Lurker Saying Hello

Ohio_Wedding

I've been a lurker on the bump boards for a long time.  i was six weeks pregnant at the end of last week, started bleeding and cramping last sunday, and ... am not six weeks pregnant anymore.  can't bring myself to say the "m" word, can't figure out why i feel so sad about something i only held in my heart for such a short time.  and, all of my "in real life" friends are 100% absorbed in their lives of TTC, being pregnant, raising kids.  i'm not sure when i have ever felt quite so alone.

 you, ladies, make me feel stronger.  thanks for letting me lurk.

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I'm sorry to hear about your loss.  This board is really great.  I've been lurking a lot as well and posting occasionally over the last couple of weeks.  I hope this board can help you with your grieving.

Funny enough, though, I've decided to talk about my experience (missed miscarriage around 8 weeks--no embryo developed) with my family and friends and found out that I knew a lot of people that have gone through it.  It didn't make me feel as alone.  People just don't seem to talk about miscarriages very often.  There was a post earlier in the week on the "secret society" and I feel that it is very much that way...you may be surprised if you open up with your friends. 

Cow-girl

Im sorry for your loss.  I am glad that you have "come out of hiding as a lurker"  Im glad that you feel comfortable posting here.  This is a great group of girls!  Please feel free to post anytime..

((hugs))

 

picarona

I'm sorry you're here but I'm glad you're posting.  I just joined this board myself this week but I've found so much comfort from it and I hope you do too.

Ohio_Wedding

thanks, ladies.  i've almost been embarrassed to post because i know that people have suffered worse losses than mine.  i was not so far along, after all.  and yet, i feel a loss.  this would have been my first pregnancy, after some time TTC (and health issues that complicated things), and i was so excited.and then, just so sad.

 it is comforting to find people who understand all of these "crazy" feelings.

picarona

Don't be embarrassed, every person here is here because we've experienced a loss.  I don't think you'll find a less judgmental group.  You're in pain, no matter how far along you were.  as soon as you saw that positive line you started hoping and dreaming for this baby, and it was wonderful and it was beautiful.  To have that taken so abruptly hurts.

someflower6

i'm really glad you came out of lurking. i'm so sorry for your loss, and i understand that this is a hard time for you. i'm glad you can find some comfort on this board. post anytime!

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picarona:

Don't be embarrassed, every person here is here because we've experienced a loss.  I don't think you'll find a less judgmental group.  You're in pain, no matter how far along you were.  as soon as you saw that positive line you started hoping and dreaming for this baby, and it was wonderful and it was beautiful.  To have that taken so abruptly hurts.

This!

vkbaby09

I'm very sorry for your loss.  You know one thing I've discovered through everything I've been through and with talking to these wonderful ladies is that a loss is a loss no matter how far along you were.  Granted, in my own experience, my first loss being at about 5 1/2 weeks and only knowing that I was pg for 3 days before I knew I was losing my baby was much easier and less painful than losing my two boys at 22w5d.  And I'm sure that losing a baby farther along like at full-term would be even harder.  But I don't think that anybody's feelings are less valid just because their loss happened earlier.  We all lose the hope and dreams that we have not only for the baby that we carry inside us, but also our own.  It's a very sad thing to lose a baby at any point.

I'm really glad that you found us and decided to post.  This board has been a lifeline for me after my losses.  I hope you find it helpful as well.

3ltlones

I too am glad that you came out of lurking, this board has been wonderful support to me and I hope that if you post more it does the same for you.  I am so very sorry for your loss.  You shouldn't feel bad for your grieving anytime you loss something that is so precious to you and that you really wanted it is going to be hard to process.  I have had two losses, my first at 8 weeks and while it was easier on me than my second loss I still was very sad and upset.  Hugs to you.

brunette mac

Aw, Ohio_wedding ((((hugs))))  I know.  I was only pregnant for a short amount of time too. But a loss is a loss. Don't let anyone make less of it or your feelings. God bless.