struggling w/friend's early pg scare

lovethebosox

I have a good friend who is about 6wks pg and just had an u/s w/ no heartbeat. It's still early, and could be fine, but she won't know until Monday at the earliest.

I feel awful for her, and know very much what she is going through.

I am also finding that it's hard for me. It's bringing up grief from my own miscarriages, making me feel like pregnancies never work out, and that I have no chance of having another healthy child.  The whole thing is much harder than I expected, and bringing up feelings I thought I had mainly worked through.

And at the same time I so hope we get pg this cycle. 

BriAZ

I know how you feel. I found out a friend was pregnant about 2 weeks after my D&C... she ended up miscarrying and had her D&C today. I went to get her a sympathy/thinking of you/ get well card... I couldnt do it. I started tearing up reading them because it reminded me of my own miscarriage. I didnt wanna start crying in the store so I just had to leave.

I hope you're friend just had an early u/s and everything will turn out to be okay on Monday!

soontobemrsvega

BriAZ:

I know how you feel. I found out a friend was pregnant about 2 weeks after my D&C... she ended up miscarrying and had her D&C today. I went to get her a sympathy/thinking of you/ get well card... I couldnt do it. I started tearing up reading them because it reminded me of my own miscarriage. I didnt wanna start crying in the store so I just had to leave.

I hope you're friend just had an early u/s and everything will turn out to be okay on Monday!

this anytime I hear of someone having or have had a miscarriage I get all teared up and I have to try not and cry... I found out one of my aunts had a mc like 40 years ago and I still wanted to cry lol you never forget the pain and its normal to remember the pain when you hear someone is feeling the same.  I hope all works out for your friend and I hope your KU too!!

BabyRN2009

Ugh.  I'm sorry you (and your friend) are going through this!  I hope everythign is fine with her and her LO.  Luckily no one I know has had a m/c since my losses (at least that I know of).  I'm sure I would react the same way.  I do get the pins and needles feeling though when friends announce they're pregnant super super early....it's like I'm holding my breath FOR them until they're out of first tri!  *Sigh*  Hopefully they never have to experience this...