Looking for advice, any 2 under 2 moms that co-sleep?

Bonzer

Phoenix is 1.5 now and will be 2 months short of 2 ( i hate aging my child by months, seems so .. ughhhh, nevermind) when the new baby gets here.

 

We still cosleep with him and I love having him in our bed, he loves being in our bed and I kind of don't want to move him out until he indicates he wants out ( maybe he'll be 2, maybe he'll be 5, I've embraced that fact)

 

I don't plan on co-sleeping with the new guy, although I do plan for the first few months to keep him either in a bassinet or co-sleeper next to us at night so I can nurse.

Knowing what I know now, it will be easier ( in my mind) to move #2 to a  crib. Phoenix had AWFUl colic for 8 months and that is what started the cosleeping in the first place. I love that he does it now, but don't want 2 kids in my bed.

 

So... my question is, does anyone here have or will have 2U2 and cosleep? Any advice, tips , suggestions etc on how to make the transition to a new person in the house with an almost 2 year old in the family bed?

wareto

Okay, I'm not really who you were asking to give you advice, but I'm in a somewhat similar situation. My son is 15 months old and will be about 1 1/2 when his sister arrives. We cosleep. I like having him in the bed with us, but I do plan to move him before his sister arrives. One reason is that I'm pretty sure a newborn will dramatically interrupt DS's sleep, which I don't want. I think he'd ask to move by then, but I doubt he'll be talking well by then and I don't want him to feel forced out and resent her. Another reason is that I would like DD to have an opportunity to have us mostly to herself at night, even though I don't plan to cosleep her nearly as long.

At the moment, the plan is to move DS and I into his new bedroom on the futon-to get used to his new room-then phase him into sleeping alone on the futon, and maybe then we'll move him into his new racecar bed.

Mr.&MrsS

I personally dont cosleep, but I have friends who did. One family coslept with thier son. When thier daughter came they coslept with her as well (all 4 of them in the same bed...they have an extra large king, so it wasnt an issue) until she was able to STTN. Once she STTN they moved her into her own crib in her own room, but still coslept with their son. Their son is 5 and they still co sleep with him and DD is 2.5 and she sleeps in her room in her crib. Just do whatever works best for you. That works for them, and that is the way they like it. Good luck!

goodheartedmommy

Hey there! Congrats on number 2!

 

I've coslept with all of mine, full time with 3 at one point. Honestly, cosleeping when you have 2 young ones is easier, because when the baby fusses, they're right there and never gets to a full cry to wake up the older child. I've never had a single issue with it.

I think you'll see that it's really not a big deal at all. Before #2 was born, I stressed a lot about how it was going to work. Ethan had not been co-sleeping full time until about 8 months, too, although we had co-slept part time from the beginning. I stressed about if I needed him to go to sleep on his own, sleep in a seperate bed, etc. I finally just gave up on figuring it out and let it be that it would figure itself out, and it did. When the baby is here, any plan that you had set in stone will probably not work out anyway, so just go with the flow of whatever works. Once #2 is here, a lot is just survival mode.