Poll: Do you get along with your MIL???

Ssweets04

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krate24

Yes, I do.  I really like both MIL and FIL.

Becka1208

Yeah I do actually. She is one of my bestfriends and my fill-in mother.

Ssweets04

I do.

Only because she stopped being as controlling as she used to be since she became single again. She is totally into herself and I'm loving it!

SweetieD21

oh boy, isn't this a million dollar question.  She completely and utterly embarrassed herself at our rehearsal dinner, made a disaster out of the entire night.  My family still doesn't care for her, but I suck it up and deal with her.

megjr8

She's crazy...thought process wise... but we get along great!

dandyelle

DH and I didn't talk to his mom for 18 mos because she called me a b*tch. We're mending fences now, but it's been a bumpy road!

OregonMama

Yes, I love her.  She's wonderful. 

mlmtgg

Unfortunately my MIL passed away last year, and my DH didn't have a ton of contact with her prior to that - so any interactions were just okay, but very stressful for him.

My SIL and BIL though . ..that's a different story. While individually I adore all of them . .  DH has 7 brothers and sisters and it is literally like a high school - meaning you never know who is talking to who, who hates that one, what you can say, can't say . . .and all family functions usually turn into a screaming fighting match.  My role in all of that is to usher the niece and nephew to another room to play a game or do something else. . . .

jumagirl

Meh.  We're friendly and whatnot, but we're not close.  She does keep with stocked with PNVs (and bcp when I was taking it) b/c of her job.  She's a little too overbearing and pushy, while simultaneously having no backbone or self-esteem.  It's an interesting combo, and therefore an interesting relationship.  

*punkinpie*

My MIL passed away 3 years before I met DH. 

I often times ask DH what she was like, how she would react to certain things and if she would have liked me.

There are times when FIL makes up for not having a MIL.....he can be a nightmare, but overall we're really close to his family

CarrieLeigh84

I've never met her. She lives on the other side of the planet... we're going to be visiting for a month in September though. I'm thinking this might be in-law overload - staying with them for a month. Eek.

 

 

katie9136

yes, i like her alot. she taught me lots of great things.

but I am not going to lie I will probably resent her my whole life because my husband STILL has to support her (somewhat) and sends her money all the time. She has some serious issues that I will not further explain. 

Mrs.PinkPearls

Yes. We use to not get along but after getting married we do!

Kel&Jay

We didn't used to, but she has calmed down since our wedding.  When she's not trying to make my life miserable she's actually rather pleasant.

She's one of those that hasn't been able to cut the cord...

stacieann15

My husband's mother died before we met. His father (who had been divorced from his mother for most of my husband's life) got remarried right before my husband and I got engaged. He married a woman he had known for about 6 months -- meaning that I had been around longer than she had.

She's ok and means well. She has caused some stress by trying to insist that my 27-year-old husband consider her his mother (which did NOT go over well, and, frankly, he has refused to her face). There are some other personality quirks, but everyone has those.  

Eviebee

My MIL makes me crazy.  She is pushy, loud, overbearing, and thinks she knows better than anyone about parenting, cooking, gardening, housekeeping, and government conspiracies, among other things.  My favourite is when she tries to convince us that the flu shot is the gov't way of making ppl die before they can collect pensions.  Oh and the flu shot is also the reason behind my SIL's miscarriages.  And I'll never forgive her for telling everyone she knows about my m/c.

Sorry, you got me started.  I could go on.

But really we get along fine b/c I nod and smile and say "really?" when she talks.  

lax15bsu

My MIL and I get along fine when she doesn't think she's a doctor and try to tell me what worked for her neice after her miscarriages will work for me too.

bebeblues

Most of the time, I adore her....

The small % of the time, is when she's praising my SIL.....you see, I'm not the "pick" of the DIL's. The SIL is her favorite. When SIL got pregnant this time and announced it literally hours after poas, my MIL was soooo worried that she'd m/c. I was so offended. I was told it was b/c I'm a strong woman, and sil couldn't handle going through what I've been through........still made me mad that she acted like SIL was "too good" for a m/c. Oh, and when she tells me that she doesn't believe that you can only get pregnant a few days a month---she STILL thinks if you use "it" you can get pregnant! LOL...she's hilarious!!

I love her.......but probably more than she loves me......

bebeblues

Kel&Jay:

She's one of those that hasn't been able to cut the cord...

