Need advice - Coming Home Outfit drama

Soap1

I really don't give a rat's behind what the LO wears home from the hospital.  However, my mom went to a moderate amount of trouble to find the perfect outfit - a University of Kentucky basketball onesie!  She was so excited to give me the "going home" outfit as a present at the baby shower.

Well, yesterday, MIL asked me, "You're not really going to send the baby home from the hospital in a Kentucky outfit, are you?"  I told her that yes, indeed, I was. 

Later that night, at dinner with DH and MIL, MIL brought it up again.  DH suddenly had an interest and was taking MIL's side, saying that come to think of it he would rather have the baby come home in a Univ of Texas outfit.

I got upset because DH has never expressed any interest at all in what the baby comes home in.  It wasn't important to him until his mom said something about it, but it IS really important to my mom.  FWIW, MIL doesn't have an alternative that she would rather the baby come home in.  She just thinks that a Kentucky outfit is strange (my family is all from KY, but we live in TX and that's where DH's family is from).

Any advice?  I know it's a silly thing to worry about, but I don't want to hurt my mom's feelings.

merjmm

It kind of sounds like DH is only saying anything because of his mom.  I personally would stick with what was originally decided and what your mom got for the LO. 

Stellar1

Can you put him in the Univ of Texas outfit and take pics of him in it before you leave the hospital and then put him in the other one that he actually goes home in??

mamaiorory

If your mom went to all of that trouble and picked out an outfit that you liked I'd say stick with it. MIL can just deal.

sophabelle

i think its a little weird that your mom has such a desire in what the coming home outfit is... its YOUR baby not hers! lol, so to me that's a little weird.  but maybe you could come to a compromise - kentucky shirt and texas pants.

ladyalmalthea

Talk to DH about it without DH, and find out why he doesn't like it. If you and DH can't agree, then find another outfit and leave the state stuff alone. That onesie can be on for when your mom visits?

lucy11111

I would bring the baby home in the outfit your mom got him. If you get asked about it again I would simply say " of course I'm brining the baby home in that, my mom went to alot of trouble getting it for me".

 

mariec77

I would have put him on blast right then in there. I can send you and University of Georgia outfit and just not please anyone!! hahahahhaa

Soap1

sophabelle:

maybe you could come to a compromise - kentucky shirt and texas pants.

hahaha... I like it!

snowflake19

The title of this post made me laugh!  I did not know there could be such a thing as coming home outfit drama! haha.

That said, I can see why you wouldnt want to hurt your moms feelings.  I say stick with the Kentucky outfit.  It was gift and if your MIL had such strong feelings about it maybe she should have provided an alternative. 

rrotem

It's annoying that now they want you to change your original plan but if you mom would understand that they're being annoying and you don't want to make them mad, I'd probably have the baby come home in neither and just pick something totally different.  

Soap1

snowflake19:

The title of this post made me laugh!  I did not know there could be such a thing as coming home outfit drama! haha.

Ugh I know!!!

AMYfromKY

I would use the KY outfit as the coming home outfit.  If your DH really wants to use a Texas outfit maybe your LO can get his hospital pictures in it.

shabang21

I'd honestly just pick a different coming home outfit.  Then you can have the KY outfit from your mom, and if MIL wants to buy the Texas outfit, then you'll have that one too. 

sdjaquess

Bring LO home in the outfit your mom got him.  You said you don't care one way or the other, but evidently your mom does.  Your MIL didn't go through any trouble to get one, so tell her that "yes, that is what he will wearing when he comes home.  Especially since my mom made the effort to get it." 

2Bmrskenny

Yes, completely drop the subject for now- don't bring it up and if it comes up side step it. Then, when its actually time for the baby to come home (I suspect only you and DH will be the ones at the hospital) you dress LO in the outfit that you packed in the hospital bag (because is DH really going to take the initiative to pack the bag???) If someone says something on the day of leaving the hospital... answer "oh I packed that as the 'go home' outfit the day I got it and never went through the bag again. Guess I forgot."

Brownie_222

Wow....don't take this the wrong way, but there seriously could be worse things to worry about.  I don't know why your Mom and MIL are making such a huge deal of it.  I would just pick another outfit yourself, and let them each take pics with the baby in their respective outfits after you get home.  Good grief.

mrsrose16

You pushing the kid out of your vag=you get to pick the coming home outfit.

MrsMegF

Seems like your mom went to alot of trouble, i'd stick with her outfit.  Your from Kentucky so why is it "weird" for that to be his outfit?  Just because you live in Texas, doesn't mean you can't represent your home state! 

 

SoonToBeTabor

I would wear the KY outfit and possibly buy a TX hat or bib just to appease your DH with what he now wants.

 

Blackvelvet

2Bmrskenny:

Yes, completely drop the subject for now- don't bring it up and if it comes up side step it. Then, when its actually time for the baby to come home (I suspect only you and DH will be the ones at the hospital) you dress LO in the outfit that you packed in the hospital bag (because is DH really going to take the initiative to pack the bag???) If someone says something on the day of leaving the hospital... answer "oh I packed that as the 'go home' outfit the day I got it and never went through the bag again. Guess I forgot."

cindy453

If it was just your MIL flipping out, I would say tell her to shove it. But if your H is wanting some input, I think that's fine and he should have some say. If he's a huge sports fan and it would mean a lot to him then get the baby a different outfit. I know your mom might be a bit put out, but it's your husband...

My H is a huge KU fan and my entire family went to MU... and we only have a KU outfit packed for the baby It's important to him, and I don't care. I'm going to let him have his moment. 

Ana Ramey

Okay...I kinda have to laugh because I am from Texas, and I live in KY now. My husband is from florida. I came home with a UT onsie and DH through a little hissy until his mom sent a USF onsie. My little sis goes to UK and bought a bunch of UK baby things.

You may need to compromise and not put LO in anything that is one side or the other. We are going with a cute little wrestling onsie...DH is a wrestling coach, and I wrestled through college. So it works for us!

NorBryDE

Stick with KY!  That's where your family is from, so I assume you as well?  You living in TX, just say that you want your LO to know how important KY is to you as well!  MIL can shove it!

thatgirlang

snowflake19:

The title of this post made me laugh!  I did not know there could be such a thing as coming home outfit drama! haha.

 

Right!! Never imagined this. LOL

The baby will spit up or poop on one of them soon and need to be changed before you know it anyway. LOL

Cullum13

Could you buy the TX outfit in a different size? Like maybe one in Preemie and one in Newborn. And then just put whichever fits best on baby. That way no arguing. If it doesn't fit, it doesn't fit.

cstw

Brownie_222:

Wow....don't take this the wrong way, but there seriously could be worse things to worry about.  I don't know why your Mom and MIL are making such a huge deal of it.  I would just pick another outfit yourself, and let them each take pics with the baby in their respective outfits after you get home.  Good grief.

This. The coming home outfit is NOT that big of a deal unless the alternative is a naked baby.

rschmitt

Academy has a UT blanket and hat set...  Then you could have the outfit your mom bought with the UT blanket.  Did your DH go to UT, or is it just that his family did?  My DH graduated from UT so there has never even been a question on what the coming home outfit would be...  It has always been planned to be a UT outfit, especially during football season.

Now just imagine the drama if your mom had bought you a Texas A&M outfit.  :-)