We decided we are happy with ONE.

2006Bride2Be · August 2009

After my last m/c and some long discussions with DH, we have come to a decision that Haylie will be an only child.

We are VERY happy and feel extremely blessed with our family of 3.

I can't emtionally and financially handle any more IF treatment.

So we are done, and I feel VERY relieved with the decision. So does DH.

Now I just wish people would stop asking "when are you having a second?"

pamela-matt · August 2009

That is amazing. Congrats on coming to a decision. I know that a decision like that is not easy. Sooner or later people will stop asking (not that they should be asking in the first place)

TheSkimmy · August 2009

Congrats on making that decision!!! You are a beautiful COMPLETE family!!!

TakYelgif · August 2009

I think that is great!!!!

As far as the questions go just be completely honest and end whatever you tell them with "this is not up for discussion"

gabbeyh · August 2009

That is great. I'm glad you guys are at peace with that, you are a beautiful family. Don't you just want to smack people when they ask that?

leslies75 · August 2009

Congrats on making that decision. I can imagine how long and hard you thought about it...and for people to question you has got to be really annoying when you are so sure of your decision. Good luck!

cmw&tdm · August 2009

Congrats on making a decision! I know two families who came to the same decision, and they are very happy. There are definitely pluses to it just being the three of you.

LVBlvd · August 2009

Congratulations on doing what feels best for your family! What a beautiful and perfect family of 3 you have there : )

pamela-matt · August 2009

When they ask you when you are having another one, turn around and ask them when they are having sex again...perhaps they will get how inappropriate a question it is

trilady2 · August 2009

Good for you - I'm super glad to hear you weighed your options and decided on what was best for you and your family. BTW she is adorable - love the cute smile in the peach shirt!

BoxTer · August 2009

That's great! As you may remember, I'm leaning toward this also and I wish we could come to a final decision so we have closure. It must be such a relief for both of you.

Sara Scissors · August 2009

First of all, you have a beautiful daughter and should be SO proud of that!

Secondly, I totally see where you are coming from. DH and I have come to the decision that we won't do IF treatments again either. After 6 rounds of Clomid, 4 IUIs and in prep for IVF we got our miracle bfp (this pregnancy). We decided then that if he was our only child, we'd be OK with that. We weren't spending the time, emotion and $$$ on treatments again. If we get another miracle so be it...we'll just be double-ly blessed!

HeatherandRay · August 2009

Congratulations on your decision, I think a family of three is perfect! When DH and I first got married (too many years ago) we thought we'd have 2 or 3 kids. Well, IF threw a wrench into that plan and we plan to be happy with the one baby we are going to have (hopefully any day now). People are already asking when we will start trying for number two, and my response is that after everything we went through to get PG with this one, we are one and done! That usually shuts people up, especially those who did not know about our IF struggles.

SeaSoul · August 2009

I think it is great that you feel relief about the decision!! There's nothing worse than second-guessing a decision. Congratulations!

choco_lab · August 2009

I'm on only child and think it was just fine! I always had fun and had a great childhood. My mom got asked the question about when there would be a #2 all the time (in front of me) and she always said either "I'll do anything once!" or "Why bother trying again when we got the best?" She never showed any kind of hesitation in front of me.

Fast forward to now... after my struggles with IF, she tells me that she wanted more kids but could never get pregnant again. I was shocked! If you ask them today, they'd say they could never picture their life with more than just me. Enjoy your DD!!!

piccolina09 · August 2009

I completely understand, IF was terribly difficult and I don't want to go back to that place. Here's a line you can use when nosy people ask....our family is complete.....

Smudges*Mom · August 2009

Congrats on your decision. )

We are a "one and done" family--we are now complete as well. Due to my age (I'll be 38 on Friday), having had to do IVF to get pregnant and the fact that I got really sick at the end of the pregnancy, we are done--and happily so. Our son is wonderful, we couldn't ask for more.