MIL already saying baby is spolied....WTF?

SDKelli

My hubby painted the nursery this weekend and on Sunday MIL comes over and I showed her the bedding set and the 2 packs of onesies I have bought. She made a comment something to the effect of "Geez, stop buying stuff for her...there will be nothing left to get her."  

Last night I posted something on FB about my DH painting the nursery and she post back something about "I am sure this is going to be one spoiled little girl."

WHY.....Because she has a crib, bedding and 2 packs of onesies? I guess that is spoiling her.....Wait till she sees the registry....then she'll really think she's gonna be spoiled! 

I think she is just mad because DH told her that while we appreciate the gift, we don't want to use the 10+ year old travel system (it's since been recalled) and the USED breast pump from 1994 that she gave us.

Brownie_222

She's not saying spoiled as in well loved is she?  Sometimes my Mom says that, but she doesn't mean it at all in a bad way, just that everyone is going to be crazy in love with our little guy.  I'm guessing from MIL's other actions, though, that that isn't the case?  GL - she sounds kind of nuts to me!

JCM083009

I can't get over the fact that people still think you can spoil babies....

LEE_V

Tell her "fruit spoils, not babies".

MrsSandro

I say our baby girl is going to be one spoiled baby. Nothing wrong saying your child will be spoiled.

I have bought nothing except for a dresser and paint for the walls for our baby...but all the stuff she is getting from her Aunt, Grandparents, and people I haven't met...that yeah...she will be spoiled. I wouldn't take it personally with your MIL says that. 

 

Beaming_Bride

She sounds like a peach.

BlessedSongstress

My MIL wants to give us old stuff too!!! WTH?! She likes to go to goodwill and get stuff. Got us a 1950's bassinet...and then was upset that I didn't seem excited about it. YEAH! BECAUSE THE CHILD WHO USED IT LAST PROBABLY HAD POLIO!!! Oi! But I try to act excited...apparently I'm not doing a good enough job because DH had to talk to her because she was upset that I wasn't acting excited. He wouldn't tell me what he said to her..but said he did talk to her.

My mother doesn't even understand it! My mom is all about getting us new stuff because it's our first baby and all. Argh! And it's not like my parents have a lot of money..but they at least know not to buy goodwill stuff from the 50's.

SDKelli

Brownie_222:

She's not saying spoiled as in well loved is she?  Sometimes my Mom says that, but she doesn't mean it at all in a bad way, just that everyone is going to be crazy in love with our little guy.  I'm guessing from MIL's other actions, though, that that isn't the case?  GL - she sounds kind of nuts to me!

That is exactly what I posted back on FB to her. "Not spoiled, just well-loved!" I would like to think she means well-loved, but I think after her comment Sunday, she means spoiled as in too much stuff.

SDKelli

LEE_V:

Tell her "fruit spoils, not babies".

LOL...I like this!

shabang21

Hmm, maybe she meant it in a good way?

Is this not her first grandchild?

dansozzi

Oh my then she would think I am nuts because the baby's closet is almost filled. ?I have bought a ton of stuff and have not even gotten gifts yet. ?So what.. it is your baby if you want to buy it stuff so be it. ?If it is not her money she should keep her comments to herself. ?I also would not use a 10 year old stroller and an old breast bump. ?

lkich

How can you spoil a child by providing what's needed? I think you're right and she's bitter you didn't use her stuff.

cindy453

None of those comments sound negative to me... my family says stuff like that all the time.

Brooke208

There is a huge difference between spoiled and spoiled rotten.  These days many people use the term "spoiled" in a good way, as in well loved.  It wouldn't bother me, personally.