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one thing I never thought I would have to pick out for our daughter-- a gravestone

tryingforbabyLtryingforbabyL
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So we went to visit Hope at the grave yard today, after we went to the memorial store.  It was closed, but we walked around the area set up outside that showed all the options.  Hope was buried in my mother's plot next to my father. When the time comes, my mother will be buried ontop of Hope. There is already a headstone there for my dad with my moms name on it.  We are thinking of getting a plaque on the ground for Hope for infront of the headstone already there.  There are way too many options.

It just does not seem right to even have to think about this ...

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Re: one thing I never thought I would have to pick out for our daughter-- a gravestone

  • monica92603monica92603 member

    let me first say I'm so so sorry for your loss.  Next, I have to say how brave I think you and your H are.  My H and I did not have it in us to do what you did.  I don't have it in me to go into detail but I just wanted to say that my thoughts and prayers are with you. 

    You are 110% right.  NO person should have to go through what we have been through.

    BFP #1 5/10/06 ...m/mc @11.5w 6/29/06 D&C 6/30/06
    BFP #2 10/29/08 ...stillborn via c/s @41w 7/20/09
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    missing my baby everyday
    BFP #3 1/20/10 My angel's little sister Grace Madison was born September 8th 2010 @37w. We're so blessed! Thank you angel for getting her here safely.
    BFP #4 12/30/11. Jackson Christopher 8/22/2012 via repeat c/s @ 37w 3d
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  • BAM_2780BAM_2780
    I agree with Monica in that you are incredibly brave and we didn't ahve it in us to do what you have done either.  Best wishes to you and your family.  I hope things get easier for you.  
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  • 3ltlones3ltlones member
    It is the hardest thing in the world to do.  I actually couldn't get my daughter buried, we have her ashes here because I just can't do it.  I think a plaque for her would be really nice, and I think it's wonderful that she is buried with her grandpa.  I'm so sorry that you had to do this, you are right, no mother should ever have to do it.  Sending you hugs.
    DD(9)DD(5.5)DS(3)DS(born 2/1/11) July 2006, lost a baby at 8 weeks, natural miscarriage , May 2009 lost Zoe Eliana at 17 weeks no reason known, possible under developed organs. Lost two more babies in September 2009 at 7 wks 4 days. Had myomectomy surgery to remove a large fibroid in November 2009.
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  • mrsmacias2008mrsmacias2008 member
    I am so sorry you are going through this too. It's so hard. My daughter was born a few weeks ago, too early. I think I just sat there in shock when picking out her headstone because it doesn't seem real...I feel I should be waking up from a bad dream.
    MY FOUR ANGELS... M/C 12/26/02 AT 4 WEEKS M/C 12/31/07 AT 12 WEEKS, D & C M/C 12/5/08 AT 9 WEEKS, D & C ***BFP ON 3/26/09*** MARY REYNA BORN AND PASSED AWAY JULY 31ST, 2009 AT 23 WEEKS. GOODBYE SWEET BABY...I WILL MISS YOU FOREVER. ***AFTER 17 WEEKS ON BEDREST*** Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • vkbaby09vkbaby09
    It's not right or fair to have to do any of this.  Take your time and someday you will be ready to pick out the headstone.  I'm sure anything you pick will be nice though.
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