Mini-Vent: My mom faults me for being "too safe."

KittenGator

DH and I are very careful about protecting the house, especially after the rash of home invasions that have been happening in the area lately. Whenever she or my dad find a door locked or a window closed that they deem "overboard" they say "are you guys really that afraid of this area?"

For example: our house has a ground floor window that leads into the garage. The garage is attached to the house and the door from the garage connecting the house is right by our bedroom door. We prefer to keep it locked at night. They think this is ridiculous. My parents' last house was broken into through this same kind of window!

You'd think, of all people, they'd understand how paranoid being a parent makes you about the safety of your LO. I'm thankful that they're letting us live here while we find a job/ a better job but it almost seems like they're ridiculing us for being safe. If someone broke in, my DH would be the one that would have to defend the house (he's 5'9, 220 and muscle-bound). Not me, not my 63 y/o father, DH.

Vent over, thanks for listening.?

lmdbww

"too safe"? That's called normal. lol

My parents are the same way though. They lol'd when we said we were putting a home alarm in. Even after our cars got broken into 3 times (that we are aware of).

meggiekins

I don't think you can really be too safe about that kind of thing. We live in a tiny tiny town, and cops patrol our street regularly, and we still close and lock every window and door at night.

It's not like it's a big inconvenience to unlock a window if you want to open it. It seems like a silly thing for them to harass you about.

LoriFalce

If that's the kind of neighborhood you live in, no, I don't think you're going overboard.

Now, in my area, we have to consciously remember to CLOSE the front door before we go to bed. I don't think we've locked it three times since we've lived here. Even when we have gone out of town, we've had my sister/friend/etc. coming over to do stuff, so we just left the place unlocked.

KittenGator

meggiekins:

It's not like it's a big inconvenience to unlock a window if you want to open it. It seems like a silly thing for them to harass you about.

I completely agree!

Today my mom pulled into the garage and found the door was locked. Inconvenient, yes, but it was an accident. Instead of going out the garage door and in the front door, she stayed there and pounded on the connecting door until I came and let her in. Living at home is really frustrating for many reasons but my parents' stubbornness is one of them.

Example- growing up, my room was significantly colder than the rest of the house. They kept telling me it was not, I had blocked the vents etc. When I moved out, that room became my dad's office and he finally told me I was right, it is significantly colder than the rest of the house. I bet if someone (God forbid) broke in and DH had to handle them, they still wouldn't realize it needs to be locked, until my dad or mom has to handle them. Their stubbornness drives me crazy. Ignoring problems doesn't make them go away.

KittenGator

LoriFalce:

If that's the kind of neighborhood you live in, no, I don't think you're going overboard.

Now, in my area, we have to consciously remember to CLOSE the front door before we go to bed. I don't think we've locked it three times since we've lived here. Even when we have gone out of town, we've had my sister/friend/etc. coming over to do stuff, so we just left the place unlocked.

This is the second time I've realized that I need to go and live in your neighborhood.?

Daisy77

I call it "better safe than sorry".  We live in the boondocks and still lock all the doors at night.  Our windows are locked so DS doesn't open them.  It's quite a drop from the main floor windows to the ground below and it would take seconds for DD#2 to fall through the screen. 

KittenGator

Daisy77:

I call it "better safe than sorry".? We live in the boondocks and still lock all the doors at night. ?

Me too, and when I tell them this they say "well you're going overboard." I use the excuse "DH grew up around crackheads so he knows how desperate people can get. I frankly can't blame him."

Ugh, I'm 26 and since I have been living at home I've felt 16. I'm glad we have somewhere to live, but we all drive each other crazy at times.