Is anyone else dealing w/people's gender comments?

BoSoxbride

I called my grandmother recently to tell her I'm pg, and the first words out of her mouth were, "I hope it's a girl." Granted I have 2 boys, so people must assume that we want a girl. But we really don't care. Several friends have said the same thing. Won't they feel a little badly if it's a boy after making these comments?

BabyBowensMommy

My grandmother really wanted our little boy to be a girl. I finally got sick of hearing it...and i told her I can't see my little boy any other way. People need to keep those comments to themselves for sure!

getnmarried910

My MIL always wants us to have girls.  I think she'd have been perfectly happy if we had a house full of girls and no boys.  If that would have happened, we would have been fine with it just as we would if we had a house full of boys, but I can't believe she'd say something about it.  When I was pregnant with DD, we asked people to guess the sex.  She said  "I think it's a boy, and I've never been wrong.  I really hope I am this time because I don't want a boy, I want a girl."  She also thought DS was going to be a girl.  For someone who is never wrong, she has been wrong twice.  It was very hurtful to us.  What if we had a boy then?  Would she have been disappointed and acted like it? 

I think it would be ok if you guys did want a girl because that's pretty normal, but I also think it's great you don't have a preference.  I think it is really rude of people to make comments like that.

Brina Bean

I would much rather someone ask if we have a preference than to assume we do and make a comment like that.  I have no preference, DH would like a girl...and well, the "healthy baby" part is assumed.  Obviously, that's what we're truly hoping for.

JessikaLyn

I had my big u/s yesterday and found out we're having a boy and the FI and I are both excited. I went over to my mom's to tell her and I decided I would just hand her the photos so she could see for herself and she says: "That can't be right! Are they sure? I don't do boys!" My family doesn't feel bad when they make asses out of themselves or say inappropriate things so I can't say whether or not yours will. I hope they come around, though!

CKLee1107

nearly the 1st words out of MIL's mouth were along the lines of 'oh,...I hope its a girl'  for a second I was a little shocked/hurt that this was the response we got telling her we were expecting even though I do hope for a girl (mostly because I know all the operating systems that come w/ a girl..) but I realized almost instantly that her only daughter is 26/27 this year and has two sons, the only grandkids right now...she had 3 boys after her girl, 24(DH), 16, and 10(?) this year also....so I knew more than anything she wants to spoil a little girl in frilly pink things...she will be thrilled w/ any grandchild but the comment struck a little painfully either way...

otherwise we have been lucky to have excited family and friends w/ no overt comments about what they want us to have....1st grandkid/great grandkid on my side and just a new baby for DH's side gonna have lots of cousins on that side...

qtjess1110

I hate it. My mil was just here visiting telling me she is sure we are having a girl. She has said this from the first day We told her I was expecting a baby its extremely annoying.

krissyh21

My mother wanted a girl because she already has 2 grandsons from my sister. I was afraid to call her when we found out it was a boy. She did say she was happy for me, but I feel like I disappointed her, even though I am thrilled for myself. Then I called my sister and she said "guess I won't get to buy dresses for anyone" Well gee thanks!

Yes, I wish people would keep their comments to themselves.

NewYear2004

People seemed totally shocked that we wouldn't try to have a third child to get a boy.  Most say, "doesn't your husband want a boy?"

Um, no.  We actually both wanted another girl. Not every man needs a son to be complete.

shorttstuff

My MIL has been telling me since the day we told her I was pg that I was having a girl and that she is never wrong. She been telling me this every single weekend we see her and I think I'm going to go out of my mind. The same with my SILs and nieces. I understand a little why they are wanting a girl so badly as out of the 5 grandkids so far the last 3 have been boys and it has been 10 years since there was a little girl they could dress up, but I'm going to go nuts when I don't even know yet and they try to tell me they KNOW what I'm having.

Truthfully, I would like a little boy (at least for the first), but I will be happy with a little girl too.

can't wait

No, they wont feel bad, they'll just be proven wrong in the end. Everyone kept asking What do you want? and of course i want a healthy baby so i'd always say a girl (cuz i always thought my firs would be a girl) then they would say well it doesnt' matter as long as the baby healthy..... I wasnt aware that it was a trick question! that drove me insane... Getting closer to find out the sex I felt like baby was a boy and i was right so everyone who guessed girl just said well its okay we just want a healthy baby. Specially mil she kept telling to stop refering to baby as him and i said why she said cause thats my baby girl. WRONG. Now she says she never cared what the sex was just wanted baby to be healthy.... sometimes people are soo annoying... sorry now i'm just venting

Temp6313048411121614

We'll have 3 boys.  I told a friend in an e-mail and she actually apologized that we're not having a girl.  DH and I were actually hoping that at least 1 twin would be a boy (at least, meaning 1 or both!) and I told her that.  I love my DS and couldn't imagine having a girl instead of him.  Sure I'm disappointed for SOME things (like not getting to take my DD prom dress shopping or wedding dress shopping), but I'm so excited about raising (ok that's a lie, I don't want them to ever grow up) my boys.  I can't wait to see them play little league or football, or some other non-sport male dominated activity.  I hate how people act like my life will be incomplete without a girl. 

JaysonandKristin

I got a God damm!t from my MIL. ?She has 2 grandsons already, and she really had her hopes up that this one would be a girl. ?She's totally thrilled now, but it kinda took me back to when DH and I were engaged and I showed her a picture of my wedding gown. ?She asked, "You like that, eh?" ?She still gets crap from me about that one. ?She'll never live down the disappointment that escaped her lips when she found out we're having a boy!

alsteach

Yes. MIL said when we told her the news said, "better start buying pink".  It's just annoying now.

fiftysixty

Yeah- It's frustrating. People (especially DH's family) ask if we want a boy or a girl. We say we're hoping for a girl, but as long as it's healthy we don't care. Then they say "Oh, that's too bad, since you're having a boy."

They can get really aggressive about it- I told DH that really... they need to chill. How crap will they feel if it's a girl? I mean, they basically DEMANDED a boy, and mocked me for hoping for a girl. Then, if they are right, which at 50/50 odds, it's not some magical insight, it was a coin toss... But if they are right, so what? They get to say "I told you so?" Who cares? 

 My mother in law started on it this afternoon when we took her to dinner, but I think the look on my face made it pretty clear I was sick of that topic, so she dropped it like a hot rock.  

icybubbles85

i had some random old lady at church get right in my face wednesday night and say, "well i hope the next one is a girl...i know you really wanted a girl." i've never met this woman...we weren't even at our regular church! it was like she was apologizing to me or something. weirdo...

Prinycesa07

Yep they are def annoying.  As soon as we told my husbands mom and grandma that i was pregnant all i heard was "It better be a girl!  We want a girl!  I cant wait to meet my little girl!"  Even my mom was hoping for a girl.  When i told her that i thought it was a boy she said "ah well, maybe next time."  WTF?  Luckily for them, i guess, i am having a girl.  His grandma was basically crying tears of joy when we called her after the u/s. 

On the opposite side, after finding out my aunt asked my husband what was wrong with him, why couldn't he make boys?  

 Seriously people, we just wanted a healthy baby.  No need for the dumb comments.

simplyatomic

My mil actually called me and told me I should get the CVS so that we could find out early if it is another girl and I should get an abortion if it is.

We have five girls and will be happy boy or girl as long as our baby is healthy.

Himmy

Can you imagine what I get..... I have 3 boys and am having another.All I can do is make a joke about it.It gets really annoying.I had one lady say," Oh,another boy??? Guess I shouldn't say Congrats.. You can always dress him in pink..". REALLY????? People amaze me..