A wwyd for any bored ladies - long

Shannonfitz83@yahoo.com · August 2009

Let me start by saying that I love my dh very much and in the grand scheme of things the vent I am about to indulge in for me is really not that big of a deal because on a day to day basis he's a great guy, helps a lot.. blah blah blah

now, on to why he's a douche....

It all started at our wedding. I was mildly upset becuase we had had discussions about how couples typically get a small sentimental gift or write a nice card for the wedding day. I went into a recording studio and recorded our first dance song - unforgettable. (which is waaay out of my comfort zone) he did nothing.

after the wedding we discussed this and he said he understood why i was upset and he didn't want to make me feel that way again.. yadda yadda yadda.

1st anniversary - nothing. the card he bought and never wrote in is still on top of the tv in our bedroom. awesome. we discuss again, blah blah blah, "I won't *** up your birthday, I promise." I thought this time he's serious.

I've been dropping not to subtle hints about needing a new phone and wanting some new undies.

Bday comes... NOTHING. Turns out apparently he had ordered some nesting dolls from russia (he buys me one every year since we got engaged - my ring was in one (that my mom picked out)) but he had put the wrong billing addy and they never shipped, which he had known about for three weeks and never followed up. On my birthday I was annoyed but was going to let it go UNTIL... about 5pm when he realized there was no soda for him to make himself a drink so he kept saying, i'm going to the store. When I kept saying no he threw in "oh, and I was going to get you a bday card."

cue *** hitting fan.

We "discussed" much louder than the other times and now of course he's never going to let it happen again.

Now, the actual wwyd... his bday is sunday. should I be a snarky wench and do nothing or do all the nice things I had planned for him? I'm sooo leaning towards a big f-you but at the same time I really like doing things for him that make him feel special.

just wondering what other people would do.

jeng329 · August 2009

I vote for the snarky wench!

wanderlust2006 · August 2009

Honestly, I don't think he will mind much if you don't do anything for his b-day. It won't have the desire result.

This sucks, but this is the guy you married. He is going to change.

JARbaby · August 2009

Do what you would normally do. Don't be a petty brat though it is tempting. You will feel better about yourself in the end.

What it comes down to with guys like that...they don't give a poop. Actions speak so clearly.

flyrsgirl1 · August 2009

Sounds like he is one of these guys that just doesn't do much/anything for your special days! That sucks. Esp when you give him clues and ideas. Just inconsiderate really. I guess if it only happened once I would say forget it. But the fact that it keeps happening...he's not going to change so I would be a b**** and not do a damn thing for him on his bday. I know it will be hard cause you are not that kind of person, but maybe he will learn his lesson. Good luck and let us know what you decide!

daisies0406 · August 2009

See I would do all the nice things, but making sure to be a snarky wench at the same time...maybe saying something like,"you sure are a lucky guy to have a wife to work so hard for YOUR birthday"....or something to that extent...make him feel bad for your birthday shinanigans! I'm passive aggressive that way...

MnM7608 · August 2009

I would do what you were planning...it's better for you in the long run. ?My DH is the same. ?He doesn't get me what I want unless I specifically point it out and tell him where to get it...no effort or creativity on his part. ?He'll remember that you do nice things for him though, and he'll love you for it.

JLS0320 · August 2009

DH was HORRIBLE on mothers day, I cried the entire day, but I was nice to him on Fathers day. He would have cared less though had I done nothing. I would go forward w/ being nice to him on his bday