Another Smoking Issue

YummyMummy13

After reading the post about the smoking babysitter I thought I would ask for your opinions. My parents both smoked (and have for like 40-45 years each-sick, i know). They don't smoke around LOs but all the new findings about third hand smoke freaks me out. They smoke in their home, but obviously not when we're there. They have babysat twice, once here and once at their house (which I was apprehensive about) I've said something a few times about it and my mother just says that she doesn't "believe in 3rd hand smoke" whatever that means. They won't stop smoking in their house, and they live close so we tend to spend a lot of time there. They are also kind of weird about coming to our house because they are home bodies, and then I still have the issue of the smoke on their clothes. I wouldn't be too concerned if it was a distant relative but the fact that they spend so much time with LO concerns me. I'm really worried about what to do when he starts crawling, so we just keep him away from their house? Is that fair? They say that we can't ask them to not smoke in their own house. Help!

kellielee08

I understand that must be hard because it's your parents. We have the same issue with my SIL. However my job is not to please them, it's to protect and take care of my son. I will not bring him to her house, bottom line. If they have a problem with it oh well, you are more than welcome to come to my house.

HockeyWife4Life

I personally hate the smell of smoke so much and wouldn't want to subject my LO to third hand smoke.  If it were me, I wouldn't bring LO over there. I would tell them how I felt and my reasoning why.  Maybe then they would stop smoking in their house.  If not, they can still visit you at your house.

TexasLadyBug

Personally, if they smoke in their house I would not go over there. Smoke gets into everything. I remember helping my best friends mom paint back when I was in 6th grade. She and her husband were inside smokers. We painted the white walls with a new coat of white and as soon as we rolled the new white paint on the wall the walls looked yellow from all the smoke.?

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You can not control how often or where your parents smoke (unless they come to your house which is smoke free). Just keep in mind that your LO can not get up and walk away when the smoke is bothering them, you have to do that for them that is your job as a parent.?

RandZB

We won't bring DS to my MIL's house because she smokes inside.  If I smell smoke on her or FIL, they can't hold DS.  You make the choice to smoke, you deal with the consequences.  I've made myself very clear on this, and so far they have fallen in line.  Can't wait for that first big standoff, though. 

rrodgers803

DD still hasn't been to IL's house for that, and other reasons but that being the main one. We don't take her to anyones house that they smoke it. If they want to see her, they are more than welcome to come to our house.