depression while on bedrest

Angeline924

i have been on strict bed rest?(i'm only allowed to get up to use the bathroom and to shower for 5 mins every other day)?for two weeks now after having an emergency cerclage?@ 22w3d. i am SO thankful and feel so blessed that the doctors were able to do this procedure to give our baby a fighting chance. before this i was absolutely LOVING pregnancy, i was honestly the happiest i can remember being in a long time. everyday i feel less and less like myself-i'm?either so preoccupied about the risks of having the baby too soon or am overcome with sadness about not being able to do any of the things that i am so used to doing. its funny the little things you take for granted. these days the only thing i look forward to is feeling the LO kick (he/she is VERY active) and having visitors. just wondering if any of the other ladies on?bed rest?have experience and advice on how you have coped. i obviously want my baby to have as much time as he/she needs to grow but the thought of being on bed rest until the end of?november?is devastating.

Mrs.Babbsy

I hear you on everything you are saying. It sucks BAD. I cry a lot.

 I have been on hospital bed rest for 4 weeks and I will be here until the end. We have no end date in mind yet.

GL and hang in there. I am not going to tell you it's worth it because you know that already!

I started bedrest at week 20, put in the hospital for a week. I came back at week 27 and I am now 31.

megsok11

I can empathize with you.  I have been on bedrest since i was 22wk6d, that was on July 14th.  I didn't have to get a cerclage, but I was also having cervical problems like you.  I am expecting to be on bedrest probably for most of the rest of my pregnancy, though they may give me modified rest after next week.  that will still have been 6weeks on strict bedrest though.

 You know, during my first week of bedrest, i think i cried everyday.  I was so upset that this was not at all how i planned for my pregnancy to be.  I loved sharing my pregnancy with my family, friends, and colleagues.  Now i'm stuck on my couch all day, many days all by myself.  i also worried a lot about the baby and what this meant for future pregnancies as well.  As time passed though, i had a lot of encouragement and support from my husband, family, friends, and church.  Over time you realize that this is all part of God's plan and that the only thing you can do is follow doctors orders and work toward the ultimate goal, which is a healthy baby. 

 If you have a lot of time on your hands to think about things that make you feel depressed, it helps to get yourself on a daily schedule of activities to occupy your mind.  In between times when visitors come, i keep a journal, surf the internet (including message boards for support), read, do puzzle books, and i'm learning spanish.  It's a tough and unexpected road to travel, but i'm sure you know it will be well worth it in the end.  sorry this is so long, but i wanted to try and help you out.  you're my neighbor!  GL and keep your head up!

misscinn

i'm sorry you're having to go through this as well. i actually haven't been able to walk more than a 1/2 block w/out my uterus going into spasm since pretty much the beginning of my pregnancy. with every dr.'s visit my restrictions list becomes longer. i haven't had a cerclage, but my cervix is vulnerable and since the beginning has felt a constant pressure and now w/ the baby growing - along w/ a 10cm fibroid sitting on top of cervix, the sensation is constant. i had difficulty getting pregnant and my dr. calls this a "fluke" so we're taking all the necessary precautions. on top of all this , i cannot get in a good position to sleep ( the fibroid makes it uncomfortable) so i'm up most the night, sleeping at the most 3 hrs. a night.

i'm fortunate to have an incredible husband because i've come to realize that most of my so called friends are worthless. this experience has really shed light on things for me in regards to them.

i try to stay positive by laughing w/ my husband, keeping things light. but it does get frustrating when i allow myself to sulk about it. like today, my DH went on his usual hr. long bike ride on the beach and i just couldn't get past it. i was so envious and pissy but tried my best to not take it out on him.

trying to stay creative, but not feeling inspired. i'm getting bored w/ everything very quickly these days. i wish i could bring more positivity your way ... just know that before long you'll be holding your babe and walking great distances or doing whatever it is you love to do

 

 

Fusonies

I also had a rescue cerclage at 23w4d.  This is certainly an emotional roller coaster. Hang in there.  Time will pass for all of us, it always does!  Each day we stay pregnant is a good day!  I remember at the hospital at 23w thinking how can I ever make it - we are also due in Nov, but 5 weeks later we are still here and thankfully stable!  Just think, you will have a healthy baby before the holidays and the end of summer is almost here!!!!