I wish everyohe at work knew what happened

KAG30

I was just on a conference call and someone asked me how the babies were.  I just sat there speechless for a second.  I told her I lost them, and she asked what happened...um I really don't want to talk about it on a conference call with a lot of random people I don't know and a lot of higer ups at the company on the call!!!!!

I was supposed to be on maternity leave until October so you would think people would realize something happened if I am already back at work. 

monica92603

Sorry you had to deal w/ that.  It sucks and no one should have it happen to them. 

I hope by the time I get back, everyone knows.  My region is pretty big so chances are not everyone will know (unless HR sent out an email telling what happened which they are known to do when someone passes away and I'm hoping for but it won't mean they all read it)

I know my 2 direct teams will know so that is good but some of my customers might not.  I'm hoping my teams have really really big mouths and tell all my customers so no one will ask how the baby is.

Leah11599

Uh... I'm sorry to hear about your situation this morning and I'm sorry about your loss. When I lost my baby I called a close friend at work and asked her to spread the word so that when I got back I wouldn't have any questions.  Not sure if that would help you out, especially since your already back. Hope you have a better day! 

Holanchi

That was really awkward of her to ask what happened...not really the place for that... 

I emailed my boss and my HR person right after I lost the babies and told them that I didn't mind if they spread the word, but that I didn't want anyone to ask me about it when I got back.  I found out from a friend that they went around to all the managers and told them to pass the word as necessary.

 Hopefully that will work.  I go back to the office next week.  I know there are still going to be some people that mean well but won't think that the "don't talk about it" applies to them.  But I think I can handle one or two people. I just didn't want everyone asking about it.

KAG30

The weird thing was yesterday someone came by to talk to me and she started crying talking about it and I didn't....  She told me that they had been trying for years and hadn't been able to get pregnant.  It is amazing that everyone feels that they can open up to you about their pregnancy issues after something like this happens to you. 

Amanda78

I'm sorry both of those things happened to you! Everyone knows at my work-and my amazing boss told them to not bring things up with me.  But yet a few women feel that I want to hear about their mc experiences and the children they've been able to have since-which is just too hard right now.

vkbaby09

Wow - I'm so sorry you had to deal with that today!  Hopefully people will be more tactful and not say anything anymore and that women will stop coming up to tell you their "success" stories. 

priya&peter

I have conference calls all the time and I can't imagine how I would have handled it if my m/c came up on one of them.  I know how hard it is when people know you were pregnant.  It definitely made em wish I hadn't told me so quickly I was pregnant.  On the other hand, I was really glad that my boss knew because I found out the day I was supposed to go to NY on a business trip and it wuold have been awful having to try to explain why I wasn't going to be showing up at the airport in 2 hours if they didn't already know I was pregnant.  (((hugs)))