thank you ladies for your thoughts and prayers.

Gracey_Manor Maid

For my family. The funeral was Saturday and the kids seemed to do ok. we did have one very weird comment from a relative that made my eye twitch

"you kids better thank jesus your aunt and uncle are keeping you or else you would go to foster care and never see each other again."

WHAT?!?!?!

But like I said other than that. They have been sleeping in our bed the past couple of nights but last night they finally slept in thier room. They were scared about leaving us and something happening to us as well. I have three little shadows but thats ok. They also had mild panic attacks when DH had to go to work on sunday but we went to visit him at lunch time and they felt better.

The SW from DCF came this morning and she was wonderful. The kids already have files with DCF because of their mother so she had spent the weekend looking it over and getting as much info as possible. She was very understanding about our current living situation (two bedrooms) and told us getting custody should be no problem.

We are all going to family couseling tommorow night and they kids have grief counseling on thursday. They have been going to summer day camp but I'm not sure about sending them back so soon. What do you ladies think?

 

Again than you from myself DH the kids and my family for the thoughts and prayers.

Layla116

You will continue to be in my T&P.  You have really done an amazing thing by taking those children in!  You are amazing!

klande3

I have never worked with kids who have lost their parents, but I have dealt with children who have been taken from their biological parents. My advice is to take it one day at a time. Whenever you feel the kids are ready to go back to camp. Although, you wouldn't want to prolong this process too long, you DO want to give them adequate time to adjust. This must be so hard for you. I have only dealt with children like this in a school setting, but the one little girl I am speaking of is the best thing that ever happened to my class. Just keep praying and God will lead you in the right direction. Depending on the age of the children you could also talk to them about when they would like to go back to camp... IDK my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Gracey_Manor Maid

Tis is actually what I was thinking. They are 4 6 and 8 so i was thinking that when they are ready they will be able to tell me. They are very talkative and have been so open since this whole thing happend about their feelings and fears which is how we knew why they wanted sleep with us for a couple of nights.

ibis

I really hope things go well for you and the kids... it sounds like you're doing everything you possibly can to help them adjust.

I would see if they want to go back to camp and maybe let the counselors know to call you if they need to come home early... it may make them feel more normal to go on with a routine like that, or not. GL 

Anniekins214

Those poor kids; to lose their father and have such a selfish woman for a mother.  Thank God that they have a loving family in you and your husband.  I'm sure you'll be wonderful parents to your little one as well as your niece and nephews.