DITTO, this!!!

bkjcwedding

She's pretty great.  She lives 4 miles from us and has only been to our house 3 times in 5 years.  She's there when we need her but still gives us space. 

She's also called me every few weeks to check on me since DH got deployed.  At first I thought it was because I was carrying her grandchild, but even after the m/c she's called every week or so.  Plus she gets drunk and drunk dials us on occasion which is really funny.

cintim

Yes I do... probably more so than DH!

Dvsgirlforever

I did until the Woman told us being preggo before our Wedding wasn't a good idea, and we were getting into another Mess!! So I guess she thinks our Marriage is a mess too.Well I got 2 words for her and they aren't Merry Christmas!

krif9@yahoo.com

We get along very well. I think I talk to her more than DH does, though that doesn't say much. She only lives a couple of blocks from us, but is very hands-off, so is good. And she always invites me to the opera, ballet, theatre etc when she has an extra ticket. She was really bummed about the m/c and I know she is pulling for us to get pregnant again. We're pretty much the only chance she has of having grandkids.

Strunella

I do genuinely like my MIL.  She is very sweet and respects our boundaries.  I'd only say it's time to treat her adult children (especially SIL) like adults.  She was doing DH's laundry, grocery shopping, etc. when were dating and I was like, "Ummm...you need to be doing that stuff yourself."  That has obviously ended.  She still treats SIL like she's 12, and that's how SIL acts.

Ssweets04

CarrieLeigh84:

I've never met her. She lives on the other side of the planet... we're going to be visiting for a month in September though. I'm thinking this might be in-law overload - staying with them for a month. Eek.

 

 

Oh my gosh, good luck!!

luvsbunny

no. And lately I have been hating her with almost all my heart

tanturd

I would have to say it depends on her mood!!!! Most of the time I swear she hates me and wishes her son wouldv'e never married me!!!! She didn't even smile in our wedding pictures....I have had everyone who has ever looked at them tell me that no lie! She asks my husband to come over and fix things for her all the time which bugs me cuz there are things that need to be fixed at his own house! She got mad when I asked my husband to move into a bigger house because the one we lived in was only a two bedroom and the other bedroom was full of stuff we had no room for but it was her childhood home and she didnt think it was too small....YES IT WAS!!!! When she says she wants to be a grandma its always direceted to her daughter and son in law who have only been married for 2yrs never my husband and I and it pisses me off and hurts! The other day I was holding my friends son and was telling my other friend how when he came home from the hospital he instantly fell asleep on my "cush" and we were laughing and the mother of that lil boy saw her roll her eyes and make a face that apparently looked like I didn't know how to take care of a baby....uuuummmm yes I do!!!! My husband and I split up a few years ago due to trouble from not being able to conceive and it was so hard on us we were going to get divorced and remain friends but she had a few things to say about that! She wasn't happy when we went through conciling and ended up being able to mend things and are more in love now then when we married!!!! She didn't talk to me much for a long time not that she ever did....I hate it cuz I feel like im not welcome in my husbands family and im sorry but im not leaving so they just better learn to deal with it!!!! They need to stop talking *** 24/7 bout the significant others in their family!!!! My father in law is great though!!!! It's hard but when she is not acting like that she is a wonderful mother in law but that doesnt happen very often.... Even my husband has noticed before he didn't believe me that this was all going on he knew she had mood swings but now he sees what is going on which noew dosn't put a strain on our relationship!

mcjb09

yup, DH and I had been dating for years before we got married and so we had time to warm up to each other.  We're great now and she has been ever so helpful through everything.

str8ota

I love my MIL, there are several moments when she gets on my nerves but she means well.  At least I comfortable enough with our relationship to let her know when she is getting on my nerves.

mindyschaller

My MIL is an amazing person!!! In fact, when I do get my bfp, I'm taking her to the first u/s with me and not my own mom. She's such a caring and supportive and level-headed woman,she's an inspiration to women everywhere!

redshoegirl

For the most part. We've had our differences in the past, like when she called me a bridezilla during wedding planning (for the record, we were paying for the food and drinks at the reception and she kept wanting to add tons of people that we didn't even know - so finally I said no, we're paying for it and they are not invited....apparently that makes me a bridezilla lol), but these days we get along fairly well.