  They are gifts, wrapped or not.  If you want to wrap it fine, if you don't wrap it fine.  He probably thinks it's huge though.

Your right! He is just randomly calling my mom saying how difficult it is for the Bride and Groom to get what they want and yadya, and that if he knew it was going to be this much drama he would have eloped. Then he gets so dramatic and says that he is going to take these poor little ladies gifts and unwrap them as they come in the door.

Please dude, get over yourself...your clearly in this for the WRONG reasons.

how old is he? 2?  Good Lord, grow up. 

He is a 29 year old BABY

Thusadeedoo

iowandfw:

Thusadeedoo:

Lambie.:

I wasn't suggesting it's a big deal to you but clearly to your brother, which is the funny part.  They are gifts, wrapped or not.  If you want to wrap it fine, if you don't wrap it fine.  He probably thinks it's huge though.

Your right! He is just randomly calling my mom saying how difficult it is for the Bride and Groom to get what they want and yadya, and that if he knew it was going to be this much drama he would have eloped. Then he gets so dramatic and says that he is going to take these poor little ladies gifts and unwrap them as they come in the door.

Please dude, get over yourself...your clearly in this for the WRONG reasons.

how old is he? 2?  Good Lord, grow up. 

A 29 year old baby. He really needs to grow up

Thanks ladies for not making me freel crazy about being upset with this.

lecooke

Well, if you have to go and you're not supposed to wrap the gift, I say you get her the cheapest, most embarrassing lingerie or "toy" you can find.

I'm thinking Walmart skank...

Thusadeedoo

lecooke:

Well, if you have to go and you're not supposed to wrap the gift, I say you get her the cheapest, most embarrassing lingerie or "toy" you can find.

I'm thinking Walmart skank...

Have I told you lately, that I LOVE You???

Lambie.

Love this idea.  I have some candy nipple tassels I can regift to you.

Thusadeedoo

Lambie.:

Love this idea.  I have some candy nipple tassels I can regift to you.

 

SAWWWWWEEET. Thats perfect!

Mrs_Liberto

Boy do I feel your pain. I got "kicked out" of my sister's wedding (and I'm the MOH) yesterday because I wanted to wear taller shoes.

She's refusing to speak to me because I wouldn't "shut my damn mouth and wear the shoes she picked".

Don't worry. They'll come around. In your case, your brother will wind up looking like an asshat to all the little old ladies in your family. In mine, my sister is going look like a tool w/o a MOH, no shower (since I am throwing it) and no wedding cake (since I'm supposed to make it).

KatieM1106

I was just thinking about this issue from an environmental perspective... the last time I went to a shower, I was horrified by the amount of gift wrap used! It sounds like there may be an eco-friendly perspective the bride did not mention to you? 

mrs_b_2007

Mrs_Liberto:

Boy do I feel your pain. I got "kicked out" of my sister's wedding (and I'm the MOH) yesterday because I wanted to wear taller shoes.

She's refusing to speak to me because I wouldn't "shut my damn mouth and wear the shoes she picked".

Don't worry. They'll come around. In your case, your brother will wind up looking like an asshat to all the little old ladies in your family. In mine, my sister is going look like a tool w/o a MOH, no shower (since I am throwing it) and no wedding cake (since I'm supposed to make it).

man, weddings make people crazy. I was in a wedding where the bride FLIPPED out b/c the shoes didn't dye the exact PERFECT shade of lime green as our dresses. really? is it THAT big of a deal? Then when it came time for my wedding, I told the BM's to get whatever shoes they wanted, as long as they could be dyed brown. She told me she was just going to wear a pair of brown sandals that she had. OK really? I LOVE how people get so worked up when it's their OWN - but could give 2 shats otherwise. it's comical. 

 

Mrs_Liberto

mrs_b_2007:

Mrs_Liberto:

Boy do I feel your pain. I got "kicked out" of my sister's wedding (and I'm the MOH) yesterday because I wanted to wear taller shoes.

She's refusing to speak to me because I wouldn't "shut my damn mouth and wear the shoes she picked".

Don't worry. They'll come around. In your case, your brother will wind up looking like an asshat to all the little old ladies in your family. In mine, my sister is going look like a tool w/o a MOH, no shower (since I am throwing it) and no wedding cake (since I'm supposed to make it).

man, weddings make people crazy. I was in a wedding where the bride FLIPPED out b/c the shoes didn't dye the exact PERFECT shade of lime green as our dresses.

Oh, the shoes my sister picked for the bmaids for her wedding are that same "perfect" shade of apple green. I have to pay to order/ship the shoes to myself, make sure they fit, and then pay to turn around and have them shipped to her in AZ. She wants them dyed w/ all the other bmaid's shoes because she thinks the dye lots would be different enough across the country that our shoes would wind up "looking wrong".

 

liz_e34

::sigh:: I guess being grateful that 90 people want to show up to a party in your honor and buy you crap is just too much for some people to handle.

The wedding crazies make me sad. 

mrs_b_2007

Mrs_Liberto:

mrs_b_2007:

Mrs_Liberto:

Boy do I feel your pain. I got "kicked out" of my sister's wedding (and I'm the MOH) yesterday because I wanted to wear taller shoes.

She's refusing to speak to me because I wouldn't "shut my damn mouth and wear the shoes she picked".

Don't worry. They'll come around. In your case, your brother will wind up looking like an asshat to all the little old ladies in your family. In mine, my sister is going look like a tool w/o a MOH, no shower (since I am throwing it) and no wedding cake (since I'm supposed to make it).

man, weddings make people crazy. I was in a wedding where the bride FLIPPED out b/c the shoes didn't dye the exact PERFECT shade of lime green as our dresses.

Oh, the shoes my sister picked for the bmaids for her wedding are that same "perfect" shade of apple green. I have to pay to order/ship the shoes to myself, make sure they fit, and then pay to turn around and have them shipped to her in AZ. She wants them dyed w/ all the other bmaid's shoes because she thinks the dye lots would be different enough across the country that our shoes would wind up "looking wrong".

 

woah. I just don't understand. People don't notice your shoes THAT much! I mean it's not like yours will be hot pink or something!

 then again, the bride I mentioned was the same one who told us none of us could paint our nails pink - or any color other than French for that matter. As she was afraid it would "ruin her photos".