telling rents...

jerseylinds

today is our 8 wk u/s and i told DH that after the appt. if we measure on target that i'd really like to tell my parents. Last time we waited until 10 weeks. We saw his rents in person and i had to call mine on the phone which sucked cuz i didn't get to see their reaction. Then shortly after we told everyone and a week later we lost it. So, when i told DH i'd like to tell just my rents so that in case GOD FORBID something happens again, it won't be "surprise, we were, but now we're not" plus i'd reallly like their support. He's kind of fighting me on it and thinks we should wait to tell EVERYONE until 12 weeks.

anyone else have this problem???

Babs022

I agree with you...I would want the support of my family, esp my mom. We told our parents after we heard the h/b at 7 weeks. Maybe just tell your parents if he wants to wait?

dkfitz07

We didn't tell his mom, we were waiting to hear a heartbeat. Never heard one.I ended up calling her crying telling her. She is an OB nurse in my hospital, and with the D & C and all I didn't want it getting to her the wrong way. and I needed advice. We told her as soon as we knew this time. I won't do that to her again...it had to be hurtful. Only my best friends, his mom, and my parents know. We won't tell his dad for awhile because he is a space cadet.

shannonk03

We waited to tell anyone until 12 weeks, we almost told the parents after we saw the healthy baby on the ultrasound at 9 weeks but decided against it.  Once the Dr. found the heartbeat with the doppler at 12 weeks I had no problems telling.

jerseylinds

dkfitz07 - that's why i don't want to tell HIS parents, cuz his mom is a TOTAL space cadet. Like, the WORST kind. ugh...this is so frustrating. He just doesn't understand my feelings about this whole thing lately and it's really really frustrating/upsetting.

sunnymel

Last time we made the grand mistake of telling everyone way too soon (we were just so excited and had waited so long, and it didn't even cross my mind that we wouldn't make it.) This time we told both our moms and one of my sisters as soon as we found out, because if anything happens, we need their support. I don't know if I would survive this period if I couldn't talk about it with my mom too. I feel like I'm such a state of limbo (but trying really hard to only think positively.) We are planning to wait and tell the rest of the family until we see/hear the heartbeat.We also haven't told DS, although he knows something is up. Last time it was just really hard to explain and him understand what was going on, so we are trying to wait to tell him too.

I totally understand waiting, but it was important for us to have a few close people who know. We need all the happy thoughts we can get I think you should just explain to DH, but let him know you totally understand where he is coming from.

Mel

nferrante

I'm almost 5 wks and we told MY parents the day we found out! My parents are very close with us and we wanted their support! His parents are in Ohio...so we are waiting to tell them!