Dear Joe: "Are you messing around with me tonight?"

Jodi&Joe

is NOT a turn on.  Why must you always ruin it and how many times do I have to tell you "if you have to ask, the answer is NO!"  You will KNOW if I am "messing around with you."  I promise, it will be obvious.  So yes, while I am a control freak, I do appreciate a bit of spontaneity every now and then and for the love of God, PLEASE stop asking me every night if I am going to mess around with you!

Thank you kindly!

Your uninterested wife,

Jodi

magnoliablossom

I could have written this post.  In fact, I have been thinking about bringing up this subject a couple of times over the last few days.  Dh has even said that in front of our friends before.  I was mortified. 

Does Joe also randomly come over and grope you?  Or turn everything into a sexual inuendo?  I swear my dh has evolved into a 12 yo boy. 

It would be nice to be seduced for a change or have a romantic interlude vs. the ol' brace yourself moment.  I swear he wasn't this bad before the engagement and marriage, or we wouldn't have lasted.  It is a HUGE turnoff and I can't get that into his thick skull!

Jodi&Joe

I wish I could say Joe hasn't always been like this but I don't know.  *I* haven't always been like this.  Pre-kids, I was a lot more sexually active! 

At any rate, YES, he gropes.  And yes, everything is about sex.  He calls me AT LEAST 3 times a day and starts every conversation with "I'm going to rock your ass tonight!"  Um, sure.  I'm horny! 

I've actually come to accept it, most of the time.  There are still times though where it annoys me to the core.  Tonight is one of those nights.  So he is in there waiting for me to come to bed so we can have sex.  I'm in the kitchen, nesting.

Oh, and it can't "just be sex" --- it has to be pornariffic sex.  *rolling eyes* God, I type this stuff out and it makes me sick to my stomach!

magnoliablossom

Jodi&Joe:

I wish I could say Joe hasn't always been like this but I don't know.  *I* haven't always been like this.  Pre-kids, I was a lot more sexually active! 

At any rate, YES, he gropes.  And yes, everything is about sex.  He calls me AT LEAST 3 times a day and starts every conversation with "I'm going to rock your ass tonight!"  Um, sure.  I'm horny! 

I've actually come to accept it, most of the time.  There are still times though where it annoys me to the core.  Tonight is one of those nights.  So he is in there waiting for me to come to bed so we can have sex.  I'm in the kitchen, nesting.

Oh, and it can't "just be sex" --- it has to be pornariffic sex.  *rolling eyes* God, I type this stuff out and it makes me sick to my stomach!

I wasn't always like this either.  Kids and sleep schedules have really put a damper on my libido. 

I swear we are married to the same man, only my dh is back at work and won't come to bed until I have been in bed for at least 2 hours.  He will rudely wake me up and be pissed when I tell him I am too tired and leave me alone.  In the morning he waits until about 5 minutes before he knows I need to get out of bed to "bring it on" and he gets mad that I tell him he needs to hurry so I can get the kids up and out the door.  I keep telling him that if he wants it, he needs to come to bed when I do, but to no avail. 

Oh and he wants porn sex too. 

I really want a vacation without the family.  I think it would really help to know that I can take care of me for a change instead of someone always wanting/needing something from me on all fronts. 

Jodi&Joe

"I really want a vacation without the family.  I think it would really help to know that I can take care of me for a change instead of someone always wanting/needing something from me on all fronts."

Any way you could take a weekend and go to a hotel or something?  Just to reconnect with yourself? 

I have really enjoyed this summer with the kids without Joe.  Don't get me wrong, I miss him on the nights he isn't there --- but actually, I think that's what I needed.

It must be time to go back to the beach house.  Been home for a week and he's annoying me again! 

4Speedy

On a similar note, here's a thread you might find amusing:

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/20256718.aspx

magnoliablossom

I actually plan on doing just that.  I am waiting for my mom and dad to be able to come to visit first.  I will call them tomorrow to see if they can come soon.  I had originally planned on doing it last weekend, but it didn't work out.  DH is self employed so if his schedule will allow it, I hope to go within the next 3 weeks. 

DH works from home, so I see him off and on all day long.  I love him, but I really wish he would leave for a while so I could miss him for a change. 

The beach house sounds great.  Enjoy!

 

jorie

4Speedy:

On a similar note, here's a thread you might find amusing:

https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/20256718.aspx

OMG, hilarious!

hmckeown

I think all 3 of us are married to the same man!!

I could have written this post Jodi!