Since I don't dare post on AP yet...

SWBs Wifey

Question...

We plan on rooming in, but hope to avoid bed sharing.  (DH is very adamantly against it in our house.)  Since we're moving in January, it makes sense TO ME, to at least keep LO in our room until we move, so that we don't have to first adjust to him sleeping in his own room and then into a whole new house.  Thoughts?  DH doesn't think we'll be rooming in at 4 months... but this is the same man who only recently realized why I won't let my child CIO at 6 weeks old... it just takes a little education to get him onto my side.  (And speaking of- guess who finally agreed that his mommy doesn't have to be in the delivery room!  OR visit us in our first few hours together as a family of THREE!  VICTORY for SWBs!)

aspade

Is the AP board working today?

I think your DH is in for a lot of "adjustments" to his current thinking, once there is an actual baby there and you're both faced with sleeping peacefully together as a family or getting little sleep and having to get up for work the next morning.  We are also planning to move soon, though who knows exactly when, and we have no nursery.  Even with a commitment ahead of time to co-sleep with DD in her own cradle next to the bed, we still end up bringing her into bed with us every night--and probably will for some time.  Especially if you're planning to BF, it's waaaaaay easier to side-lie nurse and catch some zzz's.

Anyway, I think it's perfectly fine to have your LO co-sleep and then adjust to a new room in a new house, if that's what feels right for your family.

emlady

Keep him in your room or have one night of your DH bringing him in to you from another room.  We never did that, but if we did I'm fairly positive we would have been bed sharing by the end of the first night.  If he's like my husband, he'll realize it's easier and we all sleep more. 

ErinMSB

FWIW, we're still cosleeping/bed sharing and just now starting to talk about moving DD to her own room.  It's worked well for all three of us so far.

I agree that your DH might completely change his mind about a lot of things once there's actually a tiny little baby in your house.  Mine definitely did!

 

Lotte134

I think this is one of those things you can't really plan.  It totally depends on the LO.  We never bed-shared, but planned to co-sleep for several months.  At about 8 weeks I realized that we were actually waking DS up throughout the night plus he had a hard time settling in our presence - he just wanted to be awake and to interact with us so badly when we were around.  We moved him into the crib in his own room at that point and we all slept better.  But a lot of people will tell you the opposite worked for them - anyway I would just play it by ear and see what works best for your family and I'm sure your DH will come around on whatever that is.  I know mine is always very concerned with helping me get as much sleep as possible since, as a nursing mother, that isn't always easy.

aldyn

I never thought we'd cosleep, but that's what we ended up doing for the first couple of months.  We transitioned her to her crib at around 10 weeks and it's gone well so far.  We have this separate room that's part of our master bedroom (real estate folks would refer to it as a "retreat") and that room works perfectly for a nursery.  We haven't moved the crib or dresser out of that room yet into her own separate room & I'm not sure when we will as it's really convenient having her in there.

luvlieK

lol it is a bunch of people trying to one up each other, isn't it?

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we kind of did things backwards and they really worked for us. ?he might come around. ?Do what you believe is right.?