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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
I judged SO much today!
I started back at work at Target part-time.I was so bad at judging today...
First, there was a little boy about one who was upset and crying and the Mom was screaming at him saying, "You are a bad boy, such a bad boy. No dinner for you".
Then, a little boy wanted to look at the video games (around 4 years old maybe?) and the Mom told him, "No, you are not a good boy and you are being punished." Then she proceeded to GUSH over her other little boy who was around 2 saying, "Now you are SUCH a good boy. You can get whatever you want."
The third thing was a little girl who got sick and threw up EVERYWHERE. On the floor, on the cart, on her Mom, on the merchandise. The Mom was SO mad at her and was yelling at her. This little girl was clearly sick and miserable, so I went up to the Mom and said there is a bathroom, you should go there, etc." The little girl was still crying and throwing up and the Mom just kept saying, "This is disgusting, what is wrong with you?"
Oh, and then I had to clean it all up. All the other employees were gagging big time. I think 18 months ago I would have too, but it's funny what becoming a Mom will do to you!
My thing is I defintely do not want to tell DS he is a "bad" boy. I forget what book I read it in, but they say you shouldn't say they are "bad" because they might start to think they always are. I just couldn't believe how many parents I heard today telling their children they were "bad" little boys and girls. 
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Re: I judged SO much today!
OMFG. And this is why kids are messed up and I could not teach for more than a few years. The kids are awesome--the parents suck. I especially feel bad for the sick little girl, though. I cannot imagine feeling so awful and having a mom who shows no compassion. Yeah--it's gross. But it's the employees you would expect to be verbal about being grossed out--not the mom. I understand it's nasty, but it's your child and they need you. Ugh.
Sorry you had to witness all of that today:o(
I totally judged these two moms in Target yesterday. The one kept yelling at the little girl, who was maybe 3, "Are you going to get in the cart, or am I going to have to smack you?!" I wanted to punch her. Then, on the other side of the store, another mom said to her 3-3.5 year old son, "I'm going to start putting you in dresses." When he asked her why, she said, "Because you're such a whiny little girl. Knock it off!". I wanted to punch her too.
Then last night I was in the dressing room at Ross. There was a little girl (she sounded about 2.5) who was so clearly exhausted and was crying her eyes out. The mom kept yelling at her to shut up. This went on for 10 straight minutes. The little girl was getting so worked up, she sarted coughing and then gagging. I wanted to bang on the dressing room door and tell the mother that she needs to get her priorities in order. Instead of trying on clothes @ 8:00pm, get home so your poor daughter can go to bed.
It was really hard for me not to say anything in each of these instances. I wanted to tell each one of them that they should be ashamed of themselves. Even on my worst day, I wouldn't speak to Ben like this.
Ah yes, I forgot about the Mom today who kept telling her kids if they didn't stop whining, then they were going to get smacked or "worse." Um, worse?
How could I forget that?
Yeah, I'm there tomorrow so I really hope it's better. Makes me so sad.
It must be "Be A Shiity Parent" week and we all missed the memo.
But seriously, it makes me sick how I seem some children treated by their parents. I want to say, "Why did you even bother to have them if you're going to treat/talk to them like that?". It also makes me really sad for the kids.
Hopefully, tomorrow's a better day.
I agree, this attitude bugs me! Satan Barbie was really hard on my DH as a child and it really hurt him. He wasn't the easiest kid but now as an adult DH always says he just wanted to be loved and get attention.
My parents never told me I was bad, rather they really tried to tell me how good I was when I was doing good. This really helped me as a child want to do good. I've already noticed how well Harmon feeds off this positive attention and so I strive to do it. It is hard though, and I'm not perfect.
My husband, too! ?
It's amazing how well children - even toddlers - respond to positive reinforcement. ?I'm not perfect and I do, at times, yell and feel bad about it, but I try to focus on the good!
Sometimes I just want to tell parents that their kids aren't making them miserable - they are making THEMSELVES miserable by acting so awful and negative!?
ITA with this. When DS is driving me up the wall, I just stop, take a deep breath and remind myself that he's a baby, and this is going to happen. How I react to the situation is what is going to determine how it turns out. I don't see how screaming at your kid that he's bad or threatening to "beat their ass" (or actually doing it) helps anything.
Yeah, whenever I go to Wal Mart I feel like parent of the year.
It seems I always see a parent yelling at their child inappropriately, threatening to "whup thier a$$" and so on. I even saw a mom put her baby (looked about 10mo) into a car w/o a carset (just belted in the back seat).
I see this all the time as well. It breaks my heart.
We will never tell DD that she is "bad" or "being bad". Our friends little boy came home from daycare one day, had an accident in his underwear, and then started crying something terrible. My friend asked him what was wrong and he said that he was a "bad" boy and asked her if she still liked him.
Turns out their daycare lady had been telling him that he was bad and that people don't like little boys that have accidents.
Needless to say, they switched daycares.