Does this sound reasonable?

AnnaBananaBelle

DD's appointment for her VCUG and ultrasound is at 12:00 tomorrow.  You have to be there by 11:45 for registration at the hospital.  It is a 45 minute drive assuming no traffic or incidents.  We have had this scheduled for 2 weeks, DH said it'd be no problem for him to get off work and come.  Today he tells me he has a 9-10 meeting tomorrow and he'll leave right after and get home in time.  It normally takes him 45 mins to an hour each way to get to work.  Since it'll be after 10, the traffic will be better, but still.  Am I unreasonable to think he won't get home in time?  If he's not here at 10:45 at the latest (though I'd prefer to leave earlier) I'm leaving without him.  No way am I going to be late to this appointment.  If he's not with me I'll be so upset.

andrealynn0707

Can he meet you at the hospital instead? Obviously I don't know about the locations of all these places, but would it help to have him cut out coming home first?

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Is it easier for him to just meet you there or is it the wrong direction?

Your hubs sounds like mine with his inability to realistically estimate getting somewhere on time.  

AnnaBananaBelle

ArmyQM:

Is it easier for him to just meet you there or is it the wrong direction?

Your hubs sounds like mine with his inability to realistically estimate getting somewhere on time.  

It would probably be a little quicker for him to not come home first, but I really wanted to go together esp if she's fussy on the way home.  So, I could suggest that, I am just being stubborn.

The funny thing is usually he's Mr. Punctual.  He's just trying to please people at work and hope it works out.  To me that feels like his top priority is work, not Allison.  

andrealynn0707

I completely understand why you want him with you and how you feel. My DH would do the same thing, with wanting to please everyone. I would be the same way as you, especially since I would probably be a little amped up over the test as it is. 

My (unsolicited) advice to you is to do whatever it is that will work the best for tomorrow, even if that means meeting separately. I would definitely discuss with him how you feel, though. Maybe the meeting can be moved or someone else can go in his stead. 

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AnnaBananaBelle:

  He's just trying to please people at work and hope it works out.  To me that feels like his top priority is work, not Allison.  

Oh I know how this goes all too well!!! 

luvlieK

I would tell him to meet you there. ?I don't think he would make it back to you buy 10:45 and you would both be upset. ?I would also leave your house earlier than 10:45, just to be safe. ?

Teacher_2_b_in_3

How ironic....Abby has her VCUG tomorrow too, except ours is at UVA.  She'll probably be exhausted on the way home from all of the crying.  Abby screams herself into oblivion.  I'm not trying to scare you, just being honest.

Teacher_2_b_in_3

I should also add that my dh often does the same thing, so from now on, he just has to take the whole day because I cannot deal with him choosing work over Abby.  Now there is no question about it.