Pregnant after a Loss

I have lost my hero

Hi girls, 

Haven't been around this week because I got the worst call of my life on Saturday night. My beloved brother died suddenly. I am heartbroken, it makes no sense how a perfectly healthy exercise nut can just die for no apparent reason at 42 years old. They were not able to determine a cause for why his heart suddenly stopped which only makes it harder to accept. He was my rock, he did everything for me and spoiled me like crazy - I am so thankful for the 2 1/2 days I just got to spend with him doing our nursery. I can't even breathe when I think that my baby boy will never get to know his Uncle Greg, who would have loved him and spoiled him like no other. We were going to ask him to be the Godfather and I am so sad that we didn't do it last weekend when he was with us. The funeral was yesterday and it was amazing how many people flew in to pay their respects to him and the things they all said about him were so nice to hear. He was the most amazing man and we had such a special relationship - I think I was closer to him than anyone in the world. I have never lost a family member and he certainly was not the one I expected to lose first. How can the hardest, saddest thing of my life be happening during what is supposed to be the happiest time? How will I get through the next 4 months without him? He has been there for every major event in my life and now he will not be here for the biggest one yet. I just don't know how to begin to deal with this kind of loss. I have lost my hero, but I know I have gained a guardian angel. Any thoughts or prayers you could spare for me and my family would be appreciated.  

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  • I am profoundly sorry for your loss.  Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • I'm so sorry. My T&P are with you and your family.. I'm sure he will be watching as your LO grows up...
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  • I am so so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you two had a wonderful relationship. I know it must be hard to think about your little one growing up without his uncle, but I'm sure you will do everything you can to make sure he knows his uncle loved him. Maybe you could make a special scrapbook and name him as your child's honorary godfather. 

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. 

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  • I am SO sorry for your loss...I can't imagine what you are going through right now.  Even though your brother will not be there to hold your son, you should feel comfort in knowing that he will always be with him wherever he goes and whatever he does, always. Your baby boy has own personal guardian angel now and will be cared for always. I wish you and your family condolences as you try to comfort each other during this difficult time.
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  • I'm so sorry. It's so hard to lose family members, immediate members especially. I'll pray for your family.

    (((HUGS))) 

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  • I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you and your family.
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  • OMG I am so sorry for your loss.  I cant imagine what you are going through right now.  My heart just breaks for you.

    I know you have the most amazing guardian angel watching over you now, but I am so sorry he is not physically here for you.  You will be in my thoughts and prayers.  I am so sorry

  • I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers. I'm sure he will be an amazing guardian angel for your LO.
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  • ohmygosh, Polly, I am brokenhearted for you. I can't even imagine what you are going through. I will say some prayers for your family.
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  • oh sweetie, I'm so sorry  Left Hug Big Hugs Right Hug
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  • I am so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • My heart aches for you.  I am so sorry, and you and your whole family will be in my thoughts and prayers.  I am so so sorry.
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  • You have my most sincere and heartfelt condolences.  What a sad, sad thing for you & your family to go through.  Your brother will look down from heaven on you and your LO sending all his love.  I am so sorry you are going through this.
  • Oh my gosh, I am so sorry for your loss.  My heart goes out to you guys!
  • So sorry for your loss... you are in my thoughts. Hugs
  • I am sooo sorry Polly!!!  You are in my prayers.  That is very sad.
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  • I'm so sorry sweetie. I really can't begin to imagine what you are going through.
  • I am so very sorry for your loss.  I wish there was something more comforting I could say.  You and your family will definitely be in my prayers.  ((hugs))
  • OMG. I am so sorry you lost your brother. I ache for you and your family. You all will be in my prayers.
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  • Oh my god, I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you.
  • I am so, so sorry. I am sure that your words can not even begin to convey your pain. You, your family, and your brother are in my thoughts and prayers. 
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  (((hugs)))
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  • I am so sorry, that just breaks my heart.  My brother and I are extremely close too, and I can't imagine your pain right now.  Big hugs.  He sounds like a wonderful person.
  • ((hugs)) I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be im my t&p
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  • My Heart break for you as you know.  I so wish there was something i could do for you to help ease the pain.   I'm here no matter what you need.  I'll help you through these dark hours just like you helped me through them too.  You brother is going to watch over you and your little boy and keep you all safe and that is truely the best gift you can ever ask for. 
    10/17/2009 - Our Miracle came 10 weeks early. IF,2 MC and 1 Preemie we have our miracle.. Baby Hope 10 weeks 5days was taken from us on Dec 18, 2007. Forever with us and Forever missed. Triplets Lost baby A @ weeks, Lost Baby B at 6 weeks and lost baby Abigail at 14 weeks when she was born to little for this life..... Forever with us ....
  • I am so so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. ((HUGS))
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  • I am SO incredibly sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.
  • I am so very very sorry.
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  • I am so sorry for your loss. Your brother will definitely be watching over you and your LO.
  • I am so sorry.  Prayers coming your way.
  • I am so sorry you're going through such pain.  It's so unbearable when someone we love is taken from us, especially when they're young and healthy.  You and your family are in my thoughts.  Sending big hugs your way.
  • I am deeply sorry for your loss and will keep you and your family in my prayers.
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  • I am SO sorry ~~  My thoughts & prayers are with you.

     I just watched a dear friend get buried yesterday that was killed senselessly (@ the Pittsburgh Health Club).  I empathize with your pain.

    Carry on his spirit always.

  • I am so sorry for your loss.  I can't possibly imagine what you are going through.  You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  • I am so sorry, I can't even imagine how you feel or what you are going through right now.  I will be thinking of you and praying for you each day. 
  • SO SO sorry for you! My prayers are with you!
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  • oh sweet heart I am soo sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. I cant even begin to imagine how you are feeling. What a blessing that he is part of your babys room, you will cherish that time forever. BIG HUGS to you!!!!
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  • I am so very very sorry for your loss.  i know how hard it can be to so suddently and unexpectedly lose a close loved one and it is very difficult.  your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.  please take care of yourself and know that your brother will always be with you and watching over you and your little guy.  you're very lucky to have had such a great relationship....always cherish and keep that in your heart and you will never truly lose him.
  • I am so sorry for your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  This is going to be such a hard time for you, but I think it's great that you and your brother had such a wonderful relationship and you will be able to cherish some great memories.
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  • I am so sorry. Words cannot express it. I cannot imagine your pain.
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