Poll - Changing OBs after a m/c

priya&peter

So ladies, a few people have mentioned changing OBs and it got me wondering about your experiences.  I have been toying with the idea of changing mine but I am a bit heistant since I feel my current one knows my history and I'm worried I want to change not because she was a bad doctor but because I had a bad result.  So tell me, after your m/c, did you think about changing ob's?  If so, why and did you actually do it?  I'd like to use some of your insights for another piece I'm thinking about.

DereKim

im keeping my ob. hes great and knows my history. i do not blame him for anything...that would be crazy but some girls didnt have a good experience with their dr's.

samm1983

I changed after my second miscarriage.  I felt that my first OB was not there for the women who had complications and only really wanted to deal with women that had no problems.  There were several problems and I was very happy that I switched to a new OB.  I was only with OB #2 for one pregnancy and then switched to an RE, but that was just because I felt I needed to take the next step.  It was no big deal to switch, I just got my records and moved on over.  For me, it was a good decision.  GL.

Kel&Jay

My doctors are awesome awesome awesome.  They, and most of their staff, were amazingly supportive during our loss.  Also, both of them seemed just as interested as I was in finding out why this happened...again.

I didn't even consider changing doctors.

vkbaby09

I too am toying with the possibility of changing obs.  I'll let you know later after my f/u appt what my thoughts are.  A lot is riding on that.

KellyMichelle

I changed.  I felt like my doc wasn't proactive and she didn't listen to me.  I told her that I felt like something wasn't right and she ignored me.  She also didn't give me the Rhogam shot (I am RH neg) until several weeks after my m/c when I asked about it for the millionth time.  When I switched docs the new one said that I probably m/c because of low progesterone.  That could have been caught.  Really the main reason I switched was because I wanted a doctor that I trusted and it wasn't her.

KAG30

I am keeping my OB. There was nothing I feel they could have done differently and she and my midwife were so supportive after I lost the girls. They both came to the hospital to see me - my DR wasn't on call that day it was another DR that delivered the girls. They both called me the next week also to see how I was doing.

Kristiep1971

I just went in for my d&c today and already have an appointment next month with a new dr. My current dr didn't even want to talk to me on Sat. when I called to speak to her. I had been told by their office the day before to go to the ER to get checked out when they could have seen me in the office and then she sounded po'd that I made a fuss and wanted to speak to her. This was my first pregnancy and miscarriage and had no idea what to expect and needed a little reassurance from her. Needless to say I feel like I was treated very badly. The other dr in the practice thankfully did the d&c and he was very nice but I will not stay where patients are dismissed the way I was.

KateAndMark

I changed OB's but only because I went and get my medical records and found out I had a perigestational hemorrhage, a sack of fluid, and several other problems with my pregnancy that he never told me about. Also, I was alway rushed in and out and I was not a fan of that.

I went and had a consultation with a new OB and loved her. She took time to go over all of my records and said she will do everything in her power to make sure I have a healthy pregnancy this next time around.

GL with your decision.

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That is a good site to go to in order to read reviews on a Dr. you are looking into going to.

meggiejo

I wanted to change OBs after my 1st m/c because they weren't very interested in finding a cause, they just said "these things happen".  With this loss I was only able to schedule appts. with the nurse because all of the doctors were booked- my 1st appt. with a doctor would have been in November.  I just don't like how busy they are.  My biggest complaint though is when this loss was discovered I asked about RPL testing and was told they didn't consider me a candidate yet since I had ONLY had two losses and that "sometimes these things just happen twice."  That was just not the answer I was looking for.  It isn't that hard for them to order some bloodwork and call with results and it would ease my piece of mind. What if there is a reason as to why "these things just happen."

LMichelleG

I am changing Doctors! I have an appointment with the new Dr. on Aug. 17 and I'm really looking forward to it. The practice she works for has 8 doctors, all of which handle high risk patients.

My experience with my OB was ok, but it was just the overall experience and how my case was handled. I just felt the her office, as a whole, handled things very unsympathetically nor were they pro-active about anything. My Dr. would send me in for tests but never give me results. Then, when I asked her questions she'd give me vague answers that I ended up having to find the real answers to from my regular Dr. and the internet (lame). I explained all of this to the new Doctors office and let them know whichever Dr. they assign me to, I need one who can give me straight answers to questions.

All in all my original Dr. is a nice person and I never had problems with her or her office before. I got the feeling the whole m/c thing was not something they dealt with enough to show some sensitivity. It is probably a great practice for those with successful pregnancies.

Holanchi

I'm planning on staying with mine if I get pg again since they know my history.  I already see a RE for fertility assistance, so I don't need to go back to the OB until I actually get a bfp. 

I'm actually a little concerned, because our company is switching insurance carriers in January...and as of right now, my OB / hospital is not on the "in network" list.  I petitioned HR to have them added...I'm just hoping they do get added so that I don't have to find someone new.

Cow-girl

I did change OB's after my losses, but there were lots of complications. They told me that there was nothing wrong when I was having problems and after I lost the baby they told me that they knew it was a "threatened abortion" and that they just didnt want to tell me and worry me.  WTH?  I also had never seen the high risk dr only the nurse practicioner, and I was high risk. 

It was a big mess.  I would say change if your dr is neglecting your care, not if you just didnt like the outcome.

Temp700366562504480

I haven't thought about it at all!  My OB's office was great with me going through the whole thing.  I was at a radiology office for my last u/s and they saw me right away in the OB office afterward. I went straight there. 

I would strongly think of why you want to change...if the doctor and the staff are good...???

Tash13

I'm changing OB's after my last follow up (wanted to finish going through this with one and then switch) but he wasn't my regular doctor.  I had moved here only 4-5 weeks before my BFP so I went to a random doctor off of my insurance site.  I feel like he has a cold bedside manner, which I really didn't need going through my ectopic pregnancy and surgery. He doesn't take the time to explain things to me, rushes me in and out and dismisses the things I tell him.  When I went in the first time I already knew I was pregnant and bleeding, I obviously didn't know that this was going to end up in the er.  He brought me into his office, told me it's ectopic and asked if I knew what that was (I said yes) and told me I needed to go directly to the ER for either a shot or surgery.  I started crying and asked if there was a way somebody could contact my husband since my cell wasn't getting service there.  He didn't even look up from making his notes, told me to ask the nurse to use the phone and for directions to the ER when I checked out and told me he'd see me at the follow up.  No thank you.

vkbaby09

After my really good f/u appt today w/ my ob (see post), I plan on staying with her.  I am, however, going to try very hard in any subsequent pg to only schedule my appts w/ her.  During this last pg I was pretty much seeing a diff dr from the practice each time and think that the continuity of care could have been better (I was still satisfied though that I was having good care - I was being seen by both the obs and peris